Pretty upset by this but not sure if it's the postpartum blues and IBU or if you would be upset too.
I'm a FTM and new baby is a week old. We've not had many visitors by choice - had a C-section and we've just been getting used to the new baby and surviving the first week.
Today we had the first visit from MIL, who tbf made a four-hour round trip on the train to see us and meet her first grandchild. Great so far.
My DH picked her up from the station in the morning, and when she arrived we'd just had a delivery of cards and flowers from friends. She looked embarrassed and said she felt bad that she had come empty handed. I didn't have a baby shower or specifically ask for gifts, but I did think she would pick up a card or something for the baby. AIBU? She didn't buy anything before baby was born either so it's not as if she had already bought.
Anyway, no bother - the day passed with her taking lots of pictures and having holds. She didn't offer to help us with anything, or make a drink or do anything really, unlike friends and family nearby who have brought food, offered to pick up things, etc.
Then, right at the end of the day, she comments about my baby's future looks and if she had so-and-so's teeth that "nanny would buy braces". WTF? Why are you commenting/thinking about that when the baby is only a week old?
You can't even remember a card but you can think about and offer braces to a week old baby?
It really upset me, but DH thinks I just don't get his DM's humour and thinks I should talk to her about it instead of saying something himself.
AIBU? Is this worth bringing up or has the moment passed?
AIBU?
First visit from MIL
BettyOop99 · 18/01/2023 19:33
Am I being unreasonable?
649 votes. Final results.
POLLMonjardin12 · 18/01/2023 19:44
She doesn't sound very likeable tbh. I would keep visits to a minimum. Enjoy your baby.
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