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To just leave this training now and die of shame?

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arghhelpsoembarrassed · 15/02/2023 12:43

I'm on a work training event. It's casual dress so I'm wearing black leggings. Anyway... just gone to the loo on lunch break and discovered that I've been walking around this morning and in the canteen area with a hole in the bum of my leggings! Not a tiny hole either - it's sort of medium ish. Very obvious. I feel utterly ashamed and to think of how many people this morning have caught a glimpse of my arse and not told me!? I've turned my leggings around in the loos as I can sort of cover the hole at the front but oh my god. I want to die of shame. Do I style this out or just walk out and go home now? 🫣

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KimberleyClark · 15/02/2023 16:50

Why on earth would you wear leggings with a top that doesn’t cover your bum for a work event? Even if it was casual dress.

AnuSTart · 15/02/2023 16:54

I've had my left boob out in public before and not realised until I felt it was a bit breezy.

SlipSlidinAway · 15/02/2023 16:56

quarter of a postage stamp?! Miniscule. Nobody will have seen it or cared.

^^ This

Hawkins003 · 15/02/2023 17:00

arghhelpsoembarrassed · 15/02/2023 12:43

I'm on a work training event. It's casual dress so I'm wearing black leggings. Anyway... just gone to the loo on lunch break and discovered that I've been walking around this morning and in the canteen area with a hole in the bum of my leggings! Not a tiny hole either - it's sort of medium ish. Very obvious. I feel utterly ashamed and to think of how many people this morning have caught a glimpse of my arse and not told me!? I've turned my leggings around in the loos as I can sort of cover the hole at the front but oh my god. I want to die of shame. Do I style this out or just walk out and go home now? 🫣

May as well style it out op

Hawkins003 · 15/02/2023 17:00

Least you make the history books so to speak

AllAboutMargot · 15/02/2023 17:01

Now I've remembered a very embarrassing one. I was fifteen and wearing a halter neck top. I was with a new boyfriend and a couple of his mates. I bent over to pick up a peach in the supermarket and my boob fell out of my top and was on full display in the fruit and veg section!

They all saw and were laughing uncontrollably until we got chucked out by the manager.

I was bloody mortified!

Jux · 15/02/2023 17:02

In the days when I commuted to central London on the tube, I had been wearing a tightish black skirt, quite old by then. When I sat down on the tube on the way home I felt the seam go, but was actually off to an evening class which I didn't want to miss, I was aware thatI was also wearing a pair of bright red sexy partially transparent lacey knickers and bare legs.....

I held my bag v awkwardly behind me all the way from the train to the escalator, up the escalator and to the ticket office, where I knocked on the glass until one of the men inside came and opened the door. I asked if I could borrow and stapler and was there somewhere I could take my skirt off to fix it.

They were great, all left the office, having handed me a stapler and spare box of staples, until I came out. Then one checked that it didn't show too badly so I could carry on and get my next tube....

I think I chose not to go to the pub with my fellows afters the club, and might have taken a taxi home though

Perfect28 · 15/02/2023 17:03

For future, maybe don't wear leggings as trousers?

FlipFlopBattle · 15/02/2023 17:04

If it makes you feel any better, I was actually RUNNING a training course for some of our team, in one of the more conservative parts of India, and had packed suitable clothing; no low necks, nothing sleeveless etc.

On day two, I chose a button-down workshirt that I hadn't worn for a couple of years, and was slightly tighter round the chest than I remembered. Middle of the meeting, I felt a strange popping sensation, and realised that the top 5-6 buttons had come undone, turning it from a smart City look to something resembling a 90s Wonderbra ad.

I spent the rest of the day resembling a T-Rex, as I tried to keep my arms folded in front of me with weird flappy hands covering the key area, while none of the (all-male) attendees knew quite where to look.

To top things off, the Icelandic volcano then erupted, so rather than being able to slope off home quietly, I had to spend an extra 10 days seeing the team every day in the office!

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arghhelpsoembarrassed · 15/02/2023 17:21

BlueHeelers · 15/02/2023 15:09

YABU to wear leggings to work. Leggings are not “casual dress” they are for home or gym only.

I was in a gym for part of the training, I've clarified that earlier. It was physical training. That's why we were told to wear casual / sports etc type clothing. I couldn't find my actual gym leggings so I threw on a pair of normal black leggings....

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arghhelpsoembarrassed · 15/02/2023 17:22

KimberleyClark · 15/02/2023 16:50

Why on earth would you wear leggings with a top that doesn’t cover your bum for a work event? Even if it was casual dress.

We were basically told to wear what we might wear to the gym / sports wear.

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arghhelpsoembarrassed · 15/02/2023 17:23

All your embarrassing stories are cheering me up so thanks 😂 anyway I styled it out (with the leggings on back to front and hid the hole best I could!) I think I got away with it just about.

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MsFannySqueers · 15/02/2023 17:23

OP I am sure no one noticed. About 30 years ago heavily pregnant I was attending an antenatal appointment at the hospital. I rushed there from work desperately needing the loo for a wee. I made it just in time but after my wee I realised there was no toilet roll. Luckily I had a scrappy bit of tissue in my coat pocket quickly wiped myself with it. I hurried into the appointment, took my knickers off, then lumbered up onto to the examination couch. The doctor and nurse fell about laughing as they started to examine me. There must have been a postage stamp in my pocket and it was now stuck to my nethers. The doctor said’I think you will need a bit more postage than that’!

