To think that MNHQ shouldn't let a thread full of men asking for sex chat PMs stand?

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I know I can hide the sex topic, but that doesn't make the thread go away.

A few facts about the new improved sexchat thread.

The original thread was started by a woman.
You have no idea about the people behind the usernames or our lives. I am a woman on that thread, and some of the men on it have supported me for months now (in more ways than the obvious)

This is the first time I've commented on anything other than in the sex section. I'm not interested if someone is posting AIBU thinking this M&S valentines meal is rubbish so I don't read it. I find this side of MN quite unpleasant at times. There is always some opinionated and downright nasty person who would want to take you down. This v rarely happens in the sex topics. People can discuss what maybe they aren't able to discuss with their friends face to face without fear of judgement.

If a bunch of random like-minded people are happily and safely enjoying themselves, then can't they just get on with it (whilst ignoring the odd weird message)

If you don't like it, then don't read it
If you don't like it, then certainly don't post on it.
Just like I chose not to comment on a M&S Valentines meal.

Have a good evening all.

This is the first time I've commented on anything other than in the sex section

Interesting.

Yep

a thread chatting about sex? Whatever….

a thread to hook up? I agree its a strange use of the site

Why is that interesting @Sparklingbrook? Your response shows me exactly why I would never usually dream of posting over here on this side of the site!

It's interesting that you only joined MN for the sex chat.

And your post shows me exactly why I wouldn't dream of posting in the Sex Topic.

Thank you Becky at MNHQ for such a calm, sensible and measured response. While it's undeniably the case that the majority of posters on the sexchat thread are male, there are many, many females on the thread too - several of whom are looking to chat to other women - and have been since it started many months ago. (As the poster above has pointed out, the original thread was actually initiated by a woman). It's extremely insulting to dismiss all the men as creeps too. Those that seek to do so know nothing of their backgrounds or personal circumstances. A little less po-faced, ill-informed judgement and a lot more tolerance of consenting, law-abiding adults having a little fun would be no bad thing in a world where those things are increasingly short supply.

Hairy Hands brigade writing wank fodder for each other … keep them over there

Yes, it probably keeps all the creepy fuckers in one place.

Well that's good then!

Happy days!

Well can't you see? Isn't it friffing obvious? You are ONLY interested in sex chat with men and the site you choose to post on is Mumsnet? Weird as hell.

Well said, and it’s a pity you felt the need to name change for this post, but I can see why you did.

People really should learn to live and let live, and keep scrolling by if they’re not interested in a discussion, rather than aim to get the discussion closed down.

It really is. I wouldn't go over there and tell everyone off as you have done here.

Well said @everywhichway. I think sadly your comments may be falling on deaf and very judgemental ears.

*I don't think Mumsnet should have a "sex" topic at all. I can't see any relevance to this site - there is nothing helpful or informative or important discussed - it's just filth chat.

All and any reasonable questions regarding contraception or problems in the bedroom I've seen constructively answered elsewhere on this site*

That’s a matter of opinion though, not fact. In my opinion, I’ve read very many helpful and informative threads on that board over the years, and the more casual ‘filth chat’ threads can be ignored if anyone wishes.

Unfortunately a number of people from this thread have chosen to go over and tell us how grim we are, which is why I felt the need to comment.

The sex board been there for years but let's not pretend that the casual hook up threads have been there for years. They haven't. Catering to men who want to cheat on their wives is a fairly new development. It might bring some new male posters to MN but all of these moves are losing MN's USP and making the place less enjoyable for the main female users.

Apparently MN is now a place where it's fine to NAMALT all over threads about a woman's murder, where misogynists can post with abandon but feminists get deleted, where Tattle-style threads aimed at taking down female public figures (and MN members) are suddenly fine and where married men can arrange hook-ups. In the old days, none of that would have happened. And by the old days, I mean less than a year ago (and I've not even mentioned the vagina-havers vibrator).

I'd say you are evens then.

I've noticed that "Sex" topics have been appearing a lot in "Active" but I've never seen any there before a couple of weeks ago

Just trying to add some facts from a female on the thread mentioned.

I will return to the other side and leave you to your opinions.

Is it to do with the bright green vibrator? I think there was something about it in Site Stuff. If you hide the Sex Topic it shouldn't come up on your Active so you may have to re-hide it.

This.

It's a thread for wank fodder.

I don't know how to hide topics on the app

I don't think Mumsnet should have a "sex" topic at all. I can't see any relevance to this site - there is nothing helpful or informative or important discussed - it's just filth chat.

That’s really not true, though. Please go over and look at the board. Sexchat is one very small part.

Women have sex lives, and sometimes have problems or queries or thoughts they would like to discuss. I have both started a thread and responded to others’ queries and comments. It’s no good for anyone when women are shamed into shutting up about sex.