To bring a fizzy drink to a meal?

[mapofthechicks]

So, I visited my boyfriend's family for the first time on Sunday

His mum cooked for us all. Lovely meal. When I arrived, I came with a bottle of lemonade. I said this to his mum ''I've got this, can I pop it in the fridge? Please help yourselves''

When having dinner, I asked for a glass (there were only small wine glasses on the table).

His mum said 'but we're having wine?'

I said no thanks, I'll just have some of the lemonade please'

She seemed really at me!

We had a nice meal and then my boyfriend mentioned to me today 'Mum was really confused about your lemonade! Maybe don't do that next time '

AIBU to think it's fine? It wasn't just for me. Anyone could've helped themselves but it was so strange. It was as if I had placed 10g of coke on the table and told everyone to help themselves to a line

Very odd indeed surely?

I’m not uptight at all. But you asked if you were being unreasonable. You were. The mum shouldn’t have spoken to the son about it, though.

I think it’s weird you didn’t get asked what you would like to drink for the meal tbh

This thread is absolutely batshit!

Since when has it been rude or weird to drink fizzy drinks with dinner?? I drink but if I was out for dinner I would always order a diet coke etc with dinner and have alcohol after it.

So many crazy people out there, drink whatever you want with your dinner and ignore the weirdos!

Do we know that this is all that was on offer? We know they didn't have 7up, but they may have had other non-alcoholic options.

I think the summary of this thread is I'm a very different person to these people

Like I say, someone walking into my house for dinner who had a bottle of something they wanted to drink would get no other response other than 'let me get you a glass' or 'let me put that in the fridge for you'

Utterly pathetic to thing someone is breaking social norms and acting rogue for having a soft drink

I'm not 'judging' her class at all. It's ridiculous and over the top. As I've mentioned many times now, we are the same 'class'

Ohhh 🤣🤣🤣 you can come round mine with your 7up, even happy shopper cola if you wish. We are in Basildon so 🤣

You do understand that when people bring a bottle it’s usually a gift for the host? If you want to drink something else it’s fine to bring that as well. Have you had limited access to society growing up? Or never watched a soap even?

7up is lemonade. Yanbu. You brought something for the table. A couple of things in fact. So you were a polite guest. Polite doesn't have to mean pissed.

UK attitudes to booze are v fucked up.

I love all the mock outrage and judgement of the OP wanting a specific drink with her meal.

You know full well if someone's posted "AIBU to be annoyed the host didn't have any soft drinks to serve with the meal they invited me to?"

10000 x responses of "if you wanted a soft drink you should have taken your own"

your host might have had a variety of drinks options available. either way, as a guest you should trust your host to be able to host properly, not pre-empt them by showing up with your own options of either food or drink.

if you arrive and they offer only wine or water, then you can have a good moan afterwards. but during the meal, you should be 100% polite and put up with it. no one needs 7up for a meal.

100% this!! You sound very immature. If my DS’s 17 year old girlfriend turned up with a bottle of 7up, no problem. If an adult did then it’s just a bit odd. Take something nice as it’s meant to be to share - there’s lots of nice lemonades or presses in a glass bottles. It’s polite to take a bottle of wine as a gift.

Tell me you’re desperate to be seen as a higher class than you actually are without saying it.

7up is fine FFS.

It’s not Buckingham Palace and even if it was bringing 7up is absolutely fine.

Really the host should have had a range of soft drinks for those that don’t drink alcohol.

I honestly think this is one of the most batshit threads I’ve ever read!

I cannot imagine anyone in RL would think someone was immature for bringing a bottle of 7up.

@Lilyhop I'm in Laindon Not to be confused with 'Langdon Hills'. I suppose they think I fled the Holy Lands and went back to my slum

@mapofthechicks you obviously don't think you are being unreasonable and haven't from the outset so not sure why you have run this past MN AIBU.

What was the meal, OP?

They didn’t provide drinks for her though did they? ‘But we’re having wine’ the confused Mum said

YANBU. Your BF’s family appear to be rather insecure - it is considered ill-mannered to make guests feel uncomfortable.

www.mumsnet.com/talk/_chat/4285750-is-it-rude-to-do-this-when-invited-for-dinner

you keep alluding to your boyfriend’s mother being working class (meant as an insult) and have now bitchily chucked in she had your boyfriend young

Yes, it's not a good look. Does your BF know you slag his family off like this? It's far worse than her commenting about the 7up.

All the Hyacinth Buckets on this thread...

Good question as I know some nice wines go well with meals.

It was a roast

YANBU at all.
Surely the main thing when hosting people is that you want them to be comfortable. I always ask what people can eat/drink before hosting anyone, but even then if they wanted to bring something they feel comfortable with I have no problem with that. Why should they go thirsty for hours because of some stupid outdated "social convention".

I take oat milk with me when I visit people because I can't have cow milk and I don't expect everyone to have oat milk in. I could just not have a cup of tea at all but then I'd be thirsty and missing out on a hot drink while everyone else has one. Isn't that more awkward?

I’m actually in great berry Langdon hills- so I am actually better than you 😆😆😉but - used to live on (gasp) somercotes 🤣

Sorry working class people aren’t desperate to be seen as middle class because they want to enjoy wine with their Sunday dinner. I have never seen so much inverted snobbery in my life.

I guess I do secretly judge someone that doesn't like tap water..
Other drinks on the table esp reds/ orange's look cheap/ offends the hosts look of the dinner table.

It's not like she poured it on the food 😂