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Apparently I think I am 'King Sh*t'

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Shgytfgtf111 · 16/02/2023 11:34

I got a promotion last year and now manage a team of team leaders. During an argument before my partner said I had changed since getting it and think I am king shit. I genuinely dont think I have changed, I dont think I am better than other people but now I am worried whether thats what other people think too.

I pressed him for what he meant but he just repeated the same thing so now I am actually concerned that other people might think that too. Maybe I have changed? I dont know. I really enjoy my job.

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CrescentMoons · 16/02/2023 11:35

Jealous?

Madamecastafiore · 16/02/2023 11:35

I think you are King Shit enough to realise he's a piece of shit you can do well getting rid of.

Sucessinthenewyear · 16/02/2023 11:35

Do you earn more than him now?

JackiePlace · 16/02/2023 11:35

Tell your husband that if you are King Shit he must be Turd Island.
And take no notice of what jealous colleagues might think.

Axahooxa · 16/02/2023 11:36

Is it possible that he’s jealous and doesn’t like your self-confidence?

Keroppi · 16/02/2023 11:37

Typical jealous boyfriend, do you outearn or rank him now?

Iateallthewotsits · 16/02/2023 11:38

You earn more than him now, right?

Gingernaut · 16/02/2023 11:38

When people are reduced to repeating the same insult/slogan/phrase over again, it means they have no argument.

You're being gaslighted by this twat who sees you as becoming more financially independent, less subservient and more confident in yourself.

Knocking your confidence and leaving you second guessing yourself and looking to him for validation and answers (which aren't going to come, btw) is what he wants.

Maverickess · 16/02/2023 11:40

Maybe your confidence has improved with the new role and you don't put up with as much as you used to from anyone, including him?

gamerchick · 16/02/2023 11:40

You've gained confidence and he feels threatened by your success. Instead of being proud of you like 🙄

HeddaGarbled · 16/02/2023 11:40

This is how people (women as well as men) put successful women down. Be Queen Boss 👑

Thesharkradar · 16/02/2023 11:41

Axahooxa · 16/02/2023 11:36

Is it possible that he’s jealous and doesn’t like your self-confidence?

It's not 'possible' it's 100% certain!
I would use the fact that he obviously is very threatened by the promotion to boost my ego even more, you are now the bee's knees the cat's whiskers and he is sulking because he he can't cope with no longer feeling like top dog!

Thesharkradar · 16/02/2023 11:42

I would start making a plan b just in case he gets worse, do everything that you can to preserve protect and increase your earning potential from now on

KStockHERO · 16/02/2023 11:42

Maybe you have changed but you haven't noticed. Maybe you hold yourself with more confidence. Maybe you exude more gravitas. Maybe you're more charismatic. These would all be perfectly normal consequences of settling into a senior role.

But these are changes (if they have occurred) that your DP should be celebrating with you and praising you for, not knocking you down for.

My bet is that he's jealous and/or threatened by your status, your power, your confidence, your income, and your potential for independence from him.

OoooohMatron · 16/02/2023 11:43

Agree with others. He doesn't like your success so he's trying to put you back in your box. King Shit indeed! I'd make myself a crown and wear it whenever he's around.

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Shgytfgtf111 · 16/02/2023 11:44

Wow, quick responses thank you all so much.

Yes I do earn more than him now (although I did in my previous role slightly) but my confidence has increased ten fold now I think about it.

I wonder if my subconscious thinks 'I wouldnt put up with this at work so I wont at home' and push back more?

Its good to know I am not being weird though and am probably not being king shit to anyone else.

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Shgytfgtf111 · 16/02/2023 11:45

OoooohMatron · 16/02/2023 11:43

Agree with others. He doesn't like your success so he's trying to put you back in your box. King Shit indeed! I'd make myself a crown and wear it whenever he's around.

Ha ha good idea! I like a bit of arts and crafts to be fair. Although the last thing I made someone said it was nice my child helped me with it. I dont have children...

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JudgeRudy · 16/02/2023 11:46

Women marry men thinking they can change them. They can't
Men marry women thinking the won't change. They do

OK bit of an over simplification but yes you probably have changed. Can't say either way if you're a bit King Shit...however your husband is put out that the status quo has been disturbed. Many do this when wives become mothers. Either he'll adjust or he won't, only time will tell. He's not necessarily in the wrong unless he's asking that you halt any personal development and growth. If that's the case I'd rather be single.

pointythings · 16/02/2023 11:47

Yep, you're more confident and you've stopped taking shit from him, and he doesn't like it. Tough, he can like it or lump it. A good partner would be celebrating with you.

Campervangirl · 16/02/2023 11:48

Jealous and now you earn more than him he's hitting on your insecurities.
He's trying to take you down, don't put up with it.
Congratulations on the new role

Twawmyarse2 · 16/02/2023 11:51

I would deffo be ordering a custom T-shirt reading "I am King Shit. Now bow down to me". Or something.

He's an insecure arse, clearly.

illtakeit · 16/02/2023 11:53

Definitely jealous. Be weary of men like this. Be very very weary.

Catspyjamas17 · 16/02/2023 11:57

I'd ask him, "Have you ever thought that maybe I actually am King Shit?"

SpeckledlyHen · 16/02/2023 11:57

illtakeit · 16/02/2023 11:53

Definitely jealous. Be weary of men like this. Be very very weary.

I think you mean wary.

Thelnebriati · 16/02/2023 11:57

You can't win, can you. If you don't earn enough you're a gold digger, earn too much and you're emasculating your partner. Its fucking exhausting trying to keep up with all their rules.