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To just leave this training now and die of shame?

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arghhelpsoembarrassed · 15/02/2023 12:43

I'm on a work training event. It's casual dress so I'm wearing black leggings. Anyway... just gone to the loo on lunch break and discovered that I've been walking around this morning and in the canteen area with a hole in the bum of my leggings! Not a tiny hole either - it's sort of medium ish. Very obvious. I feel utterly ashamed and to think of how many people this morning have caught a glimpse of my arse and not told me!? I've turned my leggings around in the loos as I can sort of cover the hole at the front but oh my god. I want to die of shame. Do I style this out or just walk out and go home now? 🫣

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Youainttheonlyone · 15/02/2023 13:15

It’s happened to the best of us. I walked back into my office with a loo roll tail once.

xprincessxjanetx · 15/02/2023 13:15

Yikes that is embarrassing! Sorry OP but I think best just to style it out now and laugh it off if anyone says anything about it later!

murasaki · 15/02/2023 13:16

Oh dear! In future, remember leggings are not trousers, they are basically footless tights and so need a tunic or dress.

ladymaiasura · 15/02/2023 13:17

Honestly, even if people have seen, they won’t be giving it a second thought. Would you if it was someone else? Would it really change your opinion of someone if they happened to have a hole in their clothes? I can understand being a bit embarrassed but you are overthinking it massively. Just forget about it and get on with your day.

Justalittlebitduckling · 15/02/2023 13:18

People are probably just relieved it’s not them!

Mumoftwoinprimary · 15/02/2023 13:19

In a situation where you are close together (eg coffee queue) people generally don’t look at each others bums - it is too low.

If you were leading a 3 mile hike up a mountain it would be more of a problem…

Gwenhwyfar · 15/02/2023 13:19

FurAndFeathers · 15/02/2023 13:13

One of many reasons why thin leggings are entirely unsuitable work wear as a stand-alone garment.

no one wants to see your arse cheeks, camel toe or the fabric of your knickers ever time you bend over and they stretch out

Just wear trousers or a dress/skirt over them

You just have to cover your bum!

Dogscanteatonions · 15/02/2023 13:20

arghhelpsoembarrassed · 15/02/2023 12:52

😂

I'd have to colour my bum cheek in rather than the leggings

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I would totally do this

LadySeafish · 15/02/2023 13:21

Wait for thise one. Three of us were once presenting to about 20 people. I wore a favourite skirt but had recently been ill and lost quite a lot of weight.

My fellow presenters were looking the other way as they were doing the introduction part of the day. Most eyes were on them.

I reached to pick something up and my skirt fell down to the top of my legs! I grabbed it and pulled it up and I think only one person saw it. A guy I'd known for years who has never, ever, mentioned it. For which I am eternally grateful.

I have quite a reasonable self deprecating wit usually but I think this one I would have been mortified.

MasterBeth · 15/02/2023 13:23

What are you actually showing with a hole in your leggings that you weren't showing without the hole? A piece of flesh the size of... a postage stamp? A Rich Tea biscuit?

Leggings already show off your shape and size and probably your underwear. It's not that different.

Floomobal · 15/02/2023 13:23

I’m certain that at least ONE woman would have mentioned it. I definitely would have. I’d assume nobody has noticed, and not stress about it too much

ItchyBillco · 15/02/2023 13:24

I wish leggings would die.

CopperMaran · 15/02/2023 13:24

I suspect no one really noticed otherwise I’m sure someone would have said. No one will be thinking any bad - at worse a bit sorry for you and haranguing themselves that they couldn’t find a way to tell you.

GoodChat · 15/02/2023 13:25

Style it out today. Quit your job tomorrow.

GoodChat · 15/02/2023 13:25

ItchyBillco · 15/02/2023 13:24

I wish leggings would die.

OP's have!

OuiLaLa · 15/02/2023 13:25

Oh op this made me laugh! I also have wardrobe disasters - I once spilt a pencil skirt up to my pants/arse when jumping over a puddle - had to style out all day at work and safety pins made me look like I was trying a Liz Hurley. Also went to my first NCT meeting with a huge hole in the crotch of my jeans. No idea when I split them!

Wizzpopfizzbang · 15/02/2023 13:26

Can you incorporate the training into the joke some how ? Are you delivering it?
or attending the training? Style it out for sure…. It is fine ….xx

MadeOfSteel · 15/02/2023 13:27

If I see a woman in leggings that are revealing more than she'd like, I always tell her.

I don't understand this craze for leggings, though. I tried them in the 80s and swore never again. Plenty of comfy trousers available that won't flash your bum.

nopuppiesallowed · 15/02/2023 13:27

Count yourself lucky! After going to the loo, I once did half of my barmaid shift with the back of my skirt tucked into my knickers....

TeamadIshbel · 15/02/2023 13:27

arghhelpsoembarrassed · 15/02/2023 12:43

I'm on a work training event. It's casual dress so I'm wearing black leggings. Anyway... just gone to the loo on lunch break and discovered that I've been walking around this morning and in the canteen area with a hole in the bum of my leggings! Not a tiny hole either - it's sort of medium ish. Very obvious. I feel utterly ashamed and to think of how many people this morning have caught a glimpse of my arse and not told me!? I've turned my leggings around in the loos as I can sort of cover the hole at the front but oh my god. I want to die of shame. Do I style this out or just walk out and go home now? 🫣

Chances are nobody has noticed, surely someone would say something. Say you're ill and leave so you can calm down and forget about it.

KingofCats · 15/02/2023 13:28

I highly suspect no one noticed, those coffee things you’re focused on getting coffee and chatting to people, and not looking down at bums

Pricklyheath · 15/02/2023 13:29

I once stood behind a smartly dressed woman in a white suit at the queue in the ticket office at Leeds station.
She had at least two inches of split seam showing her pink knickers.
I didn’t know if to tell her, it was early, she was probably commuting and wouldn’t have been able to do anything about the split seam.
In the end I said nothing. I still wonder if I should have told her.

These things happen. Although other than the gym I would never wear leggings without a long top as mostly you can see the outline of your knickers regardless.

TheNine · 15/02/2023 13:30

Unless people were staring intently at your bum I doubt they would have noticed it, or seen that it was a hole anyway.
And if they were, shame on them!

Dammitthisisshit · 15/02/2023 13:30

This is hilarious OP. Sorry. 😂

I think you stay and style it out. If you leave you’d have to explain why you did so you may as well stay. I think less people will have noticed than you think as well.

Can I make you feel better with a story from someone I worked with years ago?

He was on his way to a client presentation. Had been preparing for weeks and was hoping to win work from it. Unfortunately he split his trousers on the journey there. He’d also hit a lot of traffic so although he was on time he had used any contingency he had. He stopped off at services and couldn’t buy a needle and thread but managed to buy a stapler, and stapled his trousers back together then tried to hide the staples with his jacket. It was going ok at first. Met the clients, managing to keep face on to them and went to the meeting room. He sat down and the client boss started the meeting. He got to his presentation and went to stand up to present. This is when he realised that all the staples were caught in the chair fabric, and he was now stapled to the chair. He said he tried to stand up and the chair lifted up, so he quickly sat down again. He was then stuck, and had to do the presentation and rest of the meeting sat down, in a funny position half in front of the screen and half still at the table. Then during questions and discussions he had to put his hand underneath him and gently prise the staples free so he could stand up at the end of the meeting.

ironhelp · 15/02/2023 13:33

🤣🤣 I walked round with a pair of knickers stuck to the back of my jeans before (must of got attached in the tumble drier) and no one told me for a whole day!