CF and the City

[ThePriceOfSugar]

I live in NYC.

A couple of months ago, an old friend got in touch with me for the first time in about a year and expressed that she wanted to come to the US on holiday. I said cool, I'll give you my recommendations for NYC.

Just now, she's said to me "I'm arriving on March 10th and heading to New Orleans on the 17th. Is it still okay for me to stay with you?"

Needless to say, she never even asked. I'm quite breathtaken by the cheek. Last time I saw this girl was 6 years ago, when she....invited herself to stay (different city).

I'm not down to save this girl $2,000 in hotel and convenience bills. But how should I phrase my reply? Hold me back....

Eeeek , 'friend' has found @ThePriceOfSugar post 😂
Give over lovey and RTFT

That's New York for you! No messing around, nice and direct!

I imagine she has read it and figuring out how to get you to accommodate her anyway.

The app wasn’t working properly, seemed like the threat just went quiet yesterday afternoon. Hoping I haven’t received a “RTFT” now 🙃
I have now been able to RTFT and can’t wait to see what she’s replied with.

love the clear reply. Well done!

It's really not about the space and the spare bedroom. If you have gone to NYC to live and work, you are deadly serious about whatever you do professionally. You will probably only have two weeks paid holiday a year, plus public holidays, so you become very hesitant about visitors. If you have two weeks paid holiday a year, you want a holiday and a rest, not to take a few days off to play tour guide. (I did for a day or two, for my sister -- everyone else, I handed a map and guide book and said, see you about 7.30, after work.) You may want to go home for a week on holiday to see parents. Your free time in NY is infinitely more precious than it is if you live in Taunton. (Not dissing Taunton, but a random town, substitute any town you know.)

Just here waiting to hear the reply, sorry!

I’d be quite straight with her..

You’ve at no point asked and I’ve at no point offered or agreed to put you up. I did however send a few recommendations of accommodation, happy to resend if you can’t find them

I'm sure she's read your message on the lock screen and is thinking up a way around your message. Be ready for a CF reply

Are you for real, or are you the friend in disguise

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It's so refreshing to see people standing up for themselves.
It's a great benefit of messaging apps I feel because over the phone you're sort of put on the spot and end up agreeing to all sorts of inconveniences.
Good on you op!

I just hope she isn’t going to turn up on your doorstep!

Whilst I don't agree with the language you've used here @DonnaTellMeThis I agree with the sentiment. Fair enough she doesn't have to host the friend and the friend was a bloody rude CF, OP doesn't sound like a great friend either based on the bitching on here about all of her friends..... I'd never dream of slagging off a friend/friends like this

Love reading all of this. I lived in Central Jersey from 97-05, lots of clients in the city. Nothing like your experience but I’m so nostalgic just reading about it. Lots of time in and around Ft. Lee and all along the Jersey side of NYC, too.

How about the people that would come to visit and expect a ride from JFK, after being repeatedly told to fly into EWR. Oh, you saved $80 so I can spend 2-3 extra hours in the car, in traffic each way?

Has she replied as yet?

@ThePriceOfSugar

"She's in NZ so will be waking up to this soon."
Aha - a twist! 🇳🇿 Kiwis travel extensively, and are prone to offering hospitality to those they meet & also to people travelling in NZ itself😀And are not in the least perturbed when those they invited do turn up. I'm going to guess that you've been invited to stay? I've been in NZ for a while, and whilst hitching with a friend when I first arrived ended up staying on a farm for a week (we were put to work in a shearing shed!) and then stayed a couple of nights elsewhere.

I'm not saying your friend isn't taking the piss, but it may not be quite as pissy as it seems.

Not dissimilar to Notting Hill vibe.. London is also hideously expensive since Brexit and lockdown.

Friend?
Someome made a good post about your time off be sacred and you can’t expect someone to give up their home office for someone who’s only interested in free accommodation and not a friendship.

Can't wait for her reply!

She's using you.
She's not a friend.
Either tell her she's a cheeky bitch or lie and tell her you have COVID and can't see her.

No you can't stay with me. If you need some recommendations for nice areas give me a shout and if you fancy catching up for a drink give me a shout when you arrive"

This! Cheeky cow! Are you kidding me???

Thinking you're not going to say anything.

Just say No! What's so hard about that?? You haven't seen/ heard from her in six years! Why would you not say No! Honestly. Why?

She has replied and said no!

Why don't people read the messages?

Totally agree with no sorry or expression of regret and message as sent was great and not rude. Not a friend just a freeloader.

My NYC friend actually does! She invited me to stay, and I had a (comfy) airbed on her tiny living room floor, and she slept in her single high 'bunk-type' bed at the end of her kitchen.
Fantastic location though, and though her apartment was a postage stamp, it was cute and characterful.