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Apparently I think I am 'King Sh*t'

135 replies

Shgytfgtf111 · 16/02/2023 11:34

I got a promotion last year and now manage a team of team leaders. During an argument before my partner said I had changed since getting it and think I am king shit. I genuinely dont think I have changed, I dont think I am better than other people but now I am worried whether thats what other people think too.

I pressed him for what he meant but he just repeated the same thing so now I am actually concerned that other people might think that too. Maybe I have changed? I dont know. I really enjoy my job.

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ItchyBillco · 16/02/2023 14:16

You are way too good for that threatened, lazy goon, OP. Send him back to his doting mummy.

Get a cleaner and carry on succeeding, without a miserable wheezing buzzkill in the background.

Butchyrestingface · 16/02/2023 14:16

How can you all confidently state that it is jealousy etc etc with 1 side of the story? It isn't beyond the realms of possibility. You might be turning a king shit into a massive super king diarrhoea shit

She might very well be.

But in that case, you'd expect him to be able to back it up with examples when challenged (even if he has to go away and think about it for a while). Not simply repeat the same stupid phrase over and over like it gets any funnier on repetition.

JustAnotherMoan · 16/02/2023 14:17

Shgytfgtf111 · 16/02/2023 13:55

Cant do the dishes/hoovering/whatever due to his bad back
Cant cut the grass due to his hayfever
Cant load the washer as cant bend down due to his back.

You get the idea...

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I bet his bad back doesn't stop him being up for a shag if its on offer though!

determinedtomakethiswork · 16/02/2023 14:20

Why on earth would you stay with someone like this? You are in the prime of your life. Your career is doing well. Yet at home you are not only doing all the work, you are listening to someone who is meant to love you and care for you call you names and try to drag you down. Why are you doing this to yourself?

determinedtomakethiswork · 16/02/2023 14:23

His bad back wouldn't stop him shagging anyone in sight if you left him. Remember that when you're cleaning up his mess.

kingtamponthefurred · 16/02/2023 14:24

Shgytfgtf111 · 16/02/2023 13:55

Cant do the dishes/hoovering/whatever due to his bad back
Cant cut the grass due to his hayfever
Cant load the washer as cant bend down due to his back.

You get the idea...

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I think you deserve someone fitter and healthier and less bone fucking idle

FormerlyPathologicallyHappy · 16/02/2023 14:26

Shgytfgtf111 · 16/02/2023 13:55

Cant do the dishes/hoovering/whatever due to his bad back
Cant cut the grass due to his hayfever
Cant load the washer as cant bend down due to his back.

You get the idea...

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He’s not a team player is he? It’ll be “Can’t make a cup of tea, carpal tunnel” soon.

Biddie191 · 16/02/2023 14:29

Surely you'd be Queen Shit, anyway?
I think a name change is in order 😂
Sounds like he's feeling a little insecure, poor wee dab.

KatherineJaneway · 16/02/2023 14:33

You're probably more confident now and that shows in your home life maybe?

QueenNOTKingShit · 16/02/2023 14:34

Biddie191 · 16/02/2023 14:29

Surely you'd be Queen Shit, anyway?
I think a name change is in order 😂
Sounds like he's feeling a little insecure, poor wee dab.

A name change was indeed in order, I agree so here it is! 😂

Ellie56 · 16/02/2023 14:39

If you're King Shit, he's the arsehole.

And a lazy misogynistic one too. You can do better than him.

ThisNameIsNotAvailable · 16/02/2023 14:40

JackiePlace · 16/02/2023 11:35

Tell your husband that if you are King Shit he must be Turd Island.
And take no notice of what jealous colleagues might think.

I think this is my favourite thing I’ve ever read on here

QueenNOTKingShit · 16/02/2023 14:41

ThisNameIsNotAvailable · 16/02/2023 14:40

I think this is my favourite thing I’ve ever read on here

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I agree! 😂

FinallyHere · 16/02/2023 14:44

thinks 'I wouldnt put up with this at work so I wont at home' and push back more

What are you putting up with at home @Shgytfgtf111 ? If you are not happy, why are you putting up with stuff ?

Don't make yourself small to please any man. He really, really isn't worth that. Aim to surround yourself with people, especially a certain someone, proud of you and your success.

All the best.

Takenoprisoner · 16/02/2023 14:50

Shgytfgtf111 · 16/02/2023 13:55

Cant do the dishes/hoovering/whatever due to his bad back
Cant cut the grass due to his hayfever
Cant load the washer as cant bend down due to his back.

