Honestly, I’m so glad I’m a lesbian, because men as a group are awful. There are a few truly decent men out there, but imo they are few and far between. Even the men you think are good often hold misogynistic views that are surprising.
My dad recently disclosed that he thinks deep down all women don’t want to work and want to just stay at home and be taken care of by men. He also thinks it’s okay for men to sleep around, but not women, because it’s in a “man’s nature”, but not a woman’s. He’s retired and has fallen down the Ben Shapiro YouTube rabbit hole. My dad has always done 50:50 of the housework and was very hands on childcare, is a gentleman, treats my mum with respect, has been so supportive of my career, so I never would have thought he would hold such views.
My brother recently told me how he thinks his friend who now has a double barrelled name is a “wet blanket” “under the thumb” “not a real man”for taking his wife’s name, apparently a real man would never double barrel his name and he wouldn’t have married my SIL if she didn’t drop her name and take his, again I was totally shocked as was my SIL, his wife.
Found out my FIL, who I previously thought was a very good guy cheated on his ex wife with prostitutes.
My best friend’s husband turned out to be a useless waste of space alcoholic, we all thought he was a lovely guy, he doted on her and would do anything she asked, as soon as their child was born he changed completely and is now emotionally abusive and does absolutely nothing around the house or with their child.
I don’t know if I’ve ever even known a guy that didn’t hold some kind of sexist or misogynistic view and/or wasn’t lazy with housework or childcare, it’s really depressing.
I know so many amazing women now who have decided to stay single because they are fed up with men.