OP I would:
- ignore everyone telling you to just wait and reduce food further increase exercise
I am personally concerned that such a drastic shift between food at home vs dad’s home may induce an actual eating disorder somewhere down the line.
you said dad had court induced visitation, that is great but he is not putting her well-being first and that needs to be looked into, so maybe GP or there need to step up on this so dad understands healthy eating, portion sizes for children etc.
- Go back to the GP to the GP Pronto. You have gotten excellent advice Re a femal GP and normalising the check-up by saying some puberty check up or whatnot.
- I would ask to be checked for the following: hypothyroidism, cushings, pcos, cysts/fybromas etc (so blood work for cortisol, hormones and a scan is what I’d like to achieve out of this).
if she has grown taller, slimmed down everywhere else, that is your answer that the changes you have made at home have had a massive impact on her. The stomach growth for me is really worrying and I think often people tend to justify health issues and downplay them whenever there is even a slim chance that it is self induced (say poor food choices). This often leads to whatever was treatable quickly to take much longer as it is discovered much later down the line.
here your gut instinct is telling you something isn’t right, so make sure they get to the bottom of this.
also don’t put so much emphasis on diet at dad’s and make the GP come to their own conclusions a sometimes we self sabotaging by doing this.
You MUST be your child’s advocate and ensure the GP listens to your concerns and addresses them. The worst case scenario for the GP is they have examined a child for suspected medical issues and they were luckily not found. There’s no such thing as wasted doctor time, wasted test, pressure in NHS bla bla bla. This is why you pay NI and other taxes, because when you need a doctor and medical care it’s there. So don’t listen to anyone downplaying it.
I read another thread from a lady asking whether she should go to the A&E or not, within the first paragraph I was screaming YESSSSS , STAT!!!
Yet many, many people said no, NHS too busy, go to urgent care, or wait for the GP! She had a medical emergency, a blood clot!!! FFs if she listened to some of the people telling her to wait for the GP she might be dead before seeing them.
I'm not suggesting your daughter has anything like that, but more emphasising about gut feeling.
Good luck OP.m to you and your daughter.
if you can, keep up posted