Does anyone else get in PHs/bed about 6pm?

[IconicKitty]

Obviously this will be hard if you work later or have kids etc.

I work from home most days. I finish at 5. Have a bath, get in PJs and then chill in bed watching TV/ reading/ relaxing all evening. This is during the darker months really (November - March). I don't know what else to do with myself and just feel tired tbh. I go to sleep at around 9pm.

In the summer it tends to be a bit later as it feels there is more of the evening, plus I have more energy. I may go for a walk after work for example.

Is it just me who does this? I still tend to be tired in the morning though, I need more sleep during the winter than summer. In summer I wake at 5:30 no issue, in the winter it's more 7:45.

Shame this thread seems to be descending into competitive busyness and judgement from some quarters.

Hardly. Just people who don’t do as the OP does, or think that spending every evening in bed because she ‘doesn’t know what else to do with myself’ suggests mild depression or that requiring so much sleep suggests a vitamin deficiency or something like it. .

I don't like TVs in the bedroom but I'm always in PJs when I'm at home and not working. To me, they're clothes for at home.

Yeah, it wasn't so much those posts I was meaning - I agree those questions are understandable in the context - it was more the sort of 'how on earth do you get anything done or have a life OP, after work I [rattles off long list of activities]'. In places these do read like competitive busy-ness to me.

If doing anything at all after 6pm is competitive busyness to you, you have as small a life as OP does. Simply being upright and dressed of an evening is not indicative of extreme busyness, its just called being awake and not chronically depressed.

@BoadiceaOverall I know what you mean . It's a bit sneery to suggest someone is lazy because they like to relax after work. FWIW I am a pj dweller and often lie in bed from 7pm, I have 3 jobs and a child with additional needs, eat my dinner before 6 to keep the weight off, have an uncomfortable sofa and my pjs are far more glamorous than my work clothes! My housework is done and I'm not a slattern 🤣 people just enjoy different things, no need to be rude about it.

I'm the same, going to bed at 8pm most nights although I do read or watch TV. I get so uncomfortable on the sofa downstairs and partner and I don't talk that much and he likes stuff I don't on the TV and vice versa so I take myself off. I don't mind and neither does he, and quite often I will fall asleep by 8.30pm. But when its summer and the light nights kick in I'm very energetic in the evenings.

It feels like I'm constantly exhausted but I started Prozac mid Oct which tied in with the nights getting darker so I'm not sure if its the medication or the dark nights making me hibernate, or whether its a combo of both. I'm overweight too, by about 4 stone so I think that makes me very tired too.

Sleeping too much makes me more tired. I am in awe of anyone who can get home from work, get their kids and house sorted, have dinner, prep for the next day and then be in bed anytime before 11.

It's not sneery. If hyou get in bed every day by 6pm, there is no other word for you than lazy. Own it, if that;s you.

If hyou enjoy having no life at all in the evenings, then what's the issue? Just don't pretend it isn't what it is. Lazy.

@CallTheMobWife not lazy - necessary for some people
Maybe people work nights, long hours on other days, have health issues, disabilities, long covid..
I'm sick of people thinking I'm lazy because I sometimes sleep after work for 2hrs. Invisible illnesses exist, it doesn't mean I'm lazy

I don't have DC and can't socialise ATM anyway (covid) so if I'm not exercising that day I get some sleep in

If doing anything at all after 6pm is competitive busyness to you, you have as small a life as OP does.

Don't twist my words. I never said that and I don't have a small life. I do have chronic fatigue and this has afforded me a different perspective on the cult of busy. But having read your other post re 'lazy' I'm not going to waste further words explaining myself to you as you've made your feelings perfectly clear re what you think about people actually listening to their bodies and allowing themselves to rest when they feel the need.

If they are in bed becuase they "like to relax", its lazy. Nobody is talking about actual disabilities and illnesses that require bed rest.

And? I never get why "lazy" is such a bad thing
If you've nothing else to do then why not relax
There's no prizes for being competitively busy all the time

I don't get into my jammies before bed time unless I'm not feeling well. And bed time is pretty much always 10 or 10.30, read for a bit and fall asleep with headphones on to Radio 4 or a podcast.

Don't have a telly upstairs - very very rarely watch TV on the Ipad in bed - but again usually only if I'm ill.

In the evening I'd cook tea, do some tidying, watch a bit of TV, go for a walk (even in winter) with or without the dog.

Or I'm out with an exercise class or meeting a friend after work.

I used to do an evening class once a week too then work got manic but I think I might go back to it.

No, I actually have a busy life. Do you not have any interests @IconicKitty ? Sounds really boring!

Early PJ’s are lovely but my evenings are busy. I go to my horse after work until about 7pm and then have DD to get sorted for bed. Then usually a few chores to do too. Bed is usually 11pm.

I do like an early evening shower and pyjamas at the weekend when I know I don’t have to go out again. But never very early to bed, 10pm is early for me. Too much to do!

I only sleep for 5/6 hours so be a long evening if I did this. I find it a bit strange too but each to their own.

@CallTheMobWife ODFOD got no time for your goady judgement.

Did I say lazy was a bad thing? I merely said it was lazy.

And again, being upright after 6pm does not constitute competitive busyness.

I can't see the OP's behaviour as anything other than lazy. Rushing to bed an hour after she finishes work and just lying there from 6pm until nearly 8am in the Winter, is lazy.

It may or may not be a bad thing for the OP but it would certainly be a bad thing for me.

umm no - I often don't leave the office until 6.30pm and get home at about 7.30pm. If I am WFH I will usually work until 6pm at least, later if things are busy or I am on a roll with a piece of work.

If I haven't got anything planned for the evening as a minimum after work I will prepare for the next day (making lunch and ironing work clothes), 30 mins of yoga, prepare and make the evening meal, catch up on messages and personal emails, watch a bit of TV or catch up with Mr Monkey. That takes me to about 10.30pm which will be a early night for me.

Same.

I'd love to be in bed right now but I'm spoon feeding one Mac n cheese while watching Sing 2 for the 10000th time.

I used to be cool.

No

Yes we do this, was a habit I got into when the DC were small (I'm disabled so traipsing up and down the stairs to put them back to bed when they woke up was a PITA - so I started to just stay upstairs when they went to bed)

It doesn't mean I don't have a life ffs though, I happily alternate between bed and PJs at 6pm and staying out with friends til 6am! It's not one or the other 😂

And again, being upright after 6pm does not constitute competitive busyness.

And again, no one is saying it does. It's the lists of activities some posters have felt compelled to provide that are reading as competitive busyness, to me at least.

Maybe I am lazy. I don't know. I'm not offended by anyone saying that. I used to be out of the house at 6:30 until 7:30 everyday, and have very little time in the evening before going to bed after 11pm. It was miserable and I was very depressed, I couldn't have a life even if I wanted to.

I am anaemic and on iron tablets following blood tests, plus I am low in B12. I take antidepressants too which I know can contribute towards tiredness.

But unfortunately there really isn't much to do out of the house in winter where I live, the nearest town is 10 miles away. And as I've said previously, friends and family live at least 45 miles away.

So I find myself watching tv and reading, and yes, often tired. I do try and do my 10k steps at lunch and before work. At weekends I try and get out and get all the housework done.