You get the idea...

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Urgh why are women still putting up with this bullshit?

Do you actually fancy this delicate weakling? He sounds utterly pathetic and not remotely manly enough to be fanciable.

I bet he always feels well enough for sex, gaming, going out with his friends and hobbies.

Marblessolveeverything · 16/02/2023 14:52

Own it ! interesting it was King - why are you not Queen! I would say probably fragile ego is getting short shift.

I find people, in particular women grow in your assertiveness and self- confidence when they succeed be it personal/professional. Confident happy supported people tend not to be professionally vulnerable - as their self belief is supported outside of their work.

FinallyHere · 16/02/2023 14:56

doing 100% of everything at home the way it always has been

I'm wondering what he brings to your life? Especially as over forties with no DC together ?

Having read all your posts I'm seriously wondering why you think someone who 'expects' the woman in his life to do all the housework, who gets such a partner willing and able to do all the housework and this is how he reacts: Does he bow down and worship you saying how lucky he is ?

Stone the cries, no, he lets her do all the housework and just complains about her success.

Hmmmm, still wondering why you think he deserves to be in a relationship with you. Hope you are starting to wonder this, too. Accept that his mother hasn't helped to make him into an independent adult but there does come a time in everyone life where they need to take responsibility for their own role in the world, no matter what they learned from their parents.

That time really is now for this one.

I'd seriously be thinking about throwing this one back into the pond. Is there anything stopping you doing just that, other than the way he has tried to undermine your confidence ?

p.s. congratulations on your promotion and CS pension. Your life will be great.

WhereYouLeftIt · 16/02/2023 14:59

Shgytfgtf111 · 16/02/2023 13:55

Cant do the dishes/hoovering/whatever due to his bad back
Cant cut the grass due to his hayfever
Cant load the washer as cant bend down due to his back.

You get the idea...

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Oh FFS! Send him back to his mummy.

Pixiedust1234 · 16/02/2023 15:26

Cant do the dishes/hoovering/whatever due to his bad back
Cant cut the grass due to his hayfever
Cant load the washer as cant bend down due to his back.

Oh dear, its as I thought. The dynamics have changed and hes feeling threatened and emasculated and worried you will view him as unneeded so he's trying to take you down a peg or two so you see him as greater/more impressive than you. He wants to keep his slave and his cushy life.

As so often on the relationship boards...what does he bring to your life?
Its not money. Its not doing his fair share of the chores. Its not for emotional and loving support. Its not even companionship at this point. Is he really that good in bed?

JackiePlace · 16/02/2023 15:51

SpeckledlyHen · 16/02/2023 11:57

I think you mean wary.

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I think "weary" is the perfect amendment to this quote! Actually we should be both weary and wary!

Thesharkradar · 16/02/2023 17:28

WhereYouLeftIt · 16/02/2023 14:59

Oh FFS! Send him back to his mummy.

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Very unfair, poor woman, she wont want a millstone around her neck

Thesharkradar · 16/02/2023 17:32

He grew up in a household where his mother did literally everything around the house so thats what he seems to expect
so what if he expects it?
this man has no leverage and you are letting yourself be his servant, c'mon girl, know your worth!

Bluetrews25 · 16/02/2023 20:08

If he can bend down enough to put his own socks and y-fronts on he can bend to the washing machine.
If he can't load the dishwasher then he can stand at the sink and do the pots by hand.
I have hayfever and I control so I can cut the grass.

What would this type of man do if the rules changed, and the menz had to do everything, because it's expected and we say so? They'd whinge 'it's not fair!'. Really, well how come it was fair before, huh?

Testina · 16/02/2023 20:12

I think you need to be Queen Shit.

Imagine one of the tram leaders you manage coming to you for advice about one of their team doing (not doing) the work equivalent and his no work? Not doing it, dumping it on others, whining about his “bad back” and running to him mum?

Would you tell them to just put up with it?

He sounds like a total loser even before the nasty name calling. Why are you accepting that?

Keroppi · 16/02/2023 22:56

I would pay for a cleaner and get your laundry outsourced
Don't be afraid to get rid of him - do you really want to grow old with a miserable man with a penchant for victimhood! He's already trying to knock you down for your success, what about if you're feeling low or have health problems/bereavements, will he take advantage of your vulnerability or support you? I think it's time to blow up at him and mean it if he makes one more demeaning comment about your job or attitude!