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Anonymousoneo · 2023-02-12T23:06:32+00:00

I had my 20 week scan last week and I can't get what the Sonographer said out of my head. He was pretty sure it was a girl but he wasn't certain he said there's nothing obvious between legs but he couldn't get a clear enough shot to confirm for sure. He said he would be very surprised if baby turnt out to be a boy. I'm so nervous to go out buying girly bits🥲

Disappointingbiscuit · 13/02/2023 08:12

I had the same thing OP so had a private scan which also said it was a girl. Ignore the snotty comments. I'm not at all girly and always wanted neutral clothes anyway, I hate pink frilly things in general. I actually found it really hard to find neutral clothes that weren't beige, grey or white (boring as hell)

honestly 90% of baby clothes in high street shops are gendered so I'm not sure where posters saying there's loads available are shopping! She's 3 now and half her clothes are hand me downs from her brother anyway 😁

vivainsomnia · 13/02/2023 08:13

Was told exactly the same. Assistant wrote girl on the notes. Baby was definitely a boy!

IbizaToTheNorfolkBroads · 13/02/2023 08:17

@Disappointingbiscuit we had a private scan at 22 weeks after the sonogram get at the 20 week scan wasn't sure on sex. In our case it was nothing to do with pink, or clothes or names, it was about managing the expectations of a 2 year old boy who was campaigning very strongly for a brother.

Top tip - never tell a 2 year old that they are having a brother or sister. They might interpret it as a choice.

plumduck · 13/02/2023 08:17

Disappointingbiscuit · 13/02/2023 08:12

I had the same thing OP so had a private scan which also said it was a girl. Ignore the snotty comments. I'm not at all girly and always wanted neutral clothes anyway, I hate pink frilly things in general. I actually found it really hard to find neutral clothes that weren't beige, grey or white (boring as hell)

honestly 90% of baby clothes in high street shops are gendered so I'm not sure where posters saying there's loads available are shopping! She's 3 now and half her clothes are hand me downs from her brother anyway 😁

They aren't gendered. There are very few that say eg. "Daddy's little princess".

ChampagneLassie · 13/02/2023 08:19

Some people are being a bit mean to @Anonymousoneo nothing wrong with wanting to know and wanting to buy traditional girly stuff!
sonographers often say this as don't want to be caught out. My 20 week scan they said same but I'd been convinced since 12 week scan myself that it was a girl. If you want certainty get a blood test.

plumduck · 13/02/2023 08:23

ChampagneLassie · 13/02/2023 08:19

Some people are being a bit mean to @Anonymousoneo nothing wrong with wanting to know and wanting to buy traditional girly stuff!
sonographers often say this as don't want to be caught out. My 20 week scan they said same but I'd been convinced since 12 week scan myself that it was a girl. If you want certainty get a blood test.

I hope i didn't come across as mean. I was tryinf to understand what is it she actually wants to get that is "girly"? If its pink clothes then just buy some pink clothes and if it's a boy he can wear them too or she can return them if she really doesn't want to put a boy in pink. babies get through so many baby grows and during the early stages you won't care what colour it is as long as its clean!

bussteward · 13/02/2023 08:25

What is traditional girly stuff for a newborn though? It’s just sleepsuits at that age. The baby won’t know or care what’s on them – which will soon be poo and sick anyway.

Disappointingbiscuit · 13/02/2023 08:26

plumduck · 13/02/2023 08:17

They aren't gendered. There are very few that say eg. "Daddy's little princess".

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They are though? I mean obviously "clothes don't have a gender" and you can dress your DC in whatever you want, but if you walk into next or marks etc. there is a very clear area for boys and one for girls. It's obvious what the intention is.

JFDIYOLO · 13/02/2023 08:29

Just do what parents have done for ever. Wait for the surprise. And don't let the gendered nonsense capture you.

itsabigtree · 13/02/2023 08:33

Omg, it's absolutely fine to want to know the gender and it's also ok to want to buy pink clothes.

Can2022getanyworse · 13/02/2023 08:34

I think op is talking about confirming the baby's SEX, not gender.

It can take many many years for a person to confirm THEIR gender. Biological sex can be identified at birth (or before, by scans, blood tests etc).

Buy neutral and a pack of pink and blue fabric dye. 45 mins in the washing machine and you've got all the sex-specific coloured clothes you want op.

YABU.

vestanesta · 13/02/2023 08:36

I had a private scan at 16 weeks where I was told the sex of my twins. I'd had a really rough time with multiple losses and ivf to get that far and knowing the sex started to anchor me to the idea I may have an actual baby. It still took a long time - I didn't buy anything until I was about 34 weeks as I didn't see the point in wasting money as I couldn't get my head around having a successful pregnancy.

