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Having a home spa/pampering afternoon & dh hints for a bit of the other

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Unglamorousgranny · 21/01/2023 16:18

Indulging myself from head to toe pampering at home for the afternoon. Nice, luxury products & pure relaxation. Then dh interrupts dropping big hints for a bit of hanky panky, or at least a bj, while no one else is at home. He's a good dh, not selfish, works hard for the family etc. But even so wouldn't you be irritated by this, or am I just being a mardy cow? Should I feel guilty for hinting back that he should really read the room first?

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ReneBumsWombats · 21/01/2023 19:22

Rockingcloggs · 21/01/2023 19:16

I'm laid in the bath crying with laughter at this comment!

Men like to fuck farm animals. We hike in the countryside a lot, my husband shits himself if we have to walk through a cattle field! Mind you, come to think of it I have seen him eyeing up my watermelon!

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my husband shits himself if we have to walk through a cattle field!

That's because he's getting all hot and bothered. You know he's got an udder woman.

DillDanding · 21/01/2023 19:23

I'm laid in the bath crying with laughter at this comment.

Same, but now I’m obviously concerned I’ve left dh alone downstairs as he’s got his nob in the dog/sofa cushions/fruit bowl.

KikoMooCow · 21/01/2023 19:28

Rockingcloggs · 21/01/2023 16:53

I wouldn't be remotely bothered if we were alone and my husband wanted to have sex (please don't say a bit of the other!) pampering or not. Is it not a great indicator that he still finds you attractive? If you didn't want to and then he gets the titty lip on then of course tell him to grow up but a man IS allowed to ask his wife if she wants to have sex/give a blow job and it is not 'gross'.

So you tell the op not to say "a bit of the other"...
But Then you say "the tirtty lip" 🙈🤣 FFS 🤣

Rockingcloggs · 21/01/2023 19:29

DillDanding · 21/01/2023 19:23

I'm laid in the bath crying with laughter at this comment.

Same, but now I’m obviously concerned I’ve left dh alone downstairs as he’s got his nob in the dog/sofa cushions/fruit bowl.

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Rockingcloggs · 21/01/2023 19:32

Titty Lip is different from being in a huff, annoyed, upset. Titty Lip is the 'sex sulk'! There's a difference!

@KikoMooCow More concerning however, is your name! Don't let anyones husbands see it, they'll be setting up an account to DM you!

KikoMooCow · 21/01/2023 19:33

Rockingcloggs · 21/01/2023 19:32

Titty Lip is different from being in a huff, annoyed, upset. Titty Lip is the 'sex sulk'! There's a difference!

@KikoMooCow More concerning however, is your name! Don't let anyones husbands see it, they'll be setting up an account to DM you!

🤣🤣🤣

OhIdoLike2bBesideTheSeaside · 21/01/2023 19:55

Unglamorousgranny · 21/01/2023 16:44

He hasn't kept on about it, only asked once but I know he'll be a tiny bit sulky.

He needs to get over himself and he should have respected your spa afternoon and left you to relax

BloodAndFire · 21/01/2023 20:04

VioletaDelValle · 21/01/2023 18:50

You do know that men will literally stick their knobs in fruit, furniture, and farm animals, right?

What on earth are you talking about? Are you suggesting that the average man is going around shagging farm animals???

This is getting ridiculous. He asked his wife for a blow job. What is the big deal?

No, I'm suggesting that the average bloke would be up for a blow job from pretty much anyone, and that the op is absolutely right not to feel particularly desirable or flattered because her husband has asked her to suck him off

BloodAndFire · 21/01/2023 20:05

DillDanding · 21/01/2023 18:50

You do know that men will literally stick their knobs in fruit, furniture, and farm animals, right?

I don’t know whether to laugh or despair at the idiocy of this statement.

Which bit of it, specifically, do you think isn't true?

BloodAndFire · 21/01/2023 20:07

LifesNotEnidBlyton · 21/01/2023 19:06

From "can i have a blow job?" to men beastiality, just a normal day on MN. Given the things women have been known to shove up themselves I'm not sure a man humping a pineapple is all that bad.

I'm just suggesting that a bloke asking his wife to suck him off isn't doing it because he's interested in a mutually pleasurable, intimate encounter.

Women don't generally use glory holes, do we.

BloodAndFire · 21/01/2023 20:07

Legrandetraitor · 21/01/2023 18:53

This thread is peak MN.

OP: my husband asked for sex and I’m annoyed by this

posters: men like to fuck animals and fruit! Kill them, kill them all

Didn't say anything about killing anyone. But feel free to make random shit up if it amuses you.

BloodAndFire · 21/01/2023 20:09

Rockingcloggs · 21/01/2023 19:16

I'm laid in the bath crying with laughter at this comment!

Men like to fuck farm animals. We hike in the countryside a lot, my husband shits himself if we have to walk through a cattle field! Mind you, come to think of it I have seen him eyeing up my watermelon!

