With the caravan borrower thread in mind, and my neighbour, why are some people so good at borrowing and asking for favours? I would always rather go without or save up until I could get whatever myself. My neighbour has terrible form for running out of main ingredients for the meals she's cooking or being short on childcare. I personally find being in someone else's personal space quite unrelaxing. If you Borrow how do you manage this without feeling embarrassed or awkward? It absolutely baffles me.
AIBU?
Are you a Borrower and if you are why?
coodawoodashooda · 24/01/2023 07:05
ladymacbeth · 24/01/2023 07:13
I wouldn't say I'm a borrower but I also live in a very unmumsnetty world where people do each other favours, lend things, pay for things, don't go no contact and generally just get on. So I'd not think twice about lending a a caravan to family!
mdinbc · 24/01/2023 07:42
We do within our family. My two grown sons live in the same town, and will borrow ladders, wheelbarrows etc. But that's because they know Dad's got all the good tools! Guess who got a ladder for his birthday (DS).
I do remember being a bit surprised that my SIL would not loan me her canning pot. My DH was not at home, and mine was stored in the attic. I ended up getting the ladder, climbing up at 7 mos preggo to get my pot, then jarring up 20lbs of peaches. Needless to say, I didn't send over a jar of peaches.
ladymacbeth · 24/01/2023 07:13
I wouldn't say I'm a borrower but I also live in a very unmumsnetty world where people do each other favours, lend things, pay for things, don't go no contact and generally just get on. So I'd not think twice about lending a a caravan to family!
LaurelGrove · 24/01/2023 07:26
I lend and borrow things all the time via our street WhatsApp group. Most recently someone borrowed my stepladder. My neighbours regularly borrow my car. Why not? Otherwise these things just sit unused.
Deliaskis · 24/01/2023 08:00
We borrow and lend with close friends, family and neighbours, and there is also a village Facebook group where people ask for this kind of thing. I think there is a particular kind of household type item that is never frequently used.... I'm thinking wallpaper stripper, carpet cleaner, car battery charger, that kind of thing. I don't get the point of every single person saving to buy their own, that will all then sit on a shelf for about 3 years between uses. It's a waste of money and natural resources really.
Things that are used regularly, like the PP pie dish example, for sure they should just get their own, but bigger rarely used items it's just wasteful. With people we borrow and lend with, there's a general understanding of 'if you bend it you mend it, if you break it you've bought it', and it has never caused any issues.
I also have no issue with a neighbour knocking on for a cup of milk or whatever.... they're might be one parent alone with two kids and tea is just in the table and taking everyone out to buy milk is just daft. Of course I can help out. I literally don't understand why anyone wouldn't.
I don't get any anyone would be looking for a CF in either scenario.
coodawoodashooda · 24/01/2023 08:03
But that's just it. It's me that's the lone parent. I don't understand why they'd prefer to knock on my door than pop to the shop which is minutes away. Milk isn't a biggie but unreturned calpol is.
Deliaskis · 24/01/2023 08:00
We borrow and lend with close friends, family and neighbours, and there is also a village Facebook group where people ask for this kind of thing. I think there is a particular kind of household type item that is never frequently used.... I'm thinking wallpaper stripper, carpet cleaner, car battery charger, that kind of thing. I don't get the point of every single person saving to buy their own, that will all then sit on a shelf for about 3 years between uses. It's a waste of money and natural resources really.
Things that are used regularly, like the PP pie dish example, for sure they should just get their own, but bigger rarely used items it's just wasteful. With people we borrow and lend with, there's a general understanding of 'if you bend it you mend it, if you break it you've bought it', and it has never caused any issues.
I also have no issue with a neighbour knocking on for a cup of milk or whatever.... they're might be one parent alone with two kids and tea is just in the table and taking everyone out to buy milk is just daft. Of course I can help out. I literally don't understand why anyone wouldn't.
I don't get any anyone would be looking for a CF in either scenario.
Deliaskis · 24/01/2023 08:04
We don't have a shop that is a 60 second wally away though it's about 20 mins, or 5 mins in the car.
coodawoodashooda · 24/01/2023 08:03
But that's just it. It's me that's the lone parent. I don't understand why they'd prefer to knock on my door than pop to the shop which is minutes away. Milk isn't a biggie but unreturned calpol is.
Deliaskis · 24/01/2023 08:00
We borrow and lend with close friends, family and neighbours, and there is also a village Facebook group where people ask for this kind of thing. I think there is a particular kind of household type item that is never frequently used.... I'm thinking wallpaper stripper, carpet cleaner, car battery charger, that kind of thing. I don't get the point of every single person saving to buy their own, that will all then sit on a shelf for about 3 years between uses. It's a waste of money and natural resources really.
Things that are used regularly, like the PP pie dish example, for sure they should just get their own, but bigger rarely used items it's just wasteful. With people we borrow and lend with, there's a general understanding of 'if you bend it you mend it, if you break it you've bought it', and it has never caused any issues.
I also have no issue with a neighbour knocking on for a cup of milk or whatever.... they're might be one parent alone with two kids and tea is just in the table and taking everyone out to buy milk is just daft. Of course I can help out. I literally don't understand why anyone wouldn't.
I don't get any anyone would be looking for a CF in either scenario.
Lolalime · 24/01/2023 07:41
I had a friend like this, borrowed my lawn mower every year claiming she was looking into buying one but hadn’t decided yet, borrowed our ladder, suit for her son and others I can’t even recall. every time we were at a place where you could help yourself to straws, tissues, and sugar at a cafe, she would take handfuls of the stuff.
And she happily told me ‘why should I pay for things if I can get them for free!
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pompomdaisy · 24/01/2023 07:10
We have a street WhatsApp group and we all borrow and lend all the time. However we would never present on someone's doorstep. It's more 'has anyone got a xxx I could borrow to do this job?' Then someone will reply. They usually always do and it's different people all the time.
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