Revenge on the person that bullied me?

[ACTIVE123]

There was a girl that bullied me at school, called me names, beat me up and just made my life hell.

I recently found out she is working for the same company as me, (big company not the same department) bumped into her a couple of times, but I just avoided eye contact, didn't want to get into a fake how are you moment!

I now keep getting ideas of trying to get revenge on this person, embarrass her, make her pay somehow. No idea how as I'm generally not that kind of person. It just annoys me seeing her walk around, living her life, knowing she got away with it all, as I never told anyone!

We were 16/17 when the bullying happened, so it's not like it was young kids. She knows what she did and if the shoe was on the other foot, I'd feel bad and apologise, but she's clearly just not built the same as me.

Am I wrong for entertaining these thoughts or do I just carry on being the bigger person and ignoring her?

Also, to say my job is important to me, so wouldn't want to risk getting into trouble at work over it, or looking immature at work.

You are obviously very successful and have a great life.

if you ever have to interact with her, the Sarah Milican line of “I don’t remember you favourably” is perfect.

Don't know if I'm overreacting but sounds like it could be a police matter? There are all those men in the news charged for putting their bodily fluids (semen, blood, saliva) in other people's food. There are probably other ways to take equally petty revenge that won't land you in court

There was a thread on here a while ago about someone who came up against her bully on a sales pitch. Does anyone remember? And the outcome?

I've found it, and the outcome was the OP pretending not to remember her.

www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/4373096-Shit-I-think-I-have-a-zoom-meeting-with-my-childhood-bully?postsby=TheRealAnnabelleBronstein

hurts her child like I was and then she'd know how it feels.

What a vile thing to post. You are horrible.

You realise OP that while you're plotting your revenge and fantasising about slashing her tyres, she probably doesn't even remember you and is just living her life?

@ACTIVE123

I just hope that one day someone hurts her or hurts her child like I was

Fucking hell.

You seriously need some counselling or something.

@ACTIVE123 I know that you were subjected to horrendous bullying, but why would you wish what you experienced on anyone else, let alone another child even if they are related to your former bully?

I have never wish what I experienced on anyone else. I actually told those bullies who apologised to me, that I hope none of their children experienced what they put me through.

What made me feel good was that they said they were breaking the cycle of abuse by teaching their own children to respect and value others, and not to pick on others whom they saw as different or an easy target.

I know seeing this bully will have stirred up a lot of emotions in you, but if you thrives off hatred then you have let the childhood bullies win.

It is more freeing to let go, than to hold onto the bitterness and hurt. It takes time, but honestly it is much better to live your life full of positivity than hatred.

At no point did the OP say she would bully her.

she did say she wished the bully's child would be harmed....