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Partners friend sending inappropriate images

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lucie333 · 15/01/2023 01:26

So me and my partner have got 2 boys together. 3 & 9 months. I'm very hurt by what I've just seen. My iPad was connected to his fb messenger app and when I was watching a film I seen that his friend had sent what I thought was me 14 photos on fb messenger so I clicked on them! It was 14 images of women from our town ( naked) no idea why he has them as he has a girl friend himself! He's out with him now obviously thinking about it. Am I being dramatic thinking I need to leave this relationship?

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TicketBoo23 · 16/01/2023 10:03

BadNomad · 16/01/2023 09:54

makes it even worse that he's paying for pictures of girls when he has a girlfriend

You don't know that he paid for them. Where did the other woman say he got the photos from?

Rtft.

He paid for one set on only fans.

Don't know about other set yet

BadNomad · 16/01/2023 10:06

TicketBoo23 · 16/01/2023 10:03

Rtft.

He paid for one set on only fans.

Don't know about other set yet

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You RTFT.

Nowhere does it say he paid for them. Just that they came from her Only Fans. Anyone could have shared them around.

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lucie333 · 16/01/2023 10:14

BadNomad · 16/01/2023 09:54

makes it even worse that he's paying for pictures of girls when he has a girlfriend

You don't know that he paid for them. Where did the other woman say he got the photos from?

He told my partner he paid for them- to be more pacific he pays monthly subscription fees to each person he wants to see. That's why I said he paid for them, sorry should have stated this.

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BadNomad · 16/01/2023 10:21

lucie333 · 16/01/2023 10:14

He told my partner he paid for them- to be more pacific he pays monthly subscription fees to each person he wants to see. That's why I said he paid for them, sorry should have stated this.

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If you knew this then I don't get why you tracked the women down to tell them. They aren't stolen images or revenge porn. It's "just" porn. It isn't a police matter.

TicketBoo23 · 16/01/2023 10:38

BadNomad · 16/01/2023 10:06

You RTFT.

Nowhere does it say he paid for them. Just that they came from her Only Fans. Anyone could have shared them around.

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Anyone could've guessed he'd paid for them - before op confirmed it.

That's the whole purpose of only fabs

Use your brain.

TicketBoo23 · 16/01/2023 10:39

BadNomad · 16/01/2023 10:21

If you knew this then I don't get why you tracked the women down to tell them. They aren't stolen images or revenge porn. It's "just" porn. It isn't a police matter.

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She didn't know if both sold them or which woman had sold them.

Ditto, regarding using your brain.

Thesonglastslonger · 16/01/2023 10:40

I’m so sorry OP.

What the hell is wrong with him, that he’s throwing away a real relationship with the mother of his children, because he’d rather wank over other women who he knows didn’t consent to him having their pictures.

Please don’t let this make you feel insecure. This is all about him. His need for a quick wank over women he knows in real life, who didn’t consent to him seeing them naked. 🤢

TicketBoo23 · 16/01/2023 10:42

he knows didn’t consent to him having their pictures.

The only fans "model" must have known her sold images could end up shared with men who didn't buy them.

The other woman we don't know yet.

However the principles around this are the same. There is simply no fucking way these guys would find it acceptable if op and the other partner were getting nude photos of local modelly/gym bunny/hung men for masturbation and sharing.

TicketBoo23 · 16/01/2023 10:45

These type of guys tend to think you're lucky they're not cheating on ou and that's ,"all" they're doing.

Your bfs previous interactions you caught him at sound well dodgy. Regardless of what he said about his "intentions". And that's only what you caught him at. People tend not to get caught at stuff they very rarely do.

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lucie333 · 16/01/2023 11:46

Can I just say, I still not think just because the first girl does only fans that it gives his friend the right to pass them about, that's still really wrong in my eyes, but it is a tough one I suppose. The 2nd girl as far as I'm aware is not! But I'm not 100% as she didn't tell me and it's not my place to ask

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