Cancel ski holiday? Injury

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We have a ski holiday in a month. I've injured myself, can't ski anymore. Non-refundable in large part. It's a group holiday with friends so I would literally be sat in a ski lodge all by myself 8am-5pm every day, for a full week. DH can still ski so he's keen to go, he says it'll still be fun for me in the evenings (I think that's ridiculous). The trip cost a lot of money, probably our last ski holiday for a while. No, I'm not the kind to be happy about sitting by myself all day with a book while my friends go have fun and I sit around waiting for them all day. AIBU to say to DH we shouldn't go anymore? It'll be absolute misery for me. At least if we don't go, we save money otherwise spent on ski passes, rental and all the bars and restaurants. Am I being unfair?

Just an aside, if your injury is such that you won't be able to participate in your activity specific holiday in a months time, your GP will be able to provide a letter saying as much.

Your insurers may have it wrong and I would ring them again. It sounds like they think you will be fit to participate. Do you have the winter sports cover?

We had a family friend in a similar situation and she was miserable all week. I think it depends what else there is to do in the resort, the facilities at the chalet (hot tub etc) and whether you enjoy reading, relaxing etc. A chalet on my own sounds like a dream!

Surely your travel insurance should cover this? As long as you have proof of injury?

I wouldn’t want to go either but if it meant losing a lot of money I would probably try and compromise with DH. He either goes with out you or you go but he only ski’s every other day (spends the rest of the time with you)?

But ideally I wouldn’t be going at all and would be claiming money back through insurance so you can go somewhere else.

And when I mean budget/crap I'm not just being hoity toity... For reference, I fly easyjet/ryanair and am no stranger to staying in bunk bed hostels when by myself.

Overall the resorts look very picturesque. But skiing is the main attraction. The few restaurants are only cosy because you've nipped in from an exerting day out in the cold, it's not like the overpriced food is a gastronomic delight or anything. The pools etc are quite limited and sometimes a bit grim. I've always enjoyed myself but it's more of the company and activities.

I really do understand how fed up you feel at the thought of going on a ski holiday and not being able to ski and I'm not surprised that at the moment you feel quite down.
BUT
It's a whole month away and whilst at the moment, you can't do anything but short easy walks - in a month's time you will be a lot more mobile (tho still not able to ski) but more able to get about. I think once your injury improves over the next few weeks and you feel more mobile that you might better about it. Use it as a break from routine to relax and really focus on your physio exercises. The evenings would be sociable.

I'm no longer able to ski (medical) what I miss most is just being in the mountains with the glorious views most of all. These resorts have spas, and you could treat yourself as you are not skiing.

Your entire holiday cost for both of you would be wasted if DH at least doesn't go. Your DH will really thank you for it as no ski hols on the horizon for some time.

All I'm saying is things may look different in a few weeks once your mobility improves.

Are the friends you’re going with predominantly yours or his? Or are they friends you’ve made since becoming a couple?

Soooo many people suggesting that DH just takes a friend along.

The original plan was a couples holiday so
presumably each couple has a double room (yes I realize that not everyone has the same sleeping arrangements but it's a pretty reasonable assumption) So where is this "friend" going to sleep? Is there a spare room? Spare bed? Spare bedding?

I'm not a skier but we stayed near some ski resorts in the summer and they just looked dire..... and that was in glorious summer sunshine. There was nothing there except concrete blocks of flats. I can certain see why the OP wouldn't want to spend several days there.

Obviously if they have booked a hallmark style log cabin in a "film set" type of resort then that's different, but it doesn't seem like that is the case here.

The winter sports cover is in case of accident whilst participating in the winter sports. It isn’t cover for you not being able to do the sport.

I have worked in insurance industry for many years (although not in an insurance role) and I remember one of my insurance colleagues informing another colleague that they are not insuring the policyholders enjoyment of the holiday. So it is quite feasible that if OP can go on the holiday, she is not covered simply because she no longer thinks she will enjoy the holiday.

@GMOOH2023 many places have twins shoved together, or if I was the friend in that situation I'd bring a self inflating mattress ( provided the cost was dramatically reduced).

Of course the DH would need to check with the other friends it was ok to bring a pal rather than his DW, but due to the nature of a ski holiday I can't see that they would mind.

I would go, even though I'd struggle massively with FOMO, envy and loneliness but that's because I love my ski friends and would love to see them and because I love the mountains and the sunshine. It sort of depends where you're going and the accommodation but so long as the accommodation is comfortable and there are gondolas that take foot passengers up the mountain for me it would be better than nothing.
BUT if you really don't want to go, your husband absolutely should go without you. He's being ridiculous if he's willing to lose all that money just because he's worried he'll feel like a gooseberry.

DH can still ski so he's keen to go
AIBU to say to DH we shouldn't go anymore?

Quickly went from shall I say to him we shouldn’t go to “he won’t go alone”. You hadn’t even asked him in your OP. If he’s said he won’t go alone and you’ve said you’re not going surely there’s no need to post?

I don’t beleive for one second DH doesn’t want to go alone.

I think you should go!

I've been on a number of group ski holidays. There were couples, singles, random groups of friends. Basically, whoever wanted to go on a ski holiday. I've never been on an exclusively couples one. The holidays are pricey and many would jump at the chance of a reduced price one even if they had to share a room with a friend. My exh used to go on all men trips and share rooms and probably even beds in order to get an affordable ski holiday.

What I'm saying is, in my experience they are not really couples holidays of the kind that you have been on. You wouldn't feel like a spare part if you went along as an extra.

Some ski resorts built in the 70s aren't lovely but many are.

”I would have no company 7 days between 8am-5pm”

Sounds like an absolute dream. Lol.

I think YUBu to your husband especially as it’s none refundable. I’d go, have fun with friends at night and let hubby enjoy skiing with them.
I’d take some good books and something to do.

Could he bring a mate?

Yes, it really was a massive thing to miss out from the first post.

She doesn't want to!

A sense of perspective. Mountains are good for that.

Heck if it wasn't for the DH being a man, I'd offer to go.
We cancelled our ladies ski break last weekend because of lack of snow so I'm keen for a trip.

@littlelid

Seems really unfair on her DH 🤷‍♀️

Personally I’d suck it up and arrange to do other things while others are skiing, every resort I’ve been to has other stuff to do it, it’s not everyone else fault the op doesn’t want to be on her own during the day and needs people to keep her entertained

He's an adult. He can go by himself.

It's not OP's fault he doesn't want to be on his own at dinner time and needs someone to keep him entertained.

"FOR THE LOVE OF GOD, WHY IS MUMSNET SO OBSESSED WITH SPAS?!!!!!!"

😂And curling up with a book and a boxset? And a steaming bucket of hot choc? I am extremely slothful and I wouldn't want to do any of those even if they were available - lots of ski accommodation is like barracks - so God knows how someone who was looking forward to a week's skiing would cope.

YANBU OP and lots of Mumsnet have seen the Last Christmas video too many times.

Doesn't it work both ways though? It’s not OP’s fault DH doesn’t want to be with couples during the evening and needs OP to keep him entertained?

lots of Mumsnet have seen the Last Christmas video too many times.

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