To think that MNHQ shouldn't let a thread full of men asking for sex chat PMs stand?

[Getir]

I know I can hide the sex topic, but that doesn't make the thread go away.

Well if you stay clear of that thread you won't see them will you!

As a women who has been cheated on, and SA many times I don't want to see a bunch of men creeping out on what I thought was a safe space!

Then hide the topic, it's not rocket science. Even if it does end up in trending, the title of the thread is obvious.

I'm sure MN is full of posters who due to their own personal experiences, don't want to see many different threads that trigger them. We all have to deal with it and hiding threads and topics is the way forward for all of us or choose a different forum if it's really awful for you.

Perhaps the men who only use the sex forum to hookup with women and use the sex board as wank fodder should find a different forum, There's enough of them out there. The internet is full of porn sites.

MN is supposed to be a supportive place for parents ,mostly women. Not a cheap hook up site for men to get off on.

@DiddyHeck you are so full of empathy! It's not like there are a ton of spaces for you already right!

Telling you to leave MN so they can carry on cheating on their partners tells you all you need to know about the kind of people who use the sex board.

I'm a 50+ year old married mother of 3 who wouldn't want to sex chat if my life depended on it.

But I think it's ridiculous that those who want to, are getting grief for containing themselves on one thread in a specific topic when both of those things can be hidden.

Yes, no-one should be telling anyone to leave MN, I definitely agree with that.

But in all honesty, if MNHQ are happy with the topic they created on their own website, they're not going to remove it are they?

And if they don't then there are only two options - stay or go.

How do people on there know if it’s a man or a woman they are talking to? It’s easy to be anyone you want on here. There is no check: it wouldn’t surprise me it half the women on there are actually blokes pretending to be women just looking for whatever kick they can get out of it. It’s a weird thread for a site like this.

Just wanted to second everything that @MovingonfromMartin has said here. I’m a married 37 year old mum of 3 and I never imagined I would end up on a sex chat but it’s been so life affirming for me. The sanctimonious judging is shameful.

Also, did you ever consider that Mumsnet, being the deeply unsexy man-hating place that it is, is actually a very tame way for these supposedly disgusting men to get their kicks. Do you not think that there might be an easier and more gratifying ways for them to do that?
Every singly man I’ve spoken to has been sensitive and articulate, rather than the knuckle-dragging cavemen you lot seem to think they are.

Lets hope your husband isn't too bothered about you sexting some random on the internet then.

This is the whole point. You have no idea what my life is like. Or anyone else’s.

I imagine we all agree that misogyny is appalling and should not be tolerated…however misandry seems to be promoted on this thread. How does that work??

Absolutely @sexyporridge that has been my experience too. I think we wasting our time here. Let's leave them to it!

Can I just remind the people on the sex chat that you don't know the people on the other end of the screen! It is a fantasy! They could be ANYONE!

Given the tension levels I've noticed @Getir , you and others may benefit from positing in the other thread.

Just a thought. No? Oh, well.

Less value judgement please, ladies and gents. Settle down. Perhaps a little tutorial in muting threads which offend/are disinterested in is required?

I'd rather poke pins in my eyes, thanks.

Tension levels? Oh of course the only way to be satisfied is to talk dirty to strangers!
Jesus Christ wish I had known sooner!
@Getir you had better join the sex chat pronto!! Get rid of that tension ya know.

I've already declined 2 unsolicited PMs. 🤮

Given the furore, I did the outlandish thing of leaving AIBU (I only ever visit/post here) and looked at THAT thread.

I got one page in but it looks like women are into it just as much as the men. I find it a bit odd and totally not my thing but to each their own.

@Getir think of the poor men in sexless relationships won't you!

It isn't just men on that thread there's plenty of females too.

Should people not post about going on holiday just incase someone that can't afford to go gets offended.
Should people not post about a new car incase someone gets offended.
Plain and simple if you don't like it don't go in the forum it's on.
There's no need to bleat on and on about something because you don't like it.
Suck it up buttercup and move on

Poor things.

@Satinthemiddle so by that logic the people who aren't happy about the sex thread aren't having sex? Come on.
Comparing a thread that's basically facilitating cheating doesn't compare to a new car or going on holiday!
Your comparisons make no sense

Nope, I'll stand by that MN is not the place for a thread mostly full of men asking for sex chat PMs.