To walk away from my MIL when she does this

[Fluttershyy]

So my MIL is a bit of an odd one and doesn’t take no for an answer, as in she just goes on and on and on and on and only tends to get the point when someone looses their rag with her (DH).

2 things this week that she just gone on and on and on about, the most trivial is the one I’ll share here because I just don’t get why she does it

made cheesy veg muffins for my kids (toddler and pre schooler so young). They came out well if I say so myself and were a low effort high yield meal that will do a few lunches and snacks. Great. MIL was over at lunch offered her some, she asked what they were, told her (simple concept right). Then eating them, it was like she was eating rotten fruit, the face on her, she even spat it in the bin and then asked what was in it, explained, then she spent literally the next 5-10 mins disagreeing with me that their primary ingredient was potato, it wasn’t I made them, but it was her hill to die on, she wouldn’t let it go and was insistent they had potatoes in. She doesn’t have a potato allergy or anything she was just insistent they were potato based. In the end I had to say sure whatever walk away. Cue a few hrs later, she brings up the fact I lied that the muffins had potatoes in and proceeded to lecture me how I must have prepped the pots incorrectly and how I must do it instead. I ended up just saying they didn’t have potatoes in and walk away (probably huffily).

what the f is up with that firstly?

Walking away is the best thing to do right, she won’t back down otherwise

She’s not got any mental illness/ degenerative condition. She’s not well educated so some of it is a lack of social graces but it’s just the behaviour of insisting on certain things until someone loses their shit. It’s not a social hint thing it’s a getting your own way thing and it’s driving me batty

Reminds me of the middle-aged man my parents invited round for a meal with his wife, a lovely woman. How she got landed with this twat is a mystery. He once told their son, who was 16 and had landed a good job, that he'd got two tickets for some sporting event on a workday when the lad wouldn't be able to book annual leave, but he wanted them to go together. He told the son to phone in sick. The poor lad did as his Dad told him and lost his job. That gives you some idea of what a numpty this was. Anyway, when they sat down, my Mum said 'Would you like some broccoli?' and this eejit said 'No, it's disgusting, innit!'

I have had someone do this type of thing, insist on something I know not to be true.

Whatever is your go to reply and change the subject.

I refuse to get onto a discussion or argument with them as that is what they are actually after.

MIL would insist things were a certain way when they weren’t.

I used to just say, whatever, and shut that conversation down and change the subject.

How convenient.

I wonder if we know the same twat!?

Might I suggest that you don’t make them then, or if at someone’s house when they’ve made them, don’t ask to eat one considering you have such strong feelings towards them.

hope you find the help you need

I would buy several bags of new potatoes and post an individual potato to her daily until she admitted she was wrong.

This has given me a flashback to a party my parents had many years ago. I’d invited some friends and we were eating crisps. One of them asked if there were any more “Cheese McCoys”. I had no clue what she was talking about. She said “The Cheese McCoys, are there any more?” I realised she meant the crisps and said “Oh, no, they’re not McCoys - they’re from M&S”.

You'd think the follow-up to that would be “Oh; we’ll they’re very nice anyway” or similar. But no. She looks at me like I’m daft and says “No, Stan. They’re Cheese McCoys.” I said again they were from M&S, that I’d spotted them on the shelf and pointed them out to my mother, and that I’d put them in the bowl myself not half an hour before. She still said “Stan, these ARE Cheese McCoys!!!” I was about ready to shove one up her nostril at this point.

The simple truth is that some people simply cannot cope with being wrong. They will accept literally any other explanation, no matter how unlikely, than simply admitting they were mistaken.

@Fluttershyy if it helps, my mother is exactly like this. She will argue until the cows come home that something is a certain way despite all evidence to the contrary. It's incredibly draining and, when I was younger, it would cause enormous arguments because I used to push back against it. Now I just roll my eyes and say "yes yes DM, I'm sure you're right". Then I ring my sister and moan about it. 😂

Please do this, OP 😁😁

He's dead now, I believe. Had to go on sickness benefit in his 40s after hurting his back and managed to parlay that into never working again, while his wife worked at least two jobs and also cared for her elderly mother and helped with looking after her grandchildren. I could feel my blood pressure rising when my parents told me about his latest idiocy.

Amazing how many of them walk amongst us !

You're either a troll or the OPs MIL here to continue the rude and, frankly weird, campaign. You can't help but make a disgusted face when you taste other people's food you don't like? Seriously?!?!? How's that working out for you?

Just show her the recipe.

If a close family member made food that I didn’t like, I’d say it. Life’s too short to eat horrible food for the sake of not upsetting a grown adult who should grow a thicker skin.

He’s neither
He just enjoys being an arse on various threads. Don’t think he’s a huge fan of women generally

It just sounds to me like the OP was being purposely antagonistic towards her MIL, may be just my perception though.

Based on the unfailingly contrary views I've seen from you in various threads, it's definitely your own very unique perception 😂

Would you expect them to argue with you what you'd made it with, though?
Or would you think they were a bit dim, thinking they knew better than the actual chef?

Amazing how many of them walk amongst us !

Yup.

But would you say, repeatedly, that it had potatoes in even when they said it didn’t?

Just laugh and tell her to make them next time then critique them and say something like I can taste washing up liquid are you sure you rinsed your pans properly.

I'm a wind up though

Do people really eat food they hate to spare feelings?! Why?

Just say “I’m sorry I don’t like that, it’s not to my taste”

Are some posters not reading the OP and then posting irrelevant shit on purpose?
It's not that the MIL didn't like the muffins, it's that she insisted they had potatoes in them when they didn't that's the problem!

No, I’d maybe ask if it did if it tasted potatoe-y.