I know I am AIBU, but whenever child-free ppl complain about being tired I get annoyed, barring medical/health issues

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This is just a secret confession here, in the anonymity of the internet, and I hope I have enough social skills to disguise my true feelings. Which is of extreme annoyance when child-free people complain about being tired (given there are no aggravating health concerns). (In my social circle at least, people complain about being tired and busy all the time).

The tiredness that comes with managing kids - especially more than one, and especially for lone/single parents of which there seems to be more and more- is just on a different level. Needed to get that off my chest.

Also OP it just makes you sound, bitter, envious and unhappy with your life choices which I'm guessing isn't the case but it does sound like that so careful who you disclose these resentful thoughts and feelings to.

Its all relative though. A woman living somewhere where she has to walk 10 miles with her baby strapped to her in the heat just to get water, would possibly think you were a spoilt little princess 🤷‍♀️

Well this didn't turn out how I expected

What an absolutely ludicrous attitude to have.

Colossally wanky thread.

Here's your medal for being the most tired of all🥇

I always get mad when people who decide to have kids moan about being tired, overworked, stressed - didn't they know what having kids meant?

I think the funniest thing about OP's post is the level of delusion she has in thinking she can give permission to childfree people as to the conditions under which they can and can't be tired. And then instead of thinking 'OK this annoys me but that's just me,' coming onto SM and revealing her unpleasant attitude to a potentially huge audience. Good job it is anonymous, OP. I'd be cringing if I were you.

You're right OP, all those years undergoing IVF treatment, miscarrying babies repeatedly, suffering sleepless nights what with the worry and heartbreak of it all sure made me leap out of bed in a morning full of energy.

Incidentally, I'm one of those annoying ones whose child (when I eventually got one) slept through the night from 8 weeks and I've never, not once, had a sleepless night with him.

Oh dear. Well since that's your attitude, I'd like my taxes back please that go towards paying for your childcare and then your children's education.

Maybe you just weren't listening?

All I hear from my friends who are parents is how hard and exhausting it is. Podcasts, news articles, novels. Every account of parenting I read about or hear about is about how numb crushing exhausting and relentless it is. Rewarding, sometimes, but hard, always.

That's why I decided not to do it.

Okay

@Travis1 yeah, I agree with you.

To the posters who told me to fuck off, no YOU fuck off.

aren’t you scary

‘Nothing prepares your for being a parent’

No. not the blogs, blogs, parenting forums, magazines, Facebook pages there’s nowhere where you can research and prepare yourself. 🙄

What actually happens is people want a baby, so ignore all the evidence that it’s not easy and assume they will be fine and that anything negative they read won’t happen to them. Humans do it over loads of things.

I agree you're probably correct that their tiredness doesn't compare.....but why the hell can't they talk about it ? You sound like a very competitive person. Conversation between friends isn't about winning. Your poor friends...

Tiredness is not a competition. We are all doing our best.

Yes! Every time someone tells me that no one told them how hard being a parent is I'm baffled. Because as a 40 odd year old childless woman people seem to have gone out of their way to make sure I know just how hard being a parent can be. People like the OP here.

I agree with you, OP. I think it but don't say it though!

There’s no way I would disclose to anyone I work with etc why I’m tired. Anyone who would judge me for being childfree and tired isn’t the kind of person I would want to be friends with anyway, so I don’t care what they think.

I have been tired since I was 18, now 33, from going out partying which was my choice but then also working as cabin crew and getting up at 2/3am and not getting home til 6/7pm, having to crack a smile and apply makeup, serve drinks in heels at 5am was vile your eyes and throat dry from the cabin pressure, then I had babies and I was tired for years. I think the cabin crew job was up there with being just as tired as having children, sorry about that.

😂🤣love this

Tough if it annoys you and you're tired from looking after the kids that you chose to have. You don't have the monopoly on tiredness, grow up, you're sounding ridiculous 🙄
Written from my happy, peaceful, child free home on a relaxing Friday evening 😜

I have a couple of friends that have used the "you don't know what love is" line.
I often tell them about my lovely sunday lay ins, breakfast in bed, last minute weekends away. They soon shut up.
I also have no problem letting them know I'm tired.
It's not a competition, but if you try to make me feel like a lesser person, I'll remind you what you gave up.