Anyway child one greeted the sonographer with her legs wide apart so she was pretty bloody obvious. Her sister was shyer but they were fairly confident. I used to ask in every scan if they were still girls just in case it was wrong.

DottieUncBab · 13/02/2023 08:42

Girly bits? It’s so sad when before the baby is even born that people already force ideas of what that baby should like because of their gender!

Disappointingbiscuit · 13/02/2023 08:42

IbizaToTheNorfolkBroads · 13/02/2023 08:17

@Disappointingbiscuit we had a private scan at 22 weeks after the sonogram get at the 20 week scan wasn't sure on sex. In our case it was nothing to do with pink, or clothes or names, it was about managing the expectations of a 2 year old boy who was campaigning very strongly for a brother.

Top tip - never tell a 2 year old that they are having a brother or sister. They might interpret it as a choice.

😂😂😂

FabFitFifties · 13/02/2023 08:42

I managed fine with white, cream, lemon, green, beige. However, having just been shopping for a family baby, I've noticed the curent trend is very neutral, muted tones, so even less of an issue. My family member has done a beautiful 'muted' unisex nursery-jungle themed. I also did a lovely unisex jungle themed nursery - but very bright with greens and reds, blues and yellows. It's easy once you get thinking and looking.

plumduck · 13/02/2023 08:43

Can2022getanyworse · 13/02/2023 08:34

I think op is talking about confirming the baby's SEX, not gender.

It can take many many years for a person to confirm THEIR gender. Biological sex can be identified at birth (or before, by scans, blood tests etc).

Buy neutral and a pack of pink and blue fabric dye. 45 mins in the washing machine and you've got all the sex-specific coloured clothes you want op.

YABU.

That would look a bit naff as they'd all be the exact same shade

plumduck · 13/02/2023 08:44

Disappointingbiscuit · 13/02/2023 08:26

They are though? I mean obviously "clothes don't have a gender" and you can dress your DC in whatever you want, but if you walk into next or marks etc. there is a very clear area for boys and one for girls. It's obvious what the intention is.

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Yes but I just ignored that bit

Galadriel90 · 13/02/2023 08:45

It's a total non problem OP.

wherearetheturtles · 13/02/2023 08:46

Fucking hell

Scalottia · 13/02/2023 08:47

Buying girly bits? Good lord, just buy gender-neutral clothing.

MajesticElephant · 13/02/2023 08:48

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 13/02/2023 00:05

Was told by a friend this was the case in Watford. Don’t know why she’d like about it.

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I had my baby at Watford and was told the sex when asked.

CherLloydbyCherLloyd · 13/02/2023 08:49

Disappointingbiscuit · 13/02/2023 08:12

I had the same thing OP so had a private scan which also said it was a girl. Ignore the snotty comments. I'm not at all girly and always wanted neutral clothes anyway, I hate pink frilly things in general. I actually found it really hard to find neutral clothes that weren't beige, grey or white (boring as hell)

honestly 90% of baby clothes in high street shops are gendered so I'm not sure where posters saying there's loads available are shopping! She's 3 now and half her clothes are hand me downs from her brother anyway 😁

There are so many more gender neutral things now than when my eldest was born - especially if you like bold colours. My son is 1 I don’t like him in blues but he wears loads of bright colours. Next is fab.

Whydoitry · 13/02/2023 08:50

It's really common. At my 20 week scan they couldn't even hazard a guess due to the baby's position. I had a later scan where they said maybe girl.

My sibling was told def girl though and it was a boy so tbh I didn't trust what I was told anyway!

My girl came home in blue because we had hand-me-downs from a friend with a boy. It was fine. You don't need to rush out and buy stuff, you'll probably find you're overwhelmed with gifts and secondhand stuff anyway!

Cuppasoupmonster · 13/02/2023 08:50

Can2022getanyworse · 13/02/2023 08:34

I think op is talking about confirming the baby's SEX, not gender.

It can take many many years for a person to confirm THEIR gender. Biological sex can be identified at birth (or before, by scans, blood tests etc).

Buy neutral and a pack of pink and blue fabric dye. 45 mins in the washing machine and you've got all the sex-specific coloured clothes you want op.

YABU.

🥱

Parker231 · 13/02/2023 08:50

Scalottia · 13/02/2023 08:47

Buying girly bits? Good lord, just buy gender-neutral clothing.

Just buy clothes. DT’s (b/g) wore whichever babygro I picked up first - sometimes DS wore peach and DD blue and other times DS wore red and DD grey. Doesn’t seem to have affected them adversely.