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I think you missed the point. A bloke asking his wife to suck his cock isn't doing it because he is captivated by her beauty.

And op is absolutely right to tell him to leave her alone.

He wasn't offering her sexual favours, was he?

Zanatdy · 21/01/2023 20:12

I’d definitely want a bit of sex with my bf over pampering if the house was child free but then maybe as we are still in the honeymoon period (don’t live together) but I can see why you’re annoyed. I don’t blame him for thinking of having some uninterrupted sex though if you don’t get the house empty much, it’s hard to find that couple time when you have young kids

Applesandcarrots · 21/01/2023 20:13

He did hint on the whole shebang and then went for another alternative then...

BloodAndFire · 21/01/2023 20:13

Applesandcarrots · 21/01/2023 18:45

Women also use various object which are often not meant to go in... Just saying.

The man haters here are sometimes ridiculous. What do you want, men never suggest sexual activities to their partners so everyone is as miserable as some posters here on MN? Same for women? Because we can't become pests can we.

It's a compliment when your partner you have good relationship wants to be sexually active with you (goes for both sexes). They fancy you and unless you don't fancy them it's a part of healthy relationship.

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A man suggesting that you both go to bed together might be a compliment.

A man asking you to suck his cock, and then sulking when you don't, really isn't.

Depressingly low expectations

Rockingcloggs · 21/01/2023 20:14

Oh do pull the stick out of your arse @BloodAndFire (though I'm sure you'd blame a bloke for putting it there).

Yeah, men do enjoy a blowy, shocker. Guess what, I've asked me husband to go down on me a million times in the 20 years I've been with him and not offered anything back. Does that make me a farm animal fucker as well?

BloodAndFire · 21/01/2023 20:14

Zanatdy · 21/01/2023 20:12

I’d definitely want a bit of sex with my bf over pampering if the house was child free but then maybe as we are still in the honeymoon period (don’t live together) but I can see why you’re annoyed. I don’t blame him for thinking of having some uninterrupted sex though if you don’t get the house empty much, it’s hard to find that couple time when you have young kids

They don't.

Their kids are adults and don't live with them. And he didn't ask for sex, he just asked her to suck his dick, and then sulked when she didn't comply.

BloodAndFire · 21/01/2023 20:16

Rockingcloggs · 21/01/2023 20:14

Oh do pull the stick out of your arse @BloodAndFire (though I'm sure you'd blame a bloke for putting it there).

Yeah, men do enjoy a blowy, shocker. Guess what, I've asked me husband to go down on me a million times in the 20 years I've been with him and not offered anything back. Does that make me a farm animal fucker as well?

No, it doesn't mean you fuck farm animals

But male or female, I have no idea why anyone would demand that their partner service them sexually without offering some kind of reciprocal pleasure.

It's just pretty shit as sex goes, isn't it? If one person is just treated as an object to service the other one

Applesandcarrots · 21/01/2023 20:16

BloodAndFire · 21/01/2023 20:13

A man suggesting that you both go to bed together might be a compliment.

A man asking you to suck his cock, and then sulking when you don't, really isn't.

Depressingly low expectations

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Something here is depressingly low but it ain't my expectations.
Might be more likely someone's reading skills

BloodAndFire · 21/01/2023 20:17

Applesandcarrots · 21/01/2023 20:16

Something here is depressingly low but it ain't my expectations.
Might be more likely someone's reading skills

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You haven't read the op's posts, have you?

Applesandcarrots · 21/01/2023 20:20

BloodAndFire · 21/01/2023 20:17

You haven't read the op's posts, have you?

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I actually did. Hence why I know he didn't ask just for blowjob (that was a second alternative).
You seemed to have missed parts and then just got proper worked out over nothing...

Rockingcloggs · 21/01/2023 20:22

@BloodAndFire No. I actually have incredible sex with my husband, where we both feel able to ask from each other (not 'demand') anything we like! Sometimes, I'll give him a BJ before work, other times it'll be me that gets the pleasure. It's not mechanical tit for tat - you show me yours and I'll show you mine. And we don't have to have penetrative sex all the time! It's a lovely varied sex life we have!

Greyhave · 21/01/2023 20:22

I don’t think the average bloke is up for a blow from anyone, not in my experience anyway. Maybe those who think that way need to reevaluate the type of men they allow into their lives.

Greyhave · 21/01/2023 20:22

haha blow job not blow!

BloodAndFire · 21/01/2023 20:23

Applesandcarrots · 21/01/2023 20:20

I actually did. Hence why I know he didn't ask just for blowjob (that was a second alternative).
You seemed to have missed parts and then just got proper worked out over nothing...

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Forgive me for not thinking that a 50+ year old man who interrupts his wife having a rare moment of relaxation not to offer her sex, but to demand that she sucks his dick, and then sulking when she doesn't, isn't a prince among men, or paying her a compliment.

Raise your bar if you think it is.