Having a home spa/pampering afternoon & dh hints for a bit of the other

[Unglamorousgranny]

Indulging myself from head to toe pampering at home for the afternoon. Nice, luxury products & pure relaxation. Then dh interrupts dropping big hints for a bit of hanky panky, or at least a bj, while no one else is at home. He's a good dh, not selfish, works hard for the family etc. But even so wouldn't you be irritated by this, or am I just being a mardy cow? Should I feel guilty for hinting back that he should really read the room first?

APOLOGISE???!!! Dear god

No, I wouldn't be bothered by DH suggesting it once and then dropping it if I said no.

He’s an asshole if he sulks. He can suggest, you can say no, he should leave it at that.

To be honest if I had adult dc staying and they’d gone out and it was out only chance at sex I’d jump him.
Doesn’t sound like you’re short of time to pamper yourself not like you have young dc hanging off your apron strings.
it does sound like you don’t like your dh very much though.

Illiterate!

I wouldn't be remotely bothered if we were alone and my husband wanted to have sex (please don't say a bit of the other!) pampering or not. Is it not a great indicator that he still finds you attractive? If you didn't want to and then he gets the titty lip on then of course tell him to grow up but a man IS allowed to ask his wife if she wants to have sex/give a blow job and it is not 'gross'.

Does “keeps” and “hints” in Op not indicating multiple times?

In the follow up… only once 🤔

He's not unreasonable to ask and your not being unreasonable to say no.

Does “keeps” and “hints” in Op not indicating multiple times?

Where does OP say "keeps"?
She said he dropped hints but that he only asked once so it sounds like she didn't feel pestered or like he was going on about it.

The upshot is the Op is now thinking she should apologise and wondering if she’s frigid.

That is how his “big hints” have left her feeling

You shouldn’t feel bad for saying no though

Why do you keep making bits up?

Did you read that the op is consider apologising and now feeling frigid and guilty?

That still doesn't mean he's asked more than once!!

Why are you making stuff up?

Nothing wrong with him initiating to see if you're up for it. Something very wrong that you're now worried you're frigid and a spoilsport and owe him an apology...

Asking for a BJ in the middle of you pamper time is not in the spirit of relaxation at all.
Offering to pleasure you while you're all clean and relaxed is a whole other thing.
I'd explain this to him and get him to rephrase next time.

This. ^

OP might like to give her DH bjs?
🙄

This.
Weird that so many on Mumsnet think the DH is some weird sex pest for asking. House free to yourselves,do you get this often?

It's not unreasonable for someone to want to have sex.

We get so little no kid time with under 5s that if I got a day pampering I'd factor in a bit of couple time for myself as much as for him. If I wasn't up for it he'd give me a hug and kiss on the cheek and go find something else to do.

Irritated that your husband still finds you attractive and wanted to try his luck with some fun while you had some alone time?

He sounds horrible. Lock him up.

Do women over 40 even bother with BJs??

Yes, but I was kind of assuming in my scenario that^ you'd^ be the one getting some.

Fuck off, I'm pampering
Is what you're looking for

Have you read the follow ups?

Dropping big hints
starting a thread on mumsnet
now thinking she’s frigid and should apologise
and says that he will get “sulky”