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That rugby player…in a scrum with a woman down an alleyway… wtf!

881 replies

GoingOnce · 15/02/2023 19:53

AIBU to be shocked someone would want to do this/have it done to them? I mean, the main offense is that he’s cheated on his poor wife, but also - is this a thing??? 🤢

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squtable · 15/02/2023 20:57

No one should be able to put porn on the internet of anyone else without everyone's express permission. No one. The cameraman should be prosecuted.

what about people who watch it?

MermaidEyes · 15/02/2023 20:57

Cuppasoupmonster · 15/02/2023 20:18

Oh there was me assuming it was just a bit of run-of-the-mill oral 🤮 do you ever wonder how on Earth these situations come about? Not the cheating but ‘hey fancy a rimjob in an alleyway?’

Lol! I thought he'd forgotten the lube so was just getting it wet before a bit of anal 🤮

MaryDerry · 15/02/2023 20:57

Oh the families, and the children.. they are going to have a lifetime of crap dished out at them cos one of their parents dropped their pants and morals.

And who was the fucker who filmed it and shared it???

Bet JW ain't playing at the next match. He'll not last 5mins on the pitch for a while.

LuluBlakey1 · 15/02/2023 20:58

squtable · 15/02/2023 20:55

It’s got to have a been an affair, surely. Most people don’t go from making eyes at one another over dinner to rimming in an alleyway three or four hours later.

I thought this was strange too, like would this really be the first contact?!

He's pissed and he's blaming that.

squtable · 15/02/2023 20:58

Surely it's wrong to watch anything like this when we've grounds to think either of the couple didn't consent to filming / online distribution.

yes if it's wrong to film, it's wrong to watch. I've not watched it.

ListenLinda · 15/02/2023 20:58

The Rugby League season starts tomorrow and this video is the only reason RL has made the main stream media, which is a surprise in itself.

I feel very sorry for the spouses and children caught up in this. The RL community is small and Cas is a small town, the other participants name will probably be floating around already.

Westerman won’t get an easy time of when he takes to the field at Headingley either, fans can be brutal.

squtable · 15/02/2023 21:00

was an alley down the side of Greggs. He is bending, with his trousers and pants round his ankles and everything on show, behind a woman who is standing bent over with her pants down and her hands on the ground, her dress up over her back and her bare arse in the air. His face is in her backside licking her and at the same time he's shoving his fingers in and out of her vagina. It is crystal clear.

well that's graphic!

ReneBumsWombats · 15/02/2023 21:01

LuluBlakey1 · 15/02/2023 20:56

It was an alley down the side of Greggs. He is bending, with his trousers and pants round his ankles and everything on show, behind a woman who is standing bent over with her pants down and her hands on the ground, her dress up over her back and her bare arse in the air. His face is in her backside licking her and at the same time he's shoving his fingers in and out of her vagina. It is crystal clear.

A bloke walks up the alley with his phone videoing saying Westermann is down there. He lets the camera run on and then says 'Can I have a go?' Westerman looks up and stands up exposing himself and sort of steps back looking drunk and starts to pull his pants up as if he's giving the bloke 'a go'.

I so regret clicking on it on Twitter- I thought it would be something blurry and unclear and not anything like what I saw. It's disgusting- literally an alley, he's like a dog on heat. She is just as disgusting- apparently the wife of one of his best friends. I'm still shocked by it- I think I must live a very sheltered life.

He's only sorry because he got caught. I bet he'd just have gone home and kissed and touched his wife with that mouth and that hand, or his kids. It's totally sickening and utterly humiliating for his wife, children, parents, in-laws. Cheating is bad enough but this is so vulgar and squalid and grubby.

Well, thanks for that.

Kiwimommyinlondon · 15/02/2023 21:01

Beyond grim. For both of them. Licking her bum. Vile. 🤮

squtable · 15/02/2023 21:01

Cheating is bad enough but this is so vulgar and squalid and grubby.

this is true.

Twawmyarse2 · 15/02/2023 21:02

MrsTerryPratchett · 15/02/2023 20:30

I wonder if you're more likely to get sick from the beer, Greggs or the arse. <ponders>

No one should be able to put porn on the internet of anyone else without everyone's express permission. No one. The cameraman should be prosecuted.

