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That rugby player…in a scrum with a woman down an alleyway… wtf!

881 replies

GoingOnce · 15/02/2023 19:53

AIBU to be shocked someone would want to do this/have it done to them? I mean, the main offense is that he’s cheated on his poor wife, but also - is this a thing??? 🤢

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Florenz · 15/02/2023 20:33

I feel sorry for them. Having their lives ruined for doing something so stupid, and wrong, but they don't deserve what is happening to them and their families too. Plenty of people have had sex with people they shouldn't have been having sex with while drunk. The people the most in the wrong are those that filmed it and released it to the public.

Whywere · 15/02/2023 20:34

Can you imagine all the tongue in cheek jokes in the locker room after this?

WandaWonder · 15/02/2023 20:34

If it was 2 consenting adults I have no issue as revolting as I think it is personally

But I am sure some will post she did not choose to or whatever

drpet49 · 15/02/2023 20:34

Florenz · 15/02/2023 20:33

I feel sorry for them. Having their lives ruined for doing something so stupid, and wrong, but they don't deserve what is happening to them and their families too. Plenty of people have had sex with people they shouldn't have been having sex with while drunk. The people the most in the wrong are those that filmed it and released it to the public.

I don’t feel sorry for them at all. I feel sorry for their families.

Fifi00 · 15/02/2023 20:34

Isn't it illegal to film people having sex? And the charming camera man says can I have a go 🤢

Crostimosti · 15/02/2023 20:36

I can't imagine how his wife and daughters must be feeling. They've had to come out and clarify it's not his wife.

Video is pretty graphic, can't believe someone would film that.

MrWhippersnapper · 15/02/2023 20:37

Florenz · 15/02/2023 20:33

I feel sorry for them. Having their lives ruined for doing something so stupid, and wrong, but they don't deserve what is happening to them and their families too. Plenty of people have had sex with people they shouldn't have been having sex with while drunk. The people the most in the wrong are those that filmed it and released it to the public.

No, they chose to be sleazy c*nts behind their partner’s backs

NowThatsWhatICall22 · 15/02/2023 20:37

How awful for his wife and family that not only is it all over the grubby news sections, someone has started a thread about it on here. Grim. Wish people would think of the children in the family before threads like this are started 🙄

Aquamarine1029 · 15/02/2023 20:38

I can't even imagine how his poor wife and that woman's husband are feeling. How fucking awful.

Cam22 · 15/02/2023 20:38

Hellsmovie · 15/02/2023 20:26

Its unfortunate it was filmed . Are you telling me you've never had any outdoor "activities"

Any way shit happens

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In view of what the skanks we’re doing, that’s a poor choice of expression. 🤮

NeverThatSerious · 15/02/2023 20:39

So fucking disgusting. His poor wife, and his poor children. Imagine having to go to school knowing everyone in your year (and beyond!) has seen such a video of your dad, it would be brutal, and that’s before you get into the trauma of that being your dad in the first place.
Feel for the other family too, but know nothing about them of course.

Cam22 · 15/02/2023 20:39

Cam22 · 15/02/2023 20:38

In view of what the skanks we’re doing, that’s a poor choice of expression. 🤮

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…were doing…

Hellsmovie · 15/02/2023 20:39

WandaWonder · 15/02/2023 20:34

If it was 2 consenting adults I have no issue as revolting as I think it is personally

But I am sure some will post she did not choose to or whatever

Thank you some k e who agrees

CTRALTDEL · 15/02/2023 20:39

I almost feel sorry for him, what a way to implode your life! Presumably he was off his face?? His kids will have seen that or soon will. It’s out there FOREVER.

Hellsmovie · 15/02/2023 20:39

Some one

LikeTearsInRain · 15/02/2023 20:40

Nothing wrong with a bit of light rimming

Hellsmovie · 15/02/2023 20:40

Cam22 · 15/02/2023 20:39

…were doing…

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It's almost like it was intended 😉

CTRALTDEL · 15/02/2023 20:41

‘Wish people would think of the children in the family before threads like this are started 🙄’

because his kids are more likely to be on MN than Twitter??? Oh come on!

TheCraicDealer · 15/02/2023 20:41

There was a taxi driver here (NI) actually who had a camera in his cab and had footage of a couple who were engaged in a similar activity in the back and he passed the video on. Obviously it spread like wildfire and the taxi driver ended up getting prosecuted for malicious communications or something, nearly went to jail. The person who filmed it should be sweating too.

Darcy86 · 15/02/2023 20:41

I'm sure I read that the woman in the video is his friend's wife?

Awful situation all round really, can't imagine how mortified they are both feeling, obviously their own fault but do agree it shouldn't have been filmed and shared.

RudsyFarmer · 15/02/2023 20:43

Cuppasoupmonster · 15/02/2023 20:18

Oh there was me assuming it was just a bit of run-of-the-mill oral 🤮 do you ever wonder how on Earth these situations come about? Not the cheating but ‘hey fancy a rimjob in an alleyway?’

That just made me chuckle 🤣

NowThatsWhatICall22 · 15/02/2023 20:44

CTRALTDEL · 15/02/2023 20:41

‘Wish people would think of the children in the family before threads like this are started 🙄’

because his kids are more likely to be on MN than Twitter??? Oh come on!

Oh do look up how the Internet works, platform becomes irrelevant, the story is pushed further up searches. Traumatic for the children wherever they read about it, ffs!

monsteramunch · 15/02/2023 20:45

No one should be able to put porn on the internet of anyone else without everyone's express permission. No one. The cameraman should be prosecuted.

Absolutely this.

Viviennemary · 15/02/2023 20:46

I read about this in the Daily Mail the other day. What is wrong with these people.Who took the video. To think these idiots are parents.

belleager · 15/02/2023 20:46

Surely it's wrong to watch anything like this when we've grounds to think either of the couple didn't consent to filming / online distribution.

I don't want to watch porn at all, but watching porn filmed without consent is an act of sexual voyeurism in itself.

We shouldn't be normalising this sort of abuse (even of people we disapprove of) by clicking on it. Never mind the implications if we learn one of them had a drink spiked / manic episode / whatever. Who needs to watch this kind of thing?