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To bring a fizzy drink to a meal?

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mapofthechicks · 10/01/2023 19:40

So, I visited my boyfriend's family for the first time on Sunday

His mum cooked for us all. Lovely meal. When I arrived, I came with a bottle of lemonade. I said this to his mum ''I've got this, can I pop it in the fridge? Please help yourselves''

When having dinner, I asked for a glass (there were only small wine glasses on the table).

His mum said 'but we're having wine?'

I said no thanks, I'll just have some of the lemonade please'

She seemed really Confused at me!

We had a nice meal and then my boyfriend mentioned to me today 'Mum was really confused about your lemonade! Maybe don't do that next time Wink'

AIBU to think it's fine? It wasn't just for me. Anyone could've helped themselves but it was so strange. It was as if I had placed 10g of coke on the table and told everyone to help themselves to a line

Very odd indeed surely?

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Needmorelego · 13/01/2023 12:36

@Sparklingbrook or you could just pour the evil forbidden 7up into a wine glass - oh the horror 😱

Sparklingbrook · 13/01/2023 12:42

Needmorelego · 13/01/2023 12:36

@Sparklingbrook or you could just pour the evil forbidden 7up into a wine glass - oh the horror 😱

You could, depends on wine glass size though.

thing47 · 13/01/2023 14:32

I would suggest that the next time OP takes her 7Up in cans – much easier than decanting from a 2L bottle into a small wine glass and fits better on the table too 😂

Iwantmyoldnameback · 13/01/2023 15:49

What do you all mean time has moved on? Are we not following the rules for the halcyon days between the wars when the non-Us knew their place and the Hons partied with Nazis and Blackshirts?

Technonan · 13/01/2023 16:04

I think I'd be a bit perturbed if someone brought a bottle of 7UP when I'd cooked dinner. I always provide soft drinks for the non-drinkers and the drivers. To me, it would be a bit like someone bringing a bag of oven chips as their prefrerred veg.

Once I knew someone, I'd be OK with it, (apart from wondering why anyone would choose to drink malted battery acid, but to each their own), but for a first meeting it seems a bit clunky, tbh.

DesertIslandCondiment · 13/01/2023 17:27

Technonan · 13/01/2023 16:04

I think I'd be a bit perturbed if someone brought a bottle of 7UP when I'd cooked dinner. I always provide soft drinks for the non-drinkers and the drivers. To me, it would be a bit like someone bringing a bag of oven chips as their prefrerred veg.

Once I knew someone, I'd be OK with it, (apart from wondering why anyone would choose to drink malted battery acid, but to each their own), but for a first meeting it seems a bit clunky, tbh.

You would be anxious and upset?

DesertIslandCondiment · 13/01/2023 22:36

Oven chips made me laugh. It is not the same.

NoNewsIsGoodNews · 13/01/2023 23:35

Outfor150 · 12/01/2023 22:04

Everyone is out of order here. The mum shouldn’t have commented, and then mentioned it to the boyfriend. She, as host, should have been more gracious. But the OP’s behaviour is very odd, so not surprising the mum was taken aback. To bring a bottle of lemonade for to drink alongside a roast dinner the first time of meeting the boyfriend’s family is completely crass and lacking in any manners. I’m cringing with embarrassment at how awful the situation must have been.

I’m cringing with embarrassment at how awful the situation must have been.

It must be tough to be someone like you. Who crumbles when faced with insignificant differences to your social norm. I would hate to see how you cope with something actually embarrassing.

Nothing more stressful than a snobby and pretentious host. A bottle of 7UP would turn you into an embarrassed wreck? Really quite odd behaviour.

RampantIvy · 14/01/2023 07:36

The hand wringing over something as minor as a bottle of pop has got to become a mumset classic.

thing47 · 14/01/2023 08:41

RampantIvy · 14/01/2023 07:36

The hand wringing over something as minor as a bottle of pop has got to become a mumset classic.

👏Definitely. When it comes down to it, what a number of the objectors are saying is that it would have been fine for OP to take her own soft drink if only it had been something posher than 7Up.

A clearer definition of snobbery would be quite hard to find.

Sparklingbrook · 14/01/2023 08:50

A clearer definition of snobbery would be quite hard to find

You’ll find it for sure if you start a thread about liking instant coffee 😂

thing47 · 14/01/2023 10:31

Oh really? I don't drink coffee at all, of any sort, so maybe those threads have passed me by…

Sparklingbrook · 14/01/2023 10:38

thing47 · 14/01/2023 10:31

Oh really? I don't drink coffee at all, of any sort, so maybe those threads have passed me by…

They are comedy gold. I like a nice coffee but those threads are next level.
Even the coffee machines people own are the wrong ones. 😂

limitedperiodonly · 14/01/2023 11:10

Lockheart · 10/01/2023 19:46

It's a bit odd albeit hardly the end of the world. A present of a nice bottle of wine together with some sort of posher sparkling presse (for example) if you don't drink would probably be more usual unless you have very specific dietary requirements. Turning up empty handed other than lemonade for you might come across a bit unthinking.

