Settle a household debate - having a drink and being in charge of kids

[DuffLite]

How much would you say is fine to drink if you were “in charge” of your kids on say a Saturday night. All already fed and nobody needing to go out so no requirement to cook etc - everyone just chilling out for the evening, doing their own thing

You came to ask for opinions and any one that doesn't agree with you is being shot down...why bother asking?

Her poor DH.

That behaviour was completely unacceptable, but it is also a world away from tired parents having, and enjoying, an occasional few glasses of wine or a g&t on a Saturday evening.

@toocold54

Well if this is true, her DH thinks 6 cans is ok so I don't feel too sorry for him either.

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wtf is op on about

It's not just the possibility of A&E though is it.

Kids tend to start up with vomiting bugs slap bang in the middle of the night, or they might just wake up with a nightmare or because they're cold, or they heard their pissed as a fart mother banging about downstairs.

How well would you be able to look after them?

😂😂

She's on the defensive too and asked for opinions but doesn't like them.

Just to add. My dad was never a 'bad' drunk. But god did it hurt and upset me when I could tell he wasn't really listening to me, couldn't understand what I was trying to tell him or just acted plain silly. In those moments he wasn't my dad and it was really unsettling, as other posters have referenced from their experiences. You may think this makes us "worry worts", but how privileged you are that this was clearly something you never experienced.

The majority are horrified at the thought of drinking while children are in the house?

Fatagainstlettuce, I'm not sure op is talking about getting pissed as a fart, so judgemental

People seem to be labouring over the "couldn't get to A&E" point, but what about other things that you'd need to be in your right mind to do in an an emergency.

@DuffLite, you've ignored my previous question about needing to put a child in the recovery position or do CPR.

Also, what if a child got out of the house? What if they were choking? My best friend's then-2 year old got the cord to the blinds twisted around her neck during a dinner party. What if we had been too drunk to do anything sensible about it? It's all well and good that you could call an ambulance, but that's not the only required response in an emergency and those are things anyone can do that can save someone's life well before an ambulance could ever get there.

Never really thought about it but I don’t think too much of drinking half a bottle of wine at home with husband.

i’d only ever drink more when out and dh was at home-if on his own I’d say he was very unlikely to have more than one bottle of beer. And if I was on my own at home I’d prob stick to one glass.

taxis are readily available round here though so that negates the “driving” problem

have in the past got slightly tipsy at home but never “drunk”.

Wow. Becoming a mother isn’t (or shouldn’t be) a life ruiner/life ender.

It's so sad for you that you feel life is ruined without alcohol. 😞

No because I wouldn’t want my kids to see me piss paralytic every weekend and think this is ok. If you need to get plastered every week to have a good time then there is something wrong. It all ok drinking while you are in charge of your kids thinking nothing can go wrong, until it does and believe me fuelled alcohol incidents happen ALOT. Get a babysitter.

So you want to get completely blotto and anyone who doesn't say it's a brilliant idea when you've got very young children at home must have an anxiety disorder and be a complete pearl clutching bore? You sound like someone with a drinking problem to me.

No way wouldn't happen in our house. Who knows if there's an emergency what you gona do? How do you know you won't make a mistake with one depending on how much or even little you drink? If me and hubby don't get out we take turns so one is always alcohol free with our 1 year olds and 2 year old.

I don’t drink at home. I don’t really drink at all and I don’t like drinking in front of my children. I don’t have anxiety and I don’t understand what a proper drink is?

It’s not just physically getting to a hospital though is it. Yes you can get a taxi. But if you’ve had a drink to the extent your judgment is impaired (which doesn’t take a lot), can you guarantee you’ll assess the situation correctly?

Kids illnesses often come on suddenly. The alcohol is more likely to cause you to over/under react to symptoms. It’s a gamble that most people aren’t willing to risk with children so young.

But I find the obsession with needing A&E from some posters crackers. Do you spend your life always on alert that a disaster could happen and you may need to be prepared for it? What a way to live!

It's kinda standard for some people with disabled children. But you crack on and belittle and make fun there.

If you consider your life ruined, because you can’t pour 6+ cans of cider down your neck on a Saturday night, then I pity you. But I pity your kids more when they realise they bring you less joy than binge drinking.

To kind of answer the question though, I work in a bar and we get a lot middle class, well to do parents in with kids who easily go through a few bottles of wine.

Tothine, you do know that someone who is a bit tipsy can still do stuff, all those scenarios you've mentioned are than statiscally pretty unlikely to happen

im all for people making threads abo9ut anything they like but why get so defensive when people dont agree with you

take it on the chin or dscuss it like a mature person

There's always taxis in a small emergency

It's from experience, my kids can go from happy to hospitalised in a heartbeat as a single parent I tend to stay sober just in case I literally have no-one I can reasonably rely on for help and support

are you equating not being able to get drunk as a life ruiner/ life ender?