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Do I show woman pictures of her husband on tinder?

154 replies

Northwestsouth · 21/01/2023 12:00

I matched with a guy and found him on tinder. I changed my pictures to his from Facebook (it was 1am lol) and let it unfold…

he denied it was him lol. He said he’s been single since 4 years and also when I mentioned his wife’s name, he claimed he didn’t know her. They have the same surname… been together since teens.

we didn’t meet up so I don’t know if I should let it be….

OP posts:
DontLikeMenthols · 21/01/2023 12:32

The changing of pictures was a really weird thing to do, to take the time to find his Facebook, screenshot his photos and then set them as yours on Tinder at 1am. Just to what, prove a point to a stranger that you’d found his Facebook?

the separate issue of telling his wife, sure, if you want? But you hardly posted about that dilemma in your OP so I don’t know what the point of your post really was.

Xrays · 21/01/2023 12:34

DontLikeMenthols · 21/01/2023 12:32

The changing of pictures was a really weird thing to do, to take the time to find his Facebook, screenshot his photos and then set them as yours on Tinder at 1am. Just to what, prove a point to a stranger that you’d found his Facebook?

the separate issue of telling his wife, sure, if you want? But you hardly posted about that dilemma in your OP so I don’t know what the point of your post really was.

I agree.

Just block him. He’s an arsehole. Move on. Not worth the time of day!!

Luckingfovely · 21/01/2023 12:36

I quite fancy some of whatever the hell the OP is on.

Willyoujustbequiet · 21/01/2023 12:37

I don't really understand the picture swapping thing but I'd screenshot and message her saying that you wanted to confirm he was single before getting further involved.

I think thats a reasonable thing to do.

ReneBumsWombats · 21/01/2023 12:38

You matched with a total stranger, Facebook stalked him, stole his pics, displayed them to him at 1am and now you want to track down his wife?

DestinysGrandchild · 21/01/2023 12:40

What in the fuck is going on ??

So you stalked a man on Facebook, changed your tinder picture to a picture of him, and now you went to tell the wife that he's on Tinder?

I don't get the whole part about the picture. What was you getting out of that?

Infact I don't get any of it 🤣

JaneJeffer · 21/01/2023 12:41

I matched with a guy and found him on tinder
Matched with him where?

Rainraingoaway5 · 21/01/2023 12:43

I'm so confused by this thread!

Stockcleandemon · 21/01/2023 12:43

Are you saying you recognised him because you know his wife or that they are total strangers ?

BlueBooh · 21/01/2023 12:45
  • OP matched with a guy on Tinder.
  • Found him on Facebook.
  • Changed her tinder pics to 3 of his Facebook pics.

It's actually quite easy to find Tinder people on social media. If they give your their job/location etc.I also reverse image their pictures.

Anyway, you're completely batshit OP, but good on ya! If he's married.

Bet he's shitting himself.

Wonder why he didn't delete you immediately. Probably wants to see how much you know.

JaneJeffer · 21/01/2023 12:45

• OP matched with a guy on Tinder.
That's not what she posted

Pleasecreateausername13 · 21/01/2023 12:47

I honestly feel like my brain has melted and is currently dripping out my nose after reading this…..

Swingwhenyourewinning · 21/01/2023 12:50

Oh you are a bit different I would block and move on

Rainraingoaway5 · 21/01/2023 12:51

Pleasecreateausername13 · 21/01/2023 12:47

I honestly feel like my brain has melted and is currently dripping out my nose after reading this…..

🤣🤣

brummiechummie · 21/01/2023 12:51

Bunny boiler.

Plus your posts make no sense, you really should sense check it before you post.

FuckoffeeBeforeCoffee · 21/01/2023 12:53

I can't believe you've actually managed to be the one in the wrong in this scenario but here we are.

Adelais · 21/01/2023 12:53

How did you find him on Facebook?
Also if you were planning on telling his wife you’ve now given him a heads up to concoct a story/ delete evidence. You could have just screenshots his tinder profile to send her not go to the trouble of changing your pictures to his which is just weird.

KellyJs · 21/01/2023 12:56

Lol

cringe

ItsBritneyBitch45 · 21/01/2023 12:57

What are you actually saying?!

You matched with someone and found their FB. You then screenshot his pics and posted them on your page just so he’d know that you found his social media and figured out that he had a wife? You did wayyyyy too much. You could have just said, ‘saw your FB, seems that you’re still married so I’m no longer interested’ and left it at that. But you’ve come to MN to tell your bizzare story.

You seem to be a bit strange!

Cocobutt · 21/01/2023 12:57

WTAF!

Do you seriously have nothing better to do than trawl through FB, steal someone’s photos, replace your tinder photos with his and then make a thread about it - all over a complete stranger!

I guess the fact you now want to tell the wife proves that you don’t.

Why did you not just block him or stop talking to him?

I think you need to come off tinder and FB and get a proper hobby.

ItsBritneyBitch45 · 21/01/2023 12:58

And then you want to try and track down the poor wife?! Fucking hell, leave her be

Bonjovispyjamas · 21/01/2023 12:59

This is so strange 🤔

Colderthanever · 21/01/2023 13:01

DestinysGrandchild · 21/01/2023 12:40

What in the fuck is going on ??

So you stalked a man on Facebook, changed your tinder picture to a picture of him, and now you went to tell the wife that he's on Tinder?

I don't get the whole part about the picture. What was you getting out of that?

Infact I don't get any of it 🤣

This, all as he matched with her on tinder. It’s really disturbing. It seems she matched with him, so stalked him on line, found his Facebook, thought he might be married, changed her pics to his, and is now wanting to find his wife.

it’s utterly deranged.

BethDuttonsTwin · 21/01/2023 13:01

I feel like you knew this man already and are behaving rather unhealthily now in a bid to get some kind of revenge. You’ve put a photo of him on MN. Seek help.

GoT1904 · 21/01/2023 13:03

I'd still wanna know if it was my husband.