Settle a household debate - having a drink and being in charge of kids

[DuffLite]

How much would you say is fine to drink if you were “in charge” of your kids on say a Saturday night. All already fed and nobody needing to go out so no requirement to cook etc - everyone just chilling out for the evening, doing their own thing

None, you may need to drive in an emergency

Somewhere around merry and long before messy.

What if I don’t have a driving license or a car anyway?

They are so little no to one drink. But I am a total lightweight. Anything more than that I wouldn't have a clear head in an emergency.

This is the rule we follow

Erm 1 and 2 year olds can’t “do their own thing” of an evening, they still need putting to bed…I wouldn’t get drunk in charge of toddlers no, they wake up in the night, get sick etc.

Got to be a wind up- a 2 toddlers ‘chilling out doing their own thing’ 🤣

I do but I'm not sharing it here as I suspect OP is on the wind up.

Not everyone is immediately incapacitated after a drink. Different body types, thresholds for alcohol etc means no two people are the same when it comes to it being 'ok'.

A drink or two is fine as long as you're within the legal limit, that's why it's enshrined in law...

Even as a teenager, I hated it... I remember one occasion, my parents were passed out on the sofa, my (underage) sister had also been drinking and had vomited all over her bedroom carpet. Had to try and wake my mum up and although she did then deal with it, it was pretty traumatic.

@DuffLite

then it won’t apply, however judging by your other posts you don’t really care what people think do you?n

To me you sound irresponsible getting drunk in charge of kids, but each to their own

Yes obviously they still get put to bed

I wouldn’t be getting so rat arsed I wasn’t able to do that

(or at least not until they’ve been asleep a good few hours ha ha 😉)

Becoming a mother isn’t (or shouldn’t be) a life ruiner/life ender Only people with a drink problem consider life to be 'ended' by not being drunk regularly.

@MrsTerryPratchett

Yes, I think you're probably right.

Absolutely this

@DuffLite I don't drive. I still don't get pissed when I've got my kid with me.

This sounds like worrying / addictive behavior

Hmm, yes, probably shouldn't have taken the bait.

Not entirely sure what you mean but this is a debate I was having with my partner. Interested to get additional viewpoints. That is all

My username checks out here 😂

We always have one sober parent. Mainly because my partner doesn’t really drink.

If he is having a drink I’ll have a glass of wine or two, but I can’t drive anyway so we would be getting a taxi regardless.

Generally we don’t drink more than one or two unless the kids are away overnight.

We are fortunate that we have overnight childcare on tap though. And it’s more for the next morning since they both sleep all night anyway.

For me personally when drinking with my children around a couple glasses of wine when I fancy a drink in the evening three at most, with the exception of New Year’s Eve whole family get together and grown ups all drink and at weddings I let myself get tipsy/ just passed tipsy. I wouldn’t drink a whole lot if my children were present though wouldn’t matter if there was other adults present or if I was solely responsible for them.

“Not liking something doesn’t mean it’s wrong” but you also queried “Anxiety disorder?” when someone disagreed with you!

And no, I wouldn’t get pissed without another sober adult around if my child was in my care for the reasons the vast majority of other “pearl clutchers” put forward.

DH doesn't drink so I'd have the equivalent of 3/4 glasses of wine on a Saturday night if I felt like it.

This only happens once a year though.

If I was alone? Never. I would never, ever drink and be in sole charge of my children.

Ah op mumsnet is a strange place for no one drinking alcohol just in case there's an emergency. Equally leaving sleeping children in car seats (not a hot day) on your own drive in case the car bursts into flames. Been here years and someone usually points this out.

You know your own tolerance. The kids are small though so I would be knackered the next day if drank too much but your call

Life changes so much after children, the old you is forever gone. The sooner you accept this and embrace motherhood the better it is for everyone.

What a load of rubbish!!