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That rugby player…in a scrum with a woman down an alleyway… wtf!

881 replies

GoingOnce · 15/02/2023 19:53

AIBU to be shocked someone would want to do this/have it done to them? I mean, the main offense is that he’s cheated on his poor wife, but also - is this a thing??? 🤢

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gelatogina · 15/02/2023 20:19

Hellsmovie · 15/02/2023 20:16

Agreed. But still 2 consenting adults

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I don’t really get your point? How does it make it any less grim getting caught on camera being rimmed down an dirty alley behind a greggs 😂

BUT WE BOTH WANTED IT SO IT’S FINE DARLING

Cuppasoupmonster · 15/02/2023 20:20

Well he’s the famous one of course the focus will be on him.

ImAvingOops · 15/02/2023 20:20

@YetMoreNewBeginnings I guess because the woman hasn't been named, maybe there's an assumption her kids won't know or their school friends won't know

YetMoreNewBeginnings · 15/02/2023 20:21

Joe's daughter has out a message on twitter asking for the video to be taken down, people should listen in my opinion, she's only 15 bless her

That wasn’t actually his daughter. His wife has spoken out, but just her.

MrWhippersnapper · 15/02/2023 20:22

You can’t keep anyone’s identity secret on SM

gelatogina · 15/02/2023 20:22

JazzyGeoff · 15/02/2023 20:17

I feel so sorry for his wife/ her husband and children... but honestly, I feel sorry for him and the woman as well because... god it's mortifying.

They're both clearly wankered, him with his little knob out and her bent over touching her toes. I mean, I've had some Beer Fear in my time but that is next level.

Oh god imagine the hangxiety!

She will never be able to do the school run again will she, everyone will know about it.

monsteramunch · 15/02/2023 20:24

ImAvingOops · 15/02/2023 20:17

I've not watched this video - as much as I think he's a disgusting piece of shit for cheating on his wife and doing something so gross (and with a friend's wife too), I think the person who filmed this and put it online is an absolute scumbag and I won't further invade that family's privacy by looking at this.

It shouldn't be legal to put this on the internet, even though they've done this in a public place since it doesn't just harm JW and the woman involved - it actively harms their children and spouses.

Completely agree with this.

His poor, poor daughter.

3peassuit · 15/02/2023 20:25

Destroying 2 marriages for a quickie down an alley. Idiots.

OhhhhhhhhBiscuits · 15/02/2023 20:25

Ah yes the Yorkshire Rimmer........ has put a lot of people off Greggs in the local vicinity as well. Just an absolute twat to do this and in public. Some things should just be for home consumption only.

Christmaspyjamas · 15/02/2023 20:25

Hellsmovie · 15/02/2023 20:16

Agreed. But still 2 consenting adults

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His 15 year old daughter saw it and wrote a heartbreaking post on Twitter. It was in a public place so illegal but you be cool.

Hellsmovie · 15/02/2023 20:26

gelatogina · 15/02/2023 20:19

I don’t really get your point? How does it make it any less grim getting caught on camera being rimmed down an dirty alley behind a greggs 😂

BUT WE BOTH WANTED IT SO IT’S FINE DARLING

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Its unfortunate it was filmed . Are you telling me you've never had any outdoor "activities"

Any way shit happens

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YetMoreNewBeginnings · 15/02/2023 20:28

Are you telling me you've never had any outdoor "activities"

In an alley between Greggs and a pub where people who haven’t consented to viewing that can see?

I can confidently say I’ve never had any outdoor activities anything like that…

Nsky62 · 15/02/2023 20:28

His wife now knows, maybe they had been/ are having an affair, whoever filmed it was the messenger.
l’imagine being the husband of the wife too, what a mess

MrWhippersnapper · 15/02/2023 20:29

Grubby f*ckers

Hellsmovie · 15/02/2023 20:30

Christmaspyjamas · 15/02/2023 20:25

His 15 year old daughter saw it and wrote a heartbreaking post on Twitter. It was in a public place so illegal but you be cool.

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" could result in an arrest, such as outraging public decency that is likely to cause harassment, alarm or distress to others."

Doesnt sound like anyone was alarmed ,distressed or harassed at the time. Probably not a crime .

MrsTerryPratchett · 15/02/2023 20:30

I wonder if you're more likely to get sick from the beer, Greggs or the arse. <ponders>

No one should be able to put porn on the internet of anyone else without everyone's express permission. No one. The cameraman should be prosecuted.

Surplus2requirements · 15/02/2023 20:30

JellyMouse · 15/02/2023 20:05

Ok in the privacy of one’s home maybe but not on a public footpath. I have unfortunately seen a pervert wanking in public before but never seen this! It’s actually a criminal act.

Not criminal in itself. It requires a member of the public to see it and be outraged to become criminal.

RLScott · 15/02/2023 20:31

He’s been dubbed the Yorkshire rimmer.

Having looked at it he’s clearly bladdered (which is no excuse of course).

Dymaxion · 15/02/2023 20:31

Its unfortunate it was filmed . Are you telling me you've never had any outdoor "activities"

Plenty but none filmed and none shared on social media for my children to see. See the difference ? That 15 yr old might go to Uni one day and someone might figure out who she is and watch a video online and make her life hell again, but because that video involved consenting adults thats ok in your book ?

bellsbuss · 15/02/2023 20:31

His poor wife , the other husband and all the children. Just awful

ImAvingOops · 15/02/2023 20:31

Shit doesn't just 'happen' though - people choose their behaviour. And while they consented to the sex act, they didn't consent to have it filmed or put on the internet.
If someone uploaded videos made during a relationship and put them online without consent, they'd be prosecuted. How is the scummy bastard who filmed this, not publicly named, shamed and prosecuted?

And even when two adults consent, their families haven't consented to this huge invasion of privacy!

Hellsmovie · 15/02/2023 20:31

MrsTerryPratchett · 15/02/2023 20:30

I wonder if you're more likely to get sick from the beer, Greggs or the arse. <ponders>

No one should be able to put porn on the internet of anyone else without everyone's express permission. No one. The cameraman should be prosecuted.

Agreed

Greendoor12 · 15/02/2023 20:32

I feel so sorry for his wife. But I’d also be on suicide watch if I knew that woman in the video. Something like that would be devastating/humiliating.

Figgygal · 15/02/2023 20:33

Stupid fucker will never live it down im sure
Feel sorry for all of the kids and partners involved

TheCraicDealer · 15/02/2023 20:33

It’s got to have a been an affair, surely. Most people don’t go from making eyes at one another over dinner to rimming in an alleyway three or four hours later.

I daresay the woman’s name is floating about locally if people know it’s JW’s wife’s mate.