Fed up with partner choosing the gym

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NC for post. Been with partner 4 years. Love together for two. Trying to get the spare room decorated and furniture built. The last month partner has been to the gym 4/5 times a week and as I now WFH i'm obviously doing a lot more than I used when I was in office. Washing everyday, cleaning, built the wardrobes that arrived, cleared our bedroom out etc. every night I've been having dinner on my own as partner doesn't get back till 7:30 and I can't wait that long. I've asked him to give up golf next weekend to do a tip run and asked him to sort his draws etc out as they're full of crap he doesn't need. We've had a huge argument about this as I'm fed up of almost being second best and waiting around for him to be free.

I don’t separate anything and only do bedding once fortnight. Would never buy delicates. Lifes too short!!

If he wanted to do that, then he would.

It's not upto OP when he goes to the gym.

What do the two of you do when he does have free time of an evening, if he wasn't at the gym I mean?

Surely him getting in at 19.30 isn't bad, he can crack on with his jobs then, but he obviously just prefers to leave it to you. I think its healthy that 2 people continue their hobbies with a relationship, for me, this is bout his lack of respect for you as he's not doing his share of the jobs. The hobby is a bit of a red herring.

He can also do a tip run and play golf surely, if he wanted to, he's choosing not to, I would say his time is prioritised for his hobbies not the housework but by getting home at 19.30 he has time for both. He's Just opting out.

Exactly! I used to go the gym everyday before I hurt my back. I’m sure there are lots of people that do.

Honestly the golfing every weekend would be too much for me unless it was done really early in the morning and home by noon. Otherwise I feel like it eats into our time together

not sure why this seems to be the trend nowadays, but you can’t just do whatever you want all the time when you’re in a relationship. it is 50/50.

my last relationship ended because my boyfriend started going to the gym 24/7, wouldn’t help with anything at home, and i felt like i never saw him. you should want to be at home with your partner, or out doing things with them.

if you wouldn’t change your routine at all for your partner then you shouldn’t have one.

OP what kind of life do you have outside of the relationship?