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Original poster

That rugby player…in a scrum with a woman down an alleyway… wtf!

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GoingOnce · 15/02/2023 19:53

AIBU to be shocked someone would want to do this/have it done to them? I mean, the main offense is that he’s cheated on his poor wife, but also - is this a thing??? 🤢

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RudsyFarmer · 15/02/2023 20:05

gelatogina · 15/02/2023 20:04

And she is on her hands and knees on the cobbles with her dress up round her waist.

imagine your partners and children, all your friends watching that. I really don’t think I could live down the shame.

In all honesty he must be a suicide risk right now. It’s not like this stuff becomes chip paper is it.

YetMoreNewBeginnings · 15/02/2023 20:06

He’s always been a bit of a knob, but he’s outdone himself this time. His poor kids and wife

His team is opening their season against his former team at the weekend - he is in for a tough night as rugby league fans can be very creative with songs and chants

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GoingOnce · 15/02/2023 20:06

Apparently his club are sending him out to give talks about the dangers of alcohol to young people… can you imagine facing a group of teens who have seen this video??

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Pearfacebananapoop · 15/02/2023 20:07

stbrandonsboat · 15/02/2023 20:04

E Coli 🤢

🤣 that's just for starters 🤮

gelatogina · 15/02/2023 20:07

If you search ‘Joe westerman video Reddit’ you can find it linked in the comments on Reddit

RudsyFarmer · 15/02/2023 20:07

Ah okay. I suspect it will resurface somewhere at some point. It can’t be any worse than my imagination has concocted.

YetMoreNewBeginnings · 15/02/2023 20:07

It’s still all over Twitter

Bleakhouser · 15/02/2023 20:08

RudsyFarmer · 15/02/2023 20:05

In all honesty he must be a suicide risk right now. It’s not like this stuff becomes chip paper is it.

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She must be on the edge as well, waiting for her name to come out

Lolabear38 · 15/02/2023 20:09

I’ve seen the video, someone showed it to me and I had no clue what it was until I saw it. Wow do I wish I could unsee something!

Obviously, his poor, poor wife and children are quite rightly getting a lot of sympathy. I cannot imagine how their lives have been turned quite literally upside down by this.

But… a weird part of me is really sad for him too - this is actually going to define his whole life. This is all most people will ever know him for. Totally, totally his own fault, absolutely disgusting to cheat on your wife - in an alleyway of all places!! And as for the act itself 🤢

But the person who filmed it and subsequently shared it on social media should also be thoroughly and utterly ashamed of themselves. An absolutely vile thing to do to Joe Westerman’s wife and children.

Youpillock · 15/02/2023 20:10

stbrandonsboat · 15/02/2023 20:00

It sounds like something stray dogs would do.

It looks like something stray dogs would do but people are unutterably filthy at times. We are just animals after all.

Christmaspyjamas · 15/02/2023 20:12

The vid has put me of all sex or kissing for life. Revolting.

Note that in his apology he referred only to "issues with decision making around alcohol"

Not adultery. Not public sex. Not any of it.

He's lowlife and will no doubt star in the next I'm a Celeb.

Don't watch it. It is unerasable from the memory and really will make you feel ill.

Jimboscott0115 · 15/02/2023 20:13

kissthegirlshesnotbehindthedoor · 15/02/2023 19:57

Because he looks like he's licking her bum...

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A fairly normal sex act.. though the location is definitely not something I think many people would go for!!

MaverickGooseGoose · 15/02/2023 20:13

Oh god poor kid(s)

Hellsmovie · 15/02/2023 20:13

2 consenting adults. Meh

SwishSwishBisch · 15/02/2023 20:14

As if it wasn’t grim enough on its own, the guy filming sauntering over and asking “can I have a go?” 🤢

gelatogina · 15/02/2023 20:15

Hellsmovie · 15/02/2023 20:13

2 consenting adults. Meh

Both married to other people and both with children. Grim.

Hellsmovie · 15/02/2023 20:16

gelatogina · 15/02/2023 20:15

Both married to other people and both with children. Grim.

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Agreed. But still 2 consenting adults

ILoveCreamCrackersMe · 15/02/2023 20:16

SwishSwishBisch · 15/02/2023 20:14

As if it wasn’t grim enough on its own, the guy filming sauntering over and asking “can I have a go?” 🤢

He should've said 'you can't park there mate'

😕

mummypigoink · 15/02/2023 20:17

Yep. After his wife and children, I feel sorry for the Sky sound engineer who is going to have a job and a half all season getting clean audio.

ImAvingOops · 15/02/2023 20:17

I've not watched this video - as much as I think he's a disgusting piece of shit for cheating on his wife and doing something so gross (and with a friend's wife too), I think the person who filmed this and put it online is an absolute scumbag and I won't further invade that family's privacy by looking at this.

It shouldn't be legal to put this on the internet, even though they've done this in a public place since it doesn't just harm JW and the woman involved - it actively harms their children and spouses.

JazzyGeoff · 15/02/2023 20:17

I feel so sorry for his wife/ her husband and children... but honestly, I feel sorry for him and the woman as well because... god it's mortifying.

They're both clearly wankered, him with his little knob out and her bent over touching her toes. I mean, I've had some Beer Fear in my time but that is next level.

Fifi00 · 15/02/2023 20:17

Really seedy they were obviously pissed and he couldn't get it up so was doing it to get an erection. 🤢🤢

YetMoreNewBeginnings · 15/02/2023 20:18

An absolutely vile thing to do to Joe Westerman’s wife and children.

I’m finding it very interesting the number of people feeling very sorry for his wife and children. Her husband and children are barely getting a passing thought, and given how small Cas is they’ll be getting similar grief at school etc.

Cuppasoupmonster · 15/02/2023 20:18

Oh there was me assuming it was just a bit of run-of-the-mill oral 🤮 do you ever wonder how on Earth these situations come about? Not the cheating but ‘hey fancy a rimjob in an alleyway?’

Oopsididitagaintomorrow · 15/02/2023 20:19

I like the way he's getting all the flack for this when she was there also, a willing participant cheating on her husband. If that's what floats your boat, go for it, but why in such a public place - get a room!!!!
I feel so sorry for this man's wife and children, and his parents. Whoever the woman is I'm sure her family are equally as devastated. Joe's daughter has out a message on twitter asking for the video to be taken down, people should listen in my opinion, she's only 15 bless her x