With the caravan borrower thread in mind, and my neighbour, why are some people so good at borrowing and asking for favours? I would always rather go without or save up until I could get whatever myself. My neighbour has terrible form for running out of main ingredients for the meals she's cooking or being short on childcare. I personally find being in someone else's personal space quite unrelaxing. If you Borrow how do you manage this without feeling embarrassed or awkward? It absolutely baffles me.
AIBU?
Are you a Borrower and if you are why?
coodawoodashooda · 24/01/2023 07:05
pompomdaisy · 24/01/2023 07:10
We have a street WhatsApp group and we all borrow and lend all the time. However we would never present on someone's doorstep. It's more 'has anyone got a xxx I could borrow to do this job?' Then someone will reply. They usually always do and it's different people all the time.
AcetoneForMyPhone · 24/01/2023 08:52
Friendly Exchange and the implicit future social obligations of it are also what creates community.
This is part of our evolutionary heritage and contributed greatly to our success.
"Human Cooperation: The Hunter-Gatherer Puzzle"
www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0960982218310509
I accept gracefully my neighbour's offer of surplus strawberries after he visits a farm and he knocks on our door to borrow tools, and offers us to borrow theirs. They have picked our kids up from school in emergencies. We have a very good relationship.
ladymacbeth · 24/01/2023 07:13
I wouldn't say I'm a borrower but I also live in a very unmumsnetty world where people do each other favours, lend things, pay for things, don't go no contact and generally just get on. So I'd not think twice about lending a a caravan to family!
Blossomtoes · 24/01/2023 09:07
Same. I once lent my car to a mate for a very long journey because theirs was on its last legs. We share a set of ladders with our next door neighbours, we both paid half. The world I see reflected in MN makes me sad.
ladymacbeth · 24/01/2023 07:13
I wouldn't say I'm a borrower but I also live in a very unmumsnetty world where people do each other favours, lend things, pay for things, don't go no contact and generally just get on. So I'd not think twice about lending a a caravan to family!
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iwishiwereafirefly · 24/01/2023 07:30
Yes @ladymacbeth, think I'm the same. I'm not really a borrower but I tend to think of my stuff as not 'mine'. If I'm lucky enough to have it and I'm not using it, then others (who will take care of it) are welcome to borrow.
ladymacbeth · 24/01/2023 07:13
I wouldn't say I'm a borrower but I also live in a very unmumsnetty world where people do each other favours, lend things, pay for things, don't go no contact and generally just get on. So I'd not think twice about lending a a caravan to family!
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