For not wanting to stay with a couple?

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LadyMaine · 13/01/2023 05:02

I've been working on a creative project with with X for two years. We live at opposite ends of the country.

We planned two nights in a luxury 2 bedroomed apart-hotel a few miles from my house to plan the next stage of the project. We'll be spitting the cost 50/50. The idea was to give us 48 hours of clear headspace to work on the project.

Only after I booked the hotel she told me that her husband would be coming with her. (I'm single). I don't know him and don't really want to spend what I thought was going to be a 'girls' worktrip with him. I've suggested that we change to a one bedroom apartment and I just join her for work during the daytimes.

She's really keen than I come and promises that he will be out sightseeing during the daytimes. He will also buy dinner on the first night to make it up to me. She has also apologized for not asking me beforehand. The trip is her birthday present to him.

Am I being unreasonable for not wanting to stay with a couple?

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T1Dmama · 15/01/2023 20:17

No not unreasonable.
I wouldn’t want to be in a house with a man I didn’t know. She should’ve asked you before you booked it.
I absolutely hate it when people assume it’s ok to bring an extra person.
I would tell her you’re going to book your own room in a B&B. She just seeing it as a cheap way of having time away with him and isn’t considering your views

T1Dmama · 15/01/2023 20:47

LadyMaine · 13/01/2023 06:06

I thought about that. I'm going to give her the option of keeping the two bed or changing to a one bed. Either way we can work in the communal spaces of the hotel which are spectacular and lots of people use it as a daytime work space paying only for their food.

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Send her the details and say she needs to change the booking and pay the full amount as you’ll now just stay at your own house and meet her only to do the project.
just apologise and say, ‘I’m sorry but I thought it would just be us and I’m not keen to share my evenings with a couple.

mustgetoffmn · 18/01/2023 01:16

LadyMaine · 13/01/2023 10:43

Update

She will keep the penthouse apartment. I'll sleep at home, and we'll work during the day.

They will pay for the apartment and also take me out to dinner on the first evening as a thank you for the big-discount.

I think that's a win-win. I'm so relieved. Thanks again all for your replies, they really helped me think through it.

Signing off for now.

Great so husband stays at home?

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