Do you get upset if people say your kids look only like their dad ?

[jumparooound]

Lighthearted, but a little serious.

I feel like people never / hardly say my kids look like me. They're both still little. A baby and a 3 year old.

I laugh it off, but it's uncomfortable inside sometimes.

I know of two dads, that actually get upset ( the wives have told me ) about people always saying their kids look like their wife.

The other day my H's aunt said that both kids look like H and have nothing from me. My kids are super cute ( of course I would say that ). I felt a bit like ' yeah of course they don't look like this ugly fucker ' ( me ).

Anyway, for what it's worth, I actually do think they're a mix and they change so much all the time anyway.

But yeah I am not actually ugly ( generally speaking ) and it would be nice if some of my DNA rubbed off on my kids. Anyway this is a silly post.

My children look nothing like me, I guess it could bother me because I’m not with their father and he doesn’t see them (in regards to the comments of why wouldn’t you want your children to look like the man you love 😬) , but not it really doesn’t, I’m just more glad they all look like each other. My brother has two girls and they look completely different that people think they aren’t full siblings (nothing wrong with that! But they are so it can be awkward when people assume) mine are the spitting image of each other.

Same way I think it is is odd to say 'I want to look like a supermodel'

I am what I look like, wanting to look a certain way is not going to make it happen, without surgery I mean

Maybe you're right. If that's the case, they're definitely in the minority!

It used to piss me off that my PIL attributed all positive attributes to their side and negative to mine.

I never understand this my DD was the double it DH when she was a baby but now looks much more like me. It wouldn’t have bothered me though if she’d continued to resemble him more strongly. I genuinely don’t get why this riles people

No because they do

Doesn't bother me. My eldest (boy) is my double and youngest (girl) is her dad's double. She hates it when people say she looks like her dad. She wants to look like me, no idea why 😂

No. They do look like their dad 😂

You need to be careful you don’t pass your self esteem issues (which you clearly have, referring to yourself as ugly) down to your kids.

My reply was he acts like him too

He was a few weeks old at the time he looked like a BABY his eyes hadn't even changed to the proper colour at the time his hair was really dark (his dad's isnt) he just looked like a small baby but his family were insistent he was the spitting image of his father 🙄

Both my kids emerged from the womb looking identical to their dad. At around 6-12 months, they merged into me.

My eldest looked identical to how I looked at the same age up until maybe a year ago. She’s now starting to look like herself rather than either of us. She actually looks very like my sister, who looks very like my aunt.

My youngest is only 1 and I’d say he is a good mix of us both, but everyone sees him as like my dad rather than either of us.

Although my kids generally look more like my side, if you place them with their cousins on my partners side, you couldn’t choose which ones were siblings and which ones were cousins - they all closely resemble each other.

This thread just reminded me of a time I told a school mum her toddler really looked like her.
She said thanks, but a few days later she & I were chatting on the way home and she told me that it was so nice to hear what I said because her little one was adopted!

I had no idea! Her DH is quite different looking, but she totally shared a lot of facial similarities and olive skin, dark hair & eyes etc. with her DS2.

On the other hand I know a couple who have 4 kids together; 1 of each hair colour so blonde, black, red & mid-brown. none of the kids look like each other and only one looks like the mum. they get a lot of unkind comments

I’m aware it upsets some people so I always just say I can see both even if they look a little more like one or the other.

I have one who's a mini me and one who's a mini husband. People have often asked us if they're both ours, as they assume one is just mine and one husbands, and we got together after they were born. Makes us laugh every time!

All three of my children look like their father. Only my middle child has my wavy and dark hair. That seems to be my contribution to his looks.

My sister and I both look like our father as well.

I've never heard anyone say that they want their kids to look like them before either. It's certainly not a given, I don't think. I would rather mine looked like my husband as he's much better looking than me!!

My two boys were both very like my DH when they were little , the younger so much so that the first time my husband went to do pick up at preschool in the U.S .where we were living , the teacher said she needed no proof of him being the Dad she just knew it when he walked in the door . I think its lovely the resemblance .My oldest was quite fair when little but now has my dark hair and has even developed wavy hair like me in his 20's so there is at least something from me but the fact that they are more like their Dad has never ever bothered me.

None of my kids look like me. I've been married twice and kids from both marriages but they all look like their dads. It's just pot luck how the genes come out so it hasn't bothered me.

I do find it a bit annoying, especially from DPs family. There is something irritating about them banging on about how much of a "their family" baby they are. As it happens both were a mix, and people usually said DD1 looked like me because the resemblance was more obvious (skin tone etc) though she definitely has some of DPs features.

I think it's quite rude to deliberately say "... and they have nothing of you", as the aunt did here. Ruder than just pointing out that they look like their dad and leaving it there.

My DD is the absolute spitting image of her dad and his mum. People always comment on it. She really is the female version of her dad. She even looked like him in scan pics! Ive always liked it as his mum never had a daughter so I think it's lovely that she has a granddaughter who looks exactly like her and has the same body shape.
My DS looks like me and has the same build.
I apparently, look exactly like my granddads sister! I never met her as she sadly died before I was born. genes are weird - I've seen photos of her and yes, we look spookily alike and have the same body build.
Why do I look like my great aunt?

1. DD more like DH (mannerisms similar to DH/MIL)
2. DS1 looks like my brother. DH says he looks like himself, doesn't like comparisons from others.
3. DS2 spit of DH (we'll call him Dave) but has my hair colour (we jokingly, in private call him blonde Dave). When people comment I don't think bad of them.

Not at all - he is very good looking and they seem to look mostly like him then all the best bits of me.

Couldn't care less tbh. I think people sometimes see who they want to see.

It's irrelevant as they look like themselves

Does it behoove you to be this petty? Cos I’m telling you those mam’s either dgaf or don’t realise you’re being a pathetically passive aggressive

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MIL did piss me off once with "ooh he looks exactly like my great uncle Douglas" when look at either DS1 or DS2.
ffs, the dude's been dead for like 50 years, must you liken my delicate newborn to a dead guy nobody else knows or remembers?
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she has done a few personality analysis stuff as well, some spot on, some bloody infuriating. My brain has blocked them😁