Friend has pulled out of holiday the day before we are due to fly out

[OkIy]

Hi,

I have had a ski holiday booked with my friend for the last six weeks. She is a bit flaky but I’ve never been in this position with her. I thought she was being unusually vague about the details and my suspicions have been confirmed today.

She has just texted me saying she doesn’t think she can’t come as she has pulled a muscle during yoga earlier this week and it’s too painful. I was with her last night and there didn’t seem anything wrong with her. I think she is either making this up or is really exaggerating (she can be a bit of a hypochondriac sometimes).

I thought she had been dropping hints she might not be able to come but I triple checked before the cut off for no refunds came. She told me to go ahead.

I have paid for everything and it’s nonrefundable (we have done this multiple times in the past with no issues so I wasn’t being overly naive). I haven’t discussed this aspect with her yet as I am too upset. We are meant to fly out tomorrow.

I am not sure what to do. My birthday is on Friday as well. It wasn’t originally envisioned as a birthday weekend just a cheapish off peak break :(

I'm so glad you are enjoying your holiday.

Have a lovely time @OkIy ( and Okly mum ) .

Great update, hoorah for Mum, I’m sure she is loving spending time with you.

So pleased to hear this. Thank you for updating 🙂

How strange to just write ‘Yetti’ instead of ‘Yeti ate her’ or whatever. Still, someone found it funny so maybe I’m just thick. Wouldn’t have given it a second thought if it hadn’t been a post which quoted me. Couldn’t work out what they were on about.

Back to the point…

So glad you’ve gone away, OP, I hope you manage to have a great holiday. Your friend has behaved really badly. There was a strong chance her pulling out at the eleventh hour would ruin your holiday, it’s through your flexibility and resilience that it hasn’t.

At least your screen and keyboard are safe from coffee being spat all over them as you burst out laughing from the hilarity of the joke.

enjoy your hols!

Oh sorry eastegg I just found applesandcarrots' comment funny because the OP was going Skiing and it implied that she hadn't come back to the thread because a Yeti had got her.

Your powers of inference were stronger than mine! I think if I’d said ‘where has OP gone?’ I would have got it, but I was just asking OP what had happened. ‘Yetti’ was a total non-sequitur to my mind. Glad she hasn’t been eaten by yeti …

So presumably your mum is paying? I hope you get at least some money out of her and you aren’t out of pocket.

I would think that changing names in an aeroplane ticket isn’t cheap. But maybe a friend would be happy to pay that extra to come with you as the rest would be free perhaps. The ‘friend’ who let you down needs to know that she owes you half the cost of the holiday, and ask her for it to reach before you go away as you will need funds when abroad. Be sympathetic though as she may be genuine, although I doubt it. But give her the benefit of the doubt.

Didn’t see your post. How lovely that your mum came too.. Mums and daughters spending good time together is such a pleasure, I had a surprise holiday with my daughter last year. Also glad that your friend is arranging to repay you. Even if she does have financial issues she must have realised that she still owes you, or have you gone the extra mile and given her time to pay you back?

Have a lovely time with your mum, OP!

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So nice that you've managed to salvage your getaway. Yay!

Sorry your friend let you down, though. :(

Glad you're having a great time with your Mum anyway, OP. It kind of reads that you're both single and child free and sometimes the pressure and desire to keep up can be overwhelming, especially nowadays with social media telling everyone what their lives should be like. Yes you're friend behaved like a dick but I'd give probably give her a break on this one and just ensure you're never in this position again.

Aww that’s a sweet ending for you and your lovely mum OP! Have a fab time! Your so-called friend should be hanging her head in shame though.

Usually travel insurance will cover you if you or anyone in your party has to cancel for medical reasons.
I would ask her to forward you a medical note ASAP.

That's great I hope you and your DM enjoy your holiday
Make sure you get your money back from your " Friend"

Fabulous news that you still went! I’m very glad for you. I know it’s not what you expected but have a superb time. Wish I was there myself!

If you can ski it’s absolutely a holiday you can do on your own. Please don’t undermine other people’s confidence.

Happy Birthday OP and hope you and your mum have a lovely holiday - I can't think of anyone better you could have taken.

Happy Birthday @OkIy Awesome that your mum has gone with you. Have a wonderful time 😊🎂🥳

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