To expect MIL to put some pyjama bottoms on on?

[BillHadersNewWife]

I genuinely don't know. I had a thread about her staying with us the other day...she's 75 and has sold her house and is meant to be looking for another. She goes to bed but then gets up a few times...normal things...back and to the kitchen for a drink or to the bathroom whatever. Bur she's always wearing a t shirt and knickers...and it's not a long nightie type t shirt but one that just sits above her knickers.

I find this so...invasive or something. I just dont want to see MIL in her knickers. However...I am admittedly a bit of a prude sometimes.

Should I say something or not? Jokingly maybe?

I 100% do not want to see MIL, FIL, DM, DF in their underwear

But that makes zero sense. They are family, particularly your Mum and Dad. Have you never seen them naked?? What on earth do you do on holiday? Make them cover up in a towel??

I would obviously be all of your nightmares when I get to MIL state. I only wear pants in bed. I do not own a nightdress or pyjamas. My concession to you would be to put on a t-shirt. If you are lucky I might put on a floaty dressing gown, but not done up.

Stop looking at her bum.

Perhaps OP can buy her MIL one of these and hand it over - eyes averted, of course, so she doesn't see older woman flesh

www.marksandspencer.com/floral-v-neck-midi-tiered-dress/p/clp60590448?color=MULTI#intid=pid_pg1pip48g4r5c4

@AllThingsServeTheBeam

Gross to me means disgusting, but I don't measure disgusting based on shit stains - I think something being totally unacceptable is gross - it doesn't just mean dirty.

Something not being gross in other situations doesn't mean it's acceptable everywhere - it's not like a blanket rule because you can do something in one place it works in every place 🤷🏻‍♀️

Neither dd nor I go round in knickers and a t-shirt

In the summer do you walk around your house in a bikini? Does she? What's the difference?

Again... Disgusting. Such a strong word for someone in pants.

Even in this weather in a morning! I normally clean the bathroom in my pants before having a shower! Good job my family is ok with nakedness 😂

Why are you guessing we don't have dc? We do. We have two teens

I'd personally leave it I don't think its a big deal you see more at a beach

YANBU. My DM lives with us. She doesn't walk around in a t-shirt and knickers. None of us do!

Of course it makes sense. Anyone who isn't like you can still make sense.

No dementia is when your mother in law opens her front door to you with a blouse and nothing on the bottom and then you have to get her upstairs by walking behind her up very steep terraced house stairs!

I mean it’s a bit odd but not actually damaging.

Lol no! A summer dress or t shirt and shorts.

How weird and repressed of you.

So this is where you make the comment… “Jeez Susan… will you put on a dressing gown or some PJs, I can’t talk to anyone while they’re standing there in their undies”.

This may be a stupid question, but does she know where her Jammie’s and dressing gown are? She just moved so it’s not out of the question that she can’t locate or access some of her things.

I’m with you though, I’m the type that puts on a bra (even while wearing a sweatshirt) to answer the door for food delivery guy. And wandering around the house in undies was just not a thing for me past 7 yo.

I would obviously be all of your nightmares when I get to MIL state. I only wear pants in bed. I do not own a nightdress or pyjamas. My concession to you would be to put on a t-shirt. If you are lucky I might put on a floaty dressing gown, but not done up.

I hope you live on your own then. No-one wants to see your arse wandering around, mate.

I would obviously be your absolute nightmare MIL😂

She's not exactly waving her fanny around. She has knickers on. Would you be be bothered if she was on a beach in a swim suit? You are being a bit silly. If it really bothers you ask her to put on a dressing gown

Imagine trying to do a Teams call with a grown ass adult wandering about in their undies in the background.

Sorry, I must have missed the part where the OP said she lived on a beach in a warm climate.

Swimwear is a bit thicker than underwear isn't it? Reinforced gusset??

Id say something like
'Hey, obviously please be comfortable but are you ok to whack on some joggers or a dressing gown to come down in?' There's not much she can take offence in there and if she does, well maybe that's a point for discussion.....

Good job my family is ok with nakedness

Ways of saying you don't have teenagers without saying you don't have teenagers.

Wouldn’t bother me but does it bother your DH? Probably would most men

I was a teenager as was my brother and we grew up in a very open house.

DS1 is going on 12 and still wanders round after a shower starkers. In fact he gets undressed downstairs if he is having a shower! For some it really isn't a big deal.