My partner has booked us to go see his friends 300 miles away for a big night out as part of his birthday, I’m a new driver and while I’m comfortable on the motorway I haven’t driven further than 30 miles yet. No reason for not doing it I just haven’t needed to and have a very young baby so only recently feel more confident on the roads.
He didn’t ask me to drive , just assumed that I would drive us there even though I’d prefer to get the train. He doesn’t drive so that’s not an option.
As it’s part of his birthday and he booked hotel (I’m on statutory pay on maternity leave and can’t afford it) I thought ok fine I’ll drive.
We had a miscommunication where I thought we were staying two nights, so one day driving up there, we drop off our baby at his parents and then we go to the next town which is another hour-hour and a half away to meet his friends for a big night out. I thought we would have an extra night to relax after and get over any hangover and then I would drive us back.
He now says no he booked one night, and expects me to drive all the way there, drop off baby, go to his friends, have a big night out, then the next day get our baby and drive home!
I’ve never driven that far before and I’m extremely nervous but he doesn’t see the issue at all. I won’t be able to enjoy the night out either as I now have to really watch what I drink, and he goes back to work the day after we get back.
he won’t pay for the train and I can’t afford the train for both of us, and he won’t take a day off extra from work so we can stay two nights to ease the travel time.
AIBU to just say no to this now? Or should I just drive us and do it.
AIBU?
To not want to drive?
Annie802 · 19/01/2023 11:23
Am I being unreasonable?
979 votes. Final results.
POLLAnnie802 · 19/01/2023 11:42
He can’t be bothered to learn to drive. I’ve been asking him to for the last year but he won’t or has an excuse.
and yes he is quite selfish sometimes. I do the majority of the housework because he doesn’t like doing it and is happy to live in a mess so I’m the mug. But that’s another story
Bonbon21 · 19/01/2023 11:40
Totally out of order for the baby...too long in a car seat even with regular stops...
You shouldnt be drinking ANY alcohol with the return drive in front of you.
And if he is so clever why does HE not have a driving licence??
Let him go alone by whatever means he can find.
Is he always so selfish?.... in which case i would be rethinking the entire relationship...
1987qwerty · 19/01/2023 12:12
Just tell him to have a good time as you won't be going. Wouldn't make any difference but was he expecting you to pay for the fuel as well?
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