Child spoiling holiday

[Carrie76]

We’re currently on a ski holiday, first time for the kids. Child no 2 is refusing to go to ski school, he thinks it’s boring. The other 2 would rather ski with parents too but they’re okay to do it.

I’m currently sitting in the apt with the middle one as if he’s not doing ski school he’s not going skiing. He’s very headstrong and I don’t think he should get his way. I’m now resenting the fact that I’ve to sit here for 2.5 hrs until the lesson is over. Do I then let him ski in the afternoon??

Sorry, I should have read the thread properly. I see now that he wants to ski but he doesn't want to take instruction within a class setting. Of course, skiing can be very dangerous so I would imagine it is important he has training from a competent skier.

Are either of you competent enough to teach your children the necessary skills and rules re safety? If not, classes seem to be a must. If he doesn't want to do the classes, then he can't ski can he? You need to explain this to him and to appeal to his better nature by saying it's your holiday too and. if he won't join the classes, this expensive holiday will be spoilt for you as well.

OP said he enjoys skiing he just hates going snow in lessons. But learning to ski means learning control and controlling your speed. Not just bombing down the mountain. And not having control is dangerous and can lead to injuring others.

my introverted child absolutely loves skiing and ski school. Being introverted does not assign you to not enjoying learning new things in a group session.

if her sons wants to ski he has to learn to do it safely otherwise he’s a danger to himself and others!

I can't believe you r referring to your child as a brat. Poor little mite. I have never put my children in kids clubs or classes on holiday. We spend time as a family. If they wanted to do clubs or classes I'd let them, but if not it's their holiday to. I certainly wouldn't refer to my 10 year old child as a brat. You are not setting him up well for a good future relationship with you. Please be nice to him and just enjoy being with him in a wonderful holiday location.

And ... What a 10 yr old agrees to in advance is not the same as what they want to do in the moment. Is this not meant to be a holiday?

If they wanted to do clubs or classes I'd let them, but if not it's their holiday to

Have you read the thread? Have you ever been skiing? Your comments would be fine if he didn't enjoy the skiing, but he does, he just doesn't want to do the classes to learn to do it properly.

You’ve picked a poor ski school if after 3 days he’s ready for red and he’s stuck in a group with 4 kids who aren’t. That’s really shit for him.

My younger daughter learnt at 7, and we had a private instructor 2:1 as I was starting too. After the first 2 hour session, he had her moved into a group. After 5 days 1:1, I was still having help to get down blue runs (where they ski backwards in front of you, palm to palm) whereas she had done her first (good condition) black.

Not the lovely learning together plan I had - but more sense.

He should still do ski school, but they should be bumping him up a group.