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Original poster

Men ARE in charge

90 replies

kittycreative · 16/01/2023 19:06

do you ever think its better just to accept that men are in a position of being top dog and to let them just get on with it??

Maybe we should give up trying to get them to understand feminism and to allow them to take control , make the decisions and leave us be.

We could just enjoy ourselves and let them struggle , be who we want to be and let them deal with the major stuff. Doesn't sound bad to me!

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NuffSaidSam · 16/01/2023 19:07

No, I don't ever think that.

Soapboxqueen · 16/01/2023 19:10

Yes because that has worked out so well thus far 🙄

5128gap · 16/01/2023 19:10

Brilliant idea. You only have to look back in history to see how the more control men had the more 'fun' it was for women! What on earth were we thinking?

MilkyYay · 16/01/2023 19:13

No, because they would regularly do a shit job and it would impact me.

"Yay lets spend all the national budget on guns and warships!! Oh bugger no money left for schools...."

"No point training gynaecologists! Whoever used one of those."

"Lets just have sod all tax and everyone needs to bloody well work. We are not paying for a safety net".

Mumteedum · 16/01/2023 19:14

Like the Taliban?

Spendonsend · 16/01/2023 19:14

I do think men are in charge globally. Whenever you see big groups of world leaders together it's nearly all men.

But i dont think its been fun..

Sparklesocks · 16/01/2023 19:15

Sounds bleak. Even with more equality now we still aren’t there yet, and it wasn’t that long ago women couldn’t open their own bank accounts, marital rape was legal and you could be sacked for being pregnant. I don’t know any woman who would welcome only men being able to make such decisions again.

QueenSmartypants · 16/01/2023 19:16

Two thousand years of history shows it hasn't worked out well for us in the past

EmmaEmerald · 16/01/2023 19:16

5128gap · 16/01/2023 19:10

Brilliant idea. You only have to look back in history to see how the more control men had the more 'fun' it was for women! What on earth were we thinking?

Couldn't have said it better.

OP, you want to live the Handmaid's Tale, go ahead. Though if you feel that way, I'll take your bank card and run your life and relieve you of that responsibility.

MrsRR1 · 16/01/2023 19:17

Mumteedum · 16/01/2023 19:14

Like the Taliban?

This. I mean seriously..... the OP must be on a lighthearted wind-up

watchfulwishes · 16/01/2023 19:17

We could just enjoy ourselves and let them struggle , be who we want to be and let them deal with the major stuff. Doesn't sound bad to me!

Hmm No words to express how fucking stupid I think you sound saying this.

Yes, let's all go on a fucking spa day and leave men to run the world.

Original poster
kittycreative · 16/01/2023 19:17

yeah you're all right, I didn't take much convincing. It just seems such a struggle to get equality.
I fear for the future, I wish men didn't exist!!!

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SprayedWithDettol · 16/01/2023 19:18

I’ve never read such nonsense. I will never capitulate to men and turn my back on feminism.

watchfulwishes · 16/01/2023 19:18

MrsRR1 · 16/01/2023 19:17

This. I mean seriously..... the OP must be on a lighthearted wind-up

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I do hope it is lighthearted!

DONTMESSWITHMEDARNA · 16/01/2023 19:18

as a alpha female type personality (there are women like me around)
all my instincts are screaming no.

in all aspects of my life(and my 22 y relationship)i was in charge or took no shit from anyone let alone a man trying to be in charge

women who allow this behaviour deserve to be talked down to or treated like shit.

you take no shit from anyone and make that very clear, especially men who think just because they have a dick they are better than you or in charge

SnowyPetals · 16/01/2023 19:18

I sort of see a side of this, in that there were women in my grandmother's era (admittedly from fairly advantageous backgrounds) who were definitely able to turn it to their advantage in terms of soft influence, and being underestimated/discounted so the men never even considered was going on under their noses. But I think for poor women, men being in charge can be an awful existence.

EmmaEmerald · 16/01/2023 19:19

kittycreative · 16/01/2023 19:17

yeah you're all right, I didn't take much convincing. It just seems such a struggle to get equality.
I fear for the future, I wish men didn't exist!!!

Please Kitty

it's been quite a day for me

tell me this isn't some thinly disguised crap about a husband who won't do laundry or something.

longwayoff · 16/01/2023 19:21

How are they doing so far OP? No room for improvement? How about the lead news today? Impressed?

Spendonsend · 16/01/2023 19:21

I'm glad men exist. I think cooperation between the sexes is best to secure the best future for men and women.

BlusteryLake · 16/01/2023 19:21

DONTMESSWITHMEDARNA · 16/01/2023 19:18

as a alpha female type personality (there are women like me around)
all my instincts are screaming no.

in all aspects of my life(and my 22 y relationship)i was in charge or took no shit from anyone let alone a man trying to be in charge

women who allow this behaviour deserve to be talked down to or treated like shit.

you take no shit from anyone and make that very clear, especially men who think just because they have a dick they are better than you or in charge

Mmm... I suspect you are well educated and financially independent though, with other options in life?

Original poster
kittycreative · 16/01/2023 19:22

no not about a husband who doesn't do laundry.
I'm feeling defeated, wondering how we'll ever be equal or even listened to seriously.
Andrew Tate has made me feel lousy

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Emmamoo89 · 16/01/2023 19:22

🙄

thecatsmum12346 · 16/01/2023 19:23

I don’t think very few women have the financial freedom to ‘enjoy themselves’ as many pick up the bulk of the housework and house management, child rearing etc. And most have jobs as well.

strumpert · 16/01/2023 19:24

kittycreative · 16/01/2023 19:06

do you ever think its better just to accept that men are in a position of being top dog and to let them just get on with it??

Maybe we should give up trying to get them to understand feminism and to allow them to take control , make the decisions and leave us be.

We could just enjoy ourselves and let them struggle , be who we want to be and let them deal with the major stuff. Doesn't sound bad to me!

Great joke. Not.

You are joking right?

Original poster
kittycreative · 16/01/2023 19:25

yeah I was joking

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