OopsAnotherOne · 15/02/2023 17:25

Hey OP - hope it all went well! I'd have done what many suggested and went along with it. I'd have left the toilets and gone back to the group in a faux-fluster of "oh my GOSH did no one think to tell me I had a hole in my leggings?! Hahaha, how embarrassing! I can't believe I walked around like that!" sort of thing. Own the situation, laugh at yourself so no one else can laugh at you and instead they can laugh with you at what is, essentially, a very funny story.

quietnightmare · 15/02/2023 17:31

Don't worry OP it's only tiny and everyone has had something like this happen.

It could be worse you could have done what I done which was fall over in the office once infront of everyone and snap my ankle. To then have everyone crowd around me and my colleagues take my shoe off to reveal I had the word 'fuck' painted on my toenails because my friends a day or two before thought it would be funny to write that in nail varnish when I fell asleep after a night out at one of thier houses. To then have the paramedics come and take my other shoe off to reveal the word 'me'. That will teach me not to redo my nails

Or my friend slept only in a longish t-shirt and heard her door knock one morning and ran down to answer it to find her boss there who was very worried about her as she lived alone an she hadn't turned up for work and the longish top was sure enough nowhere near long enough to cover her 'parts' and her boss chatted to her told her to have the day off it was only when she went upstairs and looked in the mirror did she realise she had no shorts on.... now that was bad

mrsredhat · 15/02/2023 17:38

FurAndFeathers · 15/02/2023 13:13

One of many reasons why thin leggings are entirely unsuitable work wear as a stand-alone garment.

no one wants to see your arse cheeks, camel toe or the fabric of your knickers ever time you bend over and they stretch out

Just wear trousers or a dress/skirt over them

This.

Leggings are fine when worn under a very long jumper, or dress, or if you are under 6 years old.

NEVER acceptable for a works event no matter how casual.

Ofcourseshecan · 15/02/2023 17:41

One day you will tell this story with gales of laughter! We’ve all had embarrassing moments. I’m not telling you mine Grin

artishard · 15/02/2023 17:59

I've split my trousers down the arse more times than I care to remember. A particularly beloved jumpsuit was destroyed by an ill advised attempt at the splits in a pub beer garden. Thankfully I had a long jacket! It's got to the point now where it's happened so many times that the only response it elicits is 'fucking hell, not again!'

I clearly possess an uncommonly obnoxious arse, determined to destroy my wardrobe one seam at a time!

CharlotteUnaNatalieThompson · 15/02/2023 18:19

FFS can everyone shut up with the comments about the op wearing leggings? Just because YOU wouldn't be seen dead without a long top doesn't mean others can't choose differently. The OP can wear what she likes.

Never mind the negative comments about what is suitable work wear without bothering to ask the OP what her training actually involved.

SchoolTripDrama · 15/02/2023 18:20

You wore leggings with a top that doesn't cover your bum?? Eww

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arghhelpsoembarrassed · 15/02/2023 18:35

CharlotteUnaNatalieThompson · 15/02/2023 18:19

FFS can everyone shut up with the comments about the op wearing leggings? Just because YOU wouldn't be seen dead without a long top doesn't mean others can't choose differently. The OP can wear what she likes.

Never mind the negative comments about what is suitable work wear without bothering to ask the OP what her training actually involved.

Thanks. I'm not sure what some of these dramatic reactions are about a pair of leggings. They aren't see through!

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PaigeMatthews · 15/02/2023 19:12

arghhelpsoembarrassed · 15/02/2023 18:35

Thanks. I'm not sure what some of these dramatic reactions are about a pair of leggings. They aren't see through!

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im pretty sure the whole point of this thread was that they were completely see through. Everyone saw right through the whole to your underwear.

PaigeMatthews · 15/02/2023 19:13

PaigeMatthews · 15/02/2023 19:12

im pretty sure the whole point of this thread was that they were completely see through. Everyone saw right through the whole to your underwear.

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Hole fgs

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arghhelpsoembarrassed · 15/02/2023 19:17

@PaigeMatthews

Yeah because they had a hole in. But without the hole, they were fine. Hence I don't understand the dramatic "yuk you wore leggings?!" reactions 🙄

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spiderlight · 15/02/2023 19:47

AllAboutMargot · 15/02/2023 16:48

Meh, we've all had embarrassing fashion fails in public.

I was half way through a training day when I noticed I had odd shoes on! Got dressed in the dark, obvs.

My DH, who is notorious for struggling to buy comfy shoes because he has weird hobbit feet, and only ever has one pair of tidy work shoes and some dog-walking boots, bought a pair of odd shoes and found them so comfy that he threw his old ones in the bin in town and wore them home, at which point I had to break it to him that they weren't even remotely a pair - they were brogues, but with completely different patterns, and not even the same brand. He didn't care and wore them to work for about a year until they fell apart. (Needless to say, he's an academic....)