I'm just about to respond to a few posts on here. I'll be accused no doubt of mansplaining and trying to brush things what I said off, but I'm not doing either, and do feel that I have a right to defend myself against accusations levelled against me and reply to some posts.
@MrsPuggyWuggy
Also in September the op was posting about being single and how unfair it was that most things are made for couples/families. So either they have loads of boyfriends who all have horrible brothers, or the poor boyfriend keeps taking op back for some unknown reason
This is a prime example of something I brought up on another thread quite recently where people falsely attributed a post to me and then subsequently other people accused me of things I didn't even say in the first place. I did NOT say that I was single on the thread you are talking about, I was talking about the difficulties of living in a single person HOUSE people face when they are faced with suddenly not living in the same house as their partner. But anyone reading what you just wrote and not familiar with the thread itself might have automatically taken your words to be true, when they're not. On another thread I was repeatedly asked to explain myself from multiple users about something another poster said I had said when I didn't!
@daybroke
Jesus you were so rude on that other thread. Picking at that poster. Were you drunk then too?
What poster? What thread? I have no idea what you are talking about here.
@EyesOnThePies
This is the basis of apology. Apology is not transactional. If you feel that, say so.
It is also OK to say “When you make comments like xyz I feel insulted and dismissed. It seems very rude and I wonder why you do it’. But NOT as a justification or ‘yes but..’ for using threatening violent language.
I've read this multiple times but have no idea what you're trying to say.
@ConfusedNT
Also I would have more sympathy for you being mocked for using a word incorrectly if i hadnt just been reading a thread where you spent about 5 or so posts berating a woman pedantically for using a word in a way that you thought was wrong, refusing to accept her apology and continuing to berate her...
Are you sure this was me? It doesn't sound like me, or any thread I've been on recently, perhaps a similar username to mine?
@ConfusedNT
Your post also has a ring of 'you made me do it', 'you wound me up so I had not choice' etc that comes with male aggression and violence of abusers. Along with a hint of separating your boyfriend from his family.
This is why I feel people on here either accidentally or purposely misunderstand me and take delight in it. What you wrote above is the very OPPOSITE of what I specifically wrote in the OP where I said all of my actions were absolutely NOT an excuse for what I did. Did you not see that part of my post?
@HushLittleBabyDontYouCry
I feel intimidated just reading that. What a horrible example of male violence. Really disproves the myth that gay men are somehow immune from toxic masculinity.
That's just ridiculous, sorry. Unless you think for some reason I am sitting next to you or in your immediate available vicinity, you're just exaggerating saying you feel intimidated, unless you think I have magic powers to jump through a computer screen at you? Contrary to what you might believe, I don't walk around through life randomly punching people on the street, in this situation I was pressed to a limit, and besides, unless I, or a family member was being physically attacked and hurt by a woman, I see no reason to be physically violent towards any.
@sparepantsandtoothbrush
I voted YABU on the basis that it's you. I couldn't even be bothered to read what you were offended about this time. You're just not very likeable are you!
Yes, this sums up a lot of things, and like I have said in this thread and others: That people see my username and automatically disagree with me, just because it's me, without even reading what I wrote, which is par for the course for me.
@Athena51
I haven't even read this and yes you're being unreasonable because it's you and being unreasonable is your raison d'etre.
Am I being unreasonable in coming to this judgment? Possibly, but I don't give a toss.
See above^^
Sorry, can't add any more for now, out of time. I don't think I will probably change anybody's minds here anyway (although I am in agreement with most people on here in this thread so I don't get why people are disagreeing with me)