To think we had a ghost?

[SmartPony]

I have posted about this before, but DD had a scary dream about someone standing on our stairs which made me think of it again!

We moved into our dilapidated bungalow a few years ago. Previously owned by an elderly couple - husband had died. Wife went into care home. It had remained unoccupied for some months. Very dusty, old - imprint of a cross that used to hang on our bedroom wall.

First night - a car seat that I’d placed centrally on a table fell to the floor. Loud bang middle of the night in the darkness.

A week later I distinctly heard the piano being played. Called out well done to DD. She was in a different room and was not playing the piano.

One morning I woke to the sound of an alarm clock. Which stopped as I woke. Desperately searched bed for phone/clock. Nothing there. A few weeks later I looked at picture of bedroom as it was - on rightmove. There was once an alarm clock where I heard the noise.

I didn’t speak about any of this to DD, maybe mentioned to DP - but certainly not in front of DD as I wouldn’t want to scare her.

DD went to the toilet and DP saw her freeze. She said there was a man in the toilet wearing a suit. And he disappeared. DD then refused to go to toilet without an adult for several weeks.

Then - nothing more. And if I did perhaps wonder if we had a ‘ghost’ - I certainly don’t now. It’s our home.

My justification for this is : settling in to a new home, and my mind racing. The state it was in and an over active imagination on my part. All my communications to DD were rational and we always said the ‘ghost’ in the toilet was Daddy’s shadow. Only I spoke to our neighbour who knew the elderly couple - she remarked that he was always smartly dressed…

Tell me I’m mad!

Ooh look. It’s a woo thread.

You’re not mad.

But YABU.

Are you trying to put the Willie's up us?

Why would you be mad?
More things in Heaven Earth, etc..

Fear not, there will be plenty along with wise words to tell you are ridiculous really soon.

You aren’t. I have experienced similar and worse. Dp, dd17, dd11 and ds11 and the dog would tell you the same. And no we are not ‘woo’ or want any of it.

Honestly I know it ‘should’ be ridiculous but…from experience I know it’s not. It’s just not, if you’ve lived it.

My sister's house is haunted. She gets a lot of stuff on a night camera, weird faces and lights, also hears a lot like you do. My nephew who lives there has seen figures in his bedroom.

People are only going to answer you as per their personal beliefs. At the end of the day it's about what you think is going on.

If you're open to it being spiritual activity, using sage and hanging a (modern) cross somewhere where you hear the activity can be helpful. Saying the Lord's prayer and asking spirits to go to the light can help too. Play uplifting music, DON'T watch horror films or use a oujii board. It sounds like there's a lot of energy left in your home and it may need a helping hand to move on.

Oooooh I love a spooky thread

Isnt the spookiest bit that you live in a bungalow and have stairs?

@ShirleyPhallus

We had the loft converted! 😉

@Workinghardeveryday

Are you willing to share?

You sound conflicted. First you say you think there is a ghost and then you do everything to deny to your DD that there is a ghost. Is there or is there not a ghost? You’re either lying to yourself or to your DD.

Fwiw I have lived in houses that had ghosts. I don’t know what they are exactly, but ghosts exist.

I think it's all complete rubbish even though my house was definitely haunted when I first moved in .

look for the rational explanations and discount 'evidence' when it's commonplace (ie old man was smartly dressed).

What's a woo thread?

I've been married too long to have any willies put up me 😂

We’ve all experienced the same thing in my mum’s bungalow. Randomly, in the dead of night there will be a HUGE crash, similar to the sound of something like ironing board tipping over onto the wooden floor just outside the spare bedroom. Proper clatter. When you go to check, nothing is amiss, the ironing board is dutifully standing up or it’s still the the cupboard. Nothing else is knocked over. Cannot explain the noise. But my mum’s cat leaps over a particular spot in the room with his hackles up. He’ll go over it but only if he jumps and he really doesn’t like doing it.

@SouperNoodle 😂

That makes no sense?

No that makes sense to
me @ElfHasBeenSilly - it’s exactly how I feel about it!

Fair enough!

You'll get people that will post here just to tell you that YABU and that there's no such thing. That's their prerogative. But you're not mad or imagining it. We have a ghost/s. Very old house so not surprising.

When I rented a flat years ago I told the landlord I wouldn't move in until the piano was gone because I was scared it would start playing in the night!

I tend to believe they don't exist.

However, if they do exist then, from the knowledge I've gained from watching some terrible, terrible movies, it appears to me your ghost was just making sure you were suitable tenants and has now fucked off to wherever ghosts go.

HTH.

This is a nice take on it. When you move into a new place, you shake up a load of dust that was there before you, but as you settle into the home the dust settles.

I like the idea that it's the same with the remaining energy from who went before - it gets disturbed, but because things go back to a normal domestic situation, it settles back down. Might perk up again with other shifts of energy over the years I suppose, if new children join the house or when your daughter's energy changes from child to adult, but on the whole, it's just resting.

You posted this question on the worst possible forum, OP, but to me YANBU if it’s any consolation (I know it’s not, but I believe you).

Lived here about 20 years. From the day we moved in things started.

We can go years with nothing, then weeks of full on ‘activity’.

voices calling our names, things going missing and turning up in stupid places, doors slamming with force as we about to walk through them in our face, footsteps - heavy heavy like a workman, running up the stairs, running around downstairs footsteps while we are sat on sofa, guests staying who have no knowledge of any of this and seeing people who are not there and having things thrown around them, interference when using landline phone - breathing growling, heavy plant pots that would take 2 people to push moving into middle of floor, dog petrified and acting out of character when said things happening, kids seeing lady with broken face when they were small, me seeing man standing over eldest dd when she was a baby. The list goes on and on.

Those are the ones that spring to mind. Most scary for me was the day I was cooking lasagna. Kids were all at school and was my day off. I thought I would be organised and start making the sauce before I picked them up. Was just after 2pm. I heard a really loud crashing noise. I really thought we were being broken into. I nervously opened the door that leads to the hallway, no one there. Looked towards the stairs and at the bottom all of the pictures hanging on the stairs were smashed at the bottom. I tried to debunk it. I couldn’t. Even if one had fallen it couldn’t have caused a domino effect. There was one single crash sound. Not various of multiple pictures falling. I was so freaked out I left the house and sat outside school for over an hour.