To really hate unexpected house visits. Is it just me?

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What the title says really. I absolutely hate it when people “just pop in” I honestly hate it. It’s not that I don’t want to see people, I’m generally very sociable and often invite people round/get invited. I just really don’t like people dropping in unannounced as it generally interrupts my plans (even if my plan was doing nothing 🙈).

I mentioned it to my friend and she thought I was being utterly weird. Is it just me?

I agree because I like to make sure my house is clean and tidy for visitors. Clean loo incase they need the toilet! Also, I worry about my bra and knickers hanging on the radiator/air drying! Lol for example my sons teenage friends coming round!

Me. it throws me off and interrupts my relaxing flow as I usually walk around in my scants - which most visitors wouldn't appreciate seeing 😅 Ive taken to warning people not to visit unexpectedly as they'll see more than they bargained for. That has served to do the trick and I rarely get people turning up without notice 😉

Oh yes, also I'm normally braless!! So I would like to make sure I have a bra on the hold them up! Lol

Fucking hate it. My dad does it all the time. I could be speaking to him on the phone half an hour before and then he'll just rock up. Does my head in.

You're not unreasonable. People are different. I love it. I'm not unreasonable either!

I'm not great with anything unexpected, visitors being just one of a very long list😬 My house is always untidy and also I find it hard to switch my brain from grumpy bitch mode into happy hostess mode!

I'd love people just to pop over and see me. No one does though. 😰

i'm not a fan either

YANBU but it does depend who it is. DM does sometimes and I don't care if she sees me unwashed in my civvies with the kitchen a bombsite but other family live closer and I would rather die than have them see me/the house like that. And I adore them!!!

I personally feel it's the height of rudeness to just show up to someone's home expecting them to let you in and socialise. It boggles my mind that anyone could think it's acceptable to do so.

I love my parents to pop in whenever. Anyone else needs to pre book an appointment

I hate it. So bloody rude to just turn up on someone’s doorstep.

One of the Covid blessings was I never wore a bra when working from home.

oh and nobody was allowed to visit!

Bloody loved it. 😂

In real life yes, but on mumsnet you'll find most people will think you're not being unreasonable. They have to take me as they find me.

Everyone apart from my mum/ mum in law would be left on the doorstep.

If I lived near you toddler, I'd ask to visit but I'm really only wanting to meet Cheddar and Magic 😉

Can relate 😂

You will find that most of mumsnet hates unexpected visitors, won't answer the door and won't answer the phone.

I love unexpected visitors and will answer the door and the phone. I am not a typical mumsnetter.

I’m the same. It’s not so bad now as I’m early retired and have a lot more free time, but when I worked full time in demanding jobs and had both children at home it was such a heart sink. Either I had work or domestic jobs I needed to on in with, or far less commonly, I saw the rare 40 mins to myself I’d been anticipating all day evaporate.

I can’t bring myself to be completely inhospitable so have sat with an unwanted tea or coffee making idle chat while mentally rescheduling my lesson planning for after I’ve cooked, washed up and put the children to bed by which time I was always knackered and inefficient.

Fortunately it rarely happened.

I hate it too. My parents used to pop over with the whole family (so them, my brother and I) to relatives unannounced, sometimes even on a Friday night with the expectation to stay for the whole weekend! I still cringe for them thinking about it (although all these people have now sadly passed away). My mum still has form for inviting herself to ours or my brother's and staying for days.

Children’s friends weren’t a problem. I didn’t have to entertain them.

Father, son, brother, sil are all welcome anytime,no cleaning required, they take us as they find us but I don't like any other unexpected visitors.

@Ludo19 you'd be very welcome to meet them!

Awwww and if you were near me you could meet my lot 🙂

I hate it, and think it’s quite arrogant to show up without invitation or notice on someone’s doorstep and expect them to drop whatever they’re doing (or planned to do) to accommodate your intrusion. Like, who thinks their presence is that important that they can impose on others that way? Blech.

It’s one thing if it’s been discussed before, “Oh, I love drop in company, stop
by anytime!” but to simply assume it’s welcome? Nope.