Eating meat, veggie dp does not know

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My dp is veggie and early on I also did the same as it’s a big thing for him. I still sometimes eat good meat at meals out but obviously don’t tell him. My sister knows but no-one else. I’m starting to feel quite guilty about it, how wrong actually is it?!

Thought you were going to say you were feeding him meat on the quiet. Which would be shitty.

Don’t be wet. You’re a grown adult and if you can’t deal with this then you’ll never cope with kids etc

You are far too considerate of his controlling nature. You would never insist he eats meat so why does he feel it necessary to insist you don't?
I know lots of people who eat meat or fish when out as it means they can have occasional treats but don't have meat cooking smells in the house.
I would never be in a relationship with someone that tried to control my diet anyway.

Omission is not the same as lying. You sound like a vegan. It's simply forcing your views onto someone else because you think you're better or right.

It's still controlling though isn't it, you can dress it up in as many woke phrases as you like

I’d say you need to tell him, just for the sake of being open. You’re 💯 not doing anything wrong BTW. We eat vegan about twice a week but definitely don’t describe ourselves as vegan, we love steak too much!

Don't be so sure he doesn't know. I'm an omnivore but sometimes I might have meat free meals for maybe 5days before tucking into a Sunday roast. It might be my digestion, my taste buds or something else but I definitely feel like I have 'meat breath'.

That puts a completely different slant on this. Yes you most definitely are being unreasonable. You are deceiving him to the highest order.
Imagine he said was it OK to cheat occasionally (when out with the lads who all knew and promised not to tell), or maybe had a cheeky bacon butties when saying he was a Muslim.
You are dishonest. You are not compatible.

Is it though? This is his belief system. He laid his cards on the table and asked her if she was in. She agreed. Would it be controlling if eg he said he wouldnt feel the same about her if she had a termination or became a Tory/Labour supporter? He hasn't sprung this on her. She's agreed to willingly embrace this way of life. She needs to be honest.

It’s only as controlling as any other conditions of a relationship, eg not cheating, shared hobbies, shared political views, shared views on money, shared views on where you want to live etc etc. just because you don’t agree with this one doesn’t make it more controlling. They are just not compatible.

He's not wrong to want to have a vegetarian partner.

You are not wrong to want to want to eat meat, whether all the time or occasionally.

I think that if when you started seeing each other, you were or he thought you were vegetarian, it's not unreasonable for him to be upset now you want to eat meat. If he knew you were omnivorous when you started dating, then he can't really complain if you say "look, I've tried it, and I would still like to eat meat occasionally when outside the house".

But lying isn't the way to go, it's not good and for either of you if you want a healthy relationship.