This. Yes, what they did was awful and wrong but the person who uploaded this video is evil and seriously maladjusted IMO. What a vile thing to do.

I had drunken sex down an alleyway once as a teen - thank god it was in the days before mobile phones - I feel sorry for this generation. Every single mistake or misdemeanour is fair game to be uploaded, scrutinised by the whole world and then vilified by the masses.

They’re both disgusting to have cheated on their spouses, but I don’t believe they or their families deserve this shame and embarrassment.

Cam22 · 15/02/2023 21:03

Those two individuals deserve shame heaped upon them. I hope they never live this down. As for people defending the lowlife by suggesting this is normal and they were consenting, what about the people who MIGHT have seen this and stumbled across it? They’d have to gouge their own eyes out.🤮

fortheloveofflowers · 15/02/2023 21:04

If I was pissed up though, wouldn’t be able to hold that pose for long 😂

Feel so sorry for their families. 2 families ruined for a floppy dick and some rimming 😳

ThisWomansWorkNeverEnds · 15/02/2023 21:07

I obviously lead a very boring life, I've never heard of this being a thing. Sounds disgusting.

Winnet · 15/02/2023 21:07

Nothing wrong with 'dining out'.

Just not when you're married to somebody else.

AdobeWanKenobi · 15/02/2023 21:08

The chants will be epic.

Sing when you're rimming
You only sing when you're rimming....

Butitsnotfunnyisititsserious · 15/02/2023 21:08

Florenz · 15/02/2023 20:33

I feel sorry for them. Having their lives ruined for doing something so stupid, and wrong, but they don't deserve what is happening to them and their families too. Plenty of people have had sex with people they shouldn't have been having sex with while drunk. The people the most in the wrong are those that filmed it and released it to the public.

I don't. They choose to perform a sex act in a public place with someone who wasn't their spouse. I have absolutely no sympathy for them, for their families, I do. I hope both him and the woman in the video are suitably mortified. They've destroyed their families for an alleyway rimming. Lovely.

LynneBenfield · 15/02/2023 21:08

Winnet · 15/02/2023 21:07

Nothing wrong with 'dining out'.

Just not when you're married to somebody else.

Or in public

Isthisabitweird · 15/02/2023 21:09

God it’s hideous. His poor wife and kids. What a pair of pigs.

His wife has said she will never take him back as what kind of example does that set. Good for her.

Winnet · 15/02/2023 21:12

LynneBenfield · 15/02/2023 21:08

Or in public

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Agreed.

Best savoured in the bedroom.

Floppyelf · 15/02/2023 21:14

Considering the amount of men who won’t even consider going down on their partners, in a weird, surreal, comical way, i find him a little endearing. However, any wag of a professional sportsplayer is in it for more than love.

Floppyelf · 15/02/2023 21:15

In a serious manner, yes he’s a total waste of space and i’m glad he’s wife’s not taking him back.

ReneBumsWombats · 15/02/2023 21:17

Floppyelf · 15/02/2023 21:14

Considering the amount of men who won’t even consider going down on their partners, in a weird, surreal, comical way, i find him a little endearing. However, any wag of a professional sportsplayer is in it for more than love.

Yes, it's impossible to be in love with a professional athlete because reasons. Presumably this applies to all other high earners too?

And even if this weren't a load of old cobblers, so what?

katseyes7 · 15/02/2023 21:17

I've just seen on twitter that his daughter did tweet, bless her, three days ago, asking for the video to be taken down.
Poor girl. It's still there.
What a piece of work. Well. Two pieces of work. Their poor partners and families.

LuluBlakey1 · 15/02/2023 21:18

Twawmyarse2 · 15/02/2023 21:02

This. Yes, what they did was awful and wrong but the person who uploaded this video is evil and seriously maladjusted IMO. What a vile thing to do.

I had drunken sex down an alleyway once as a teen - thank god it was in the days before mobile phones - I feel sorry for this generation. Every single mistake or misdemeanour is fair game to be uploaded, scrutinised by the whole world and then vilified by the masses.

They’re both disgusting to have cheated on their spouses, but I don’t believe they or their families deserve this shame and embarrassment.

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I don't know why you feel sorry for this generation- it's them who do the continual selfies/posting photos, making sex tapes, totally over-sharing explicit things. They do it to themselves. He's married with 3 children, he is a public figure, famous locally- he should have more sense and better morals.