To bring a fizzy drink to a meal?

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So, I visited my boyfriend's family for the first time on Sunday

His mum cooked for us all. Lovely meal. When I arrived, I came with a bottle of lemonade. I said this to his mum ''I've got this, can I pop it in the fridge? Please help yourselves''

When having dinner, I asked for a glass (there were only small wine glasses on the table).

His mum said 'but we're having wine?'

I said no thanks, I'll just have some of the lemonade please'

She seemed really at me!

We had a nice meal and then my boyfriend mentioned to me today 'Mum was really confused about your lemonade! Maybe don't do that next time '

AIBU to think it's fine? It wasn't just for me. Anyone could've helped themselves but it was so strange. It was as if I had placed 10g of coke on the table and told everyone to help themselves to a line

Very odd indeed surely?

I suppose this is it for me - If someone came to my house and had whatever they wanted to drink along with me, I wouldn't register in my brain that any other response was needed or thought about other than 'let me get you a glass' or ' let me put that in the fridge for you'

Me too. It seems a strange thing to require a conversation about. Does she always get so confused?

I'm still mystified by the responses on this thread.

think about the food. If someone invited you to lunch but you show up with a MacDonalds in case you don't like their food, that would be incredibly rude.

Same with drinks. if they invite you round, they provide the drinks. if you don't like what they have, you'll have to manage for one meal to be polite.

obviously in the case of allergies etc, you could make special requests for food / drink. But otherwise, the guests should eat & drink what the hosts serve and not bring their own.

im with you op i drink lemonade why do we have to drink alcohol-i lug my leomonade round everywhere

but we drink wine! thats nice for them but not everyone does including me

so everytime u go round you cant drnk what you prefer?

dont live far from billericay btw

Are their names Mick and Pam?

7Up is not lemonade, so stop calling it that. If you had taken actual lemonade along and had some before the meal, not with it, that might be different.

and if your teetototal?

This thread is making me smile. There is only one issue - this is the UK after all!

It is blatantly a good old fashioned class thing. Bringing a bottle of 7up is to a lunch party is considered lower class. Bringing a nice bottle of presse is not lower class.

Must be very restrictive being so uptight. How ever do you cope?

you sound utterly bonkers.

'broken social conventions'
'don't know how to behave properly in public'

what an odd person you must be.

This is bonkers though. If they wanted 7up they'd have had it in.

I'm WC, happy to cater to tee totalled, but would find it definitely weird for someone to bring 7up to a meal. And I'd hand it back to them afterwards as well.

I wouldn't have commented, but an adult needing to have fizzy pop (to the point that they bring some along just in case the host has none) is not the norm in my friendship circle.

That's very similar!

The funniest thing of all is, they are lower class.

No it’s not. Water isn’t lesser, or a fob-off. It’s fundamental to life. I know of only one person who doesn’t drink water at all, only fizzy drinks; I know far more people who drink water with meals – other drinks are for designated driver night at the pub, or mixers at parties. But water with food is a fairly standard offering.

Not saying the op is but a person could be allergic or an alcoholic or on medication where they cant drink

There is lots of reasons people can not be able (nothing wrong with not wanting too) to drink alcohol

I imagine anyone able to host a dinner has a working water tap.

It's really not comparable to bringing a McDonald's along to a dinner invite ffs. How can it be? Clue is in the name, going for dinner

Do you have many people round for sit down meals then? It’s obviously touched a rather large nerve as you keep alluding to your boyfriend’s mother being working class (meant as an insult) and have now bitchily chucked in she had your boyfriend young (whilst bread crumbing your own pregnancy). As another poster above so eloquently put it, social rules are there to help people get along. You seem determined to make a holy show out of not complying. That’s why so many posters assume you are young.

As is 7UP

I'm 💯 sure I've read this before, so there must be someone who has the exact same problem! Will try to find the thread.

So glad I'm from a non snobby background. OP I dont think you done anything wrong. I was at my ex MIL's for dinner the other week and was told to help myself to a drink and the option was 7up

Why does it honestly bother anyone that a guest wouldn't want water and just wanted something else? Which you understandably might not have in, no issue at all. So why is it do offensive? Surely you want your guest to enjoy their meal and if that means they have their favourite soft drink with it, why would you be so bothered?

Live and let live.

Noone is allergic to water though.

That's different to dietary restrictions, which you obviously communicate beforehand.

If you were invited for a meal, you would fail to mention that you are allergic to milk, but bring your own milk free meal with you, would you? No, you'd tell the hosts im advance, so that they are able to cater appropriately.

Of course it's poor hosting to only offer guests water or wine. Veering into the 'dreadfully poor hosting' category I'd say.

^ wouldn't fail to mention