Do you have “big bones”?

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I’m very depressed about my body. I’m not fat, I actually have a very low body fat percentage but I have a huge skeleton. I’m 5ft 6 so not overly tall but I struggle with fitting into women’s things and it’s making me so depressed. Watches are so tight o have to buy men’s straps. Rings and bracelets I have made on Etsy because shop ones don’t fit me. The wide fit shoe section never have shoes that are actually wide enough for my feet. Hats are always too small. I have to size up in clothes to fit my shoulders and rib cage and pelvis but they hang off my everywhere else. It makes me feel very ugly. I was wondering if anyone else has this issue and can maybe share where they buys things like shoes and jewellery etc?

I find it surprising that some people can't get their heads around variation in human skeletons. There are so many different shapes and sizes of noses/ears/feet/tits/whatever. Why would bones be any different?

I do, and I'm short too, so even when I'm at the lower end of BMI I still look stocky.

Why don't you get a few classic pieces made for you or get a dressmaker to tailor some off the peg things you like, so they fit properly - a really lovely white shirt, some fitted work trousers, maybe a dress that can go from day to evening wear.

Could you choose a watch with metal strap and ask a jeweller to add a couple of bars to it, so you don't have to get a men's strap (though personally I think they look cool on women)?

I'm 5ft 4 and my BMI is 23/24. I have wide size 8 feet and 7" wrists, so according to the wrist-to-height size chart I am big-boned.

I have small ankles, wrists and hips but massive shoulders, head and ribcage. When I was skinny I was a 6 to 8 on the bottom but still needed at least a 14 top and hats never fit my giant head!

People also start telling me I am too skinny at a bmi of 22, but I think that's just because my hips get so small.

This...I started feeling a lot better about my build when I started thinking of it as being a powerful Viking warrior woman build. Until then I longed to be delicate and feminine.

Yep, my ring finger is a size V. I hate my big hands. Bangles never go over them and bracelets are never long enough.

People don't have big bones haha

Me. I have big hands and feet, and a big head that 'one size' ladies hats never fits. There a photo from when I was about four of me sat with my little friend of the same age. I'm not fatter than her but my shoulders were noticeably broader even as a child.

People don't have big bones haha

Some do.

Check your own frame size using this US National Library of Medicine site…

medlineplus.gov/ency/imagepages/17182.htm

I bought one of those fancy scales a couple of years back and it said I have higher than normal bone density. I'm rather overweight so maybe that's why. Despite that, my hips, ribs and sternal notch, whilst not visible, are easily palpable (compared to people of similar height and weight I examine at work).

My body is a weird shape though. I'm just over 6 foot, size 7 feet, size 7 and a half gloves, 58cm hat size. I don't wear jewellery but I think my fingers and wrists would be on the large end of what jewellers would stock in rings and bracelets. My thumb to middle finger wrap around my wrist just right. My sister, who is about 6 inches shorter than me, has fingers much, much longer than mine, and wears a size 6 shoe but her feet are so narrow.

I always wanted to be dainty and bird-like but that's not something that will ever happen.

This thread really highlights how much society is geared towards people in the middle range of everything.

I can't wear bracelets or bangles or cuffs either, they either fall off, or slide to my elbows. I tried to wear a smartwatch, the strap went twice around my wrist and still wasn't snug, and within a fortnight I had bruising and RSI-like aches on that wrist. Just too heavy. I can't wear warm fingered gloves, the fabric pushes my fingers too far apart which makes them ache and cramp. Wristwarmers and mittens only.

To me, gloves with fingers, smartwatches and wrist jewellery are like elegant sexy shoes: they are things for other people, and I can only admire them from afar.

That’s more conservative than I expected to be honest (5’9” with size 10.5 feet and broad shoulders here). I’ve somehow joined a team at work where they are all 5’5” and sylphlike…I have to ignore feeling like Hagrid 😂

Obviously 49.5% are going to be larger than the median, with 49.5% being smaller...
This thread will give the impression that it's almost 100% because the large boned people are the ones replying.

Well, look at that. I’m 5ft 7 with a 7 inch wrist. I’m officially big-boned!

I come from good Scottish stock, though. I always said I’m built like I’d be at home mending a bothy roof in a force 10 gale with a baby under each arm…

I'm fat (working on it) but I also have a big build. I have broad shoulders and huge hands and feet. It doesn't bother me unless I am with a man who is much smaller than I am. I dated a guy a couple times who was a little bit shorter than me but his hands looked like children's hands next to mine.

I’ve always claimed to be big boned - and fat. Confirmed when I had a knee replacement and had an implant 3 sizes bigger than the other women in my support group
ive just always been a solid heavy lump even as a kid

This is me after my senior prom. I was a size 10 (US). You can see how wide my shoulders are.

15% is ALOT of people love

People are just all shapes and sizes!
I’ve just ordered new football uniforms for our u12 girls team - across 3 sizes for girls who are all age 11 or 12, all incredibly fit and healthy.
Some are my height and build, some my height and half my build, some come up to my shoulder and look like a strong breeze would blow them over.
They’re all in proportion, healthy etc and look it. But seeing them lined up together just shows the difference there can be.

I’m not very tall. I’m never going to be tall, and people comment on my height. Would I look or feel better in clothes if I was tall like DW who can wear anything and look good cos of her height/build? Probably.
But it’s not going to happen so I don’t get hung up on it.

God I can't buy bracelets at all really, my wrists are too big. Ring size is ridiculous, hat size is pretty huge too 😂

You look very glamorous.
Do fifties style big skirts suit you? I’m sorry there doesn’t seem to be much useful or or practical advice on here even from people who do have big bones.