Save me from people who try to force sparkling presse on me when I'm not drinking and then get all pouty and say: "But we've bought it specially" when I say I want a glass of cold water, thanks. Tap will do.

I don't like any soft drinks and that includes bloody lemongrass and elderflower cordial no matter how much people have paid for it because it's posh.

I do drink alcohol but sometimes I don't like what other people think is a "nice" bottle. Instead of saying so or interrogating them as to what else they've got in their drinks cupboard, I ask politely for a glass of water, please. The number of people who say: "Ooh no! You can have that! It's not special. I've got a lovely rosewater and perfume presse for you. Go on! It will just go to waste."

You've offered me a drink. I said I want water. You have a tap. It's not as if I'm asking you to go down a well for it so just give me a glass.

Same as @mapofthechicks's lemonade. She actually went to the trouble of bringing a bottle possibly because she guessed her boyfriend's family wouldn't have it. Why not Just go to the fridge and get it for her? And if it's not a posh cloudy one stomped by Italian peasants just be a good host and pour her the Sprite she likes

harrassedmumto3 · 14/01/2023 11:11

Is the lemonade the only thing you brought? No flowers or chocolates, for example?

harrassedmumto3 · 14/01/2023 11:12

So sorry, have just read that you brought chocolates.

Sparklingbrook · 14/01/2023 11:12

harrassedmumto3 · 14/01/2023 11:11

Is the lemonade the only thing you brought? No flowers or chocolates, for example?

It was days ago now and I’d have to go right back but I believe chocolates were also offered.
No idea of type though- hope not Ferrero Rocher or anything. 🙈😂

limitedperiodonly · 14/01/2023 11:32

My mum didn't drink so she used to ask me to bring the wine for family dinners. She used to serve it in wine glasses my dad got free at the petrol station. They were from back in the '70s when linking drinking and driving wasn't such a big issue. But like I said she didn't drink and he preferred beer so they didn't use them much. And as you can probably imagine, they weren't the kind of glasses that smashed easily.

We always brought chocolates., mind. We're not philistines. Ferrero Rocher but not the common ones, the white chocolate ones sprinkled with desiccated coconut that might appeal to the more sophisticated palates on this thread and also her.

She'd always get in a bottle of R White's lemonade for my brother because though I believe it was dreadfully common that's what he liked and he was always driving.

Sparklingbrook · 14/01/2023 11:38

My local Waitrose no longer sells Ferrero Rocher. It’s a sign.
I remember the big plastic box with lots of different flavours.
Wouldn’t know what to take chocolate wise now, a recent thread on here every single make came up and was deemed awful.
Go retro with some Black Magic maybe. 😁

youshouldnthaveasked · 14/01/2023 11:50

Sparklingbrook · 14/01/2023 11:12

It was days ago now and I’d have to go right back but I believe chocolates were also offered.
No idea of type though- hope not Ferrero Rocher or anything. 🙈😂

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Oh god here come the chocolate snobs 😂 what overexpensive chocolate would you suggest?!

thing47 · 14/01/2023 11:54

I'm pretty sure @Sparklingbrook was taking piss with that post… Judging by her other comments.

We took Black Magic to SIL and BIL's at Christmas. Was a bit concerned it might not seem posh enough, but then I noticed they had bought themselves an identical box 😂

Sparklingbrook · 14/01/2023 12:05

thing47 · 14/01/2023 11:54

I'm pretty sure @Sparklingbrook was taking piss with that post… Judging by her other comments.

We took Black Magic to SIL and BIL's at Christmas. Was a bit concerned it might not seem posh enough, but then I noticed they had bought themselves an identical box 😂

It was a bit tongue in cheek, I’ve no idea if the chocolate hierarchy and a gift’s a gift really. I thought maybe FR would be frowned upon based on the chocolate thread. Not sure.

LuckySantangelo35 · 14/01/2023 12:34

What’s wrong with ferrero rocher??

Sparklingbrook · 14/01/2023 12:37

LuckySantangelo35 · 14/01/2023 12:34

What’s wrong with ferrero rocher??

I don’t know. I assume there’s a chocolate hierarchy the same as a lemonade one. I assumed after the chocolate thread it wouldn’t rate highly on here. Everyone was saying Hotel Chocolat was the pits! 🤷‍♀️

RampantIvy · 14/01/2023 12:39

LuckySantangelo35 · 14/01/2023 12:34

What’s wrong with ferrero rocher??

I'm not a chocolate snob. I just don't like Ferrero Rocher or any Cadburys chocolate.

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