To think it’s odd DH’s BF has blocked me?

[Merryoldgoat]

I’ve been with DH 17 years. He’s been best friends with ‘Sam’ since childhood. He recently moved some hundreds of miles away so we see him less.

I have very little contact with him outside of DH. However I sent him a video in October, a picture which was particularly relevant to a joke we share in November. Prior to that no messages since 2018.

He was down last week and I gave him a lift to the station and we chatted about DS who has ASD - Sam is a teacher and we talked about DS’s art (shockingly bad).

Yesterday I found a pic DS drew and it was sweet but dreadful so I sent it to him with a flippant emoji.

I realised a few hours later his profile pic had disappeared and I only have one tick - all other messages are two blues.

That’s a bit odd isn’t?

I’m obviously not hurt or upset, just a bit perplexed.

YABU - normal
YANBU - odd

Nothing should be too small or big to post here. Let it go I say again and have a lovely weekend. Some people are just blockers because of past experiences and too quick to block.

I have a friend that is similar it's odd with people at times

The point is... don't you have better things to worry about. You seem to be getting quite irate at simple questions which makes me think "thou doth protest too much".
As for the comprehension - isn't that why I am asking questions? They are not rhetorical.

My advice... ask him out right. He will be the one embaressed as he did the blocking.That way you don't look scared to confront things either. I would just go straight and ask.
Or ask your husband to ask.
Just say "did I do anything to offend you as I think you blocked me on....?" When he answers why say "ok" and leave it... or if its not that big a deal then leave it.

@Lovec Why are you still here? You think it’s trivial and not worth my time and I’m being disingenuous and apparently my answers don’t satisfy you. What’s the draw? What’s the point in asking me questions if you choose not to listen to my answers?

Did you ever find out?

Ah, the delightful MN pattern:
A: perhaps it's XYZ that is the issue?
OP: it isn't, that's not a thing for me.
A: Are you sure? Maybe it is and you just don't want to say.
OP: I'm sure. Here are the reasons: .....
A: See, you're obsessed! You protest too much, you're so ANGRY!

@Sux2buthen no! DH and I have decided that we’ll do a thing when he’s over next (but that’ll be a while) - less confrontational then.

He’ll say - Merry - send Sam a link to that thing you showed me the other day.

I’ll send it then say ‘oh it’s not gone through’ and we’ll see what happens.

Because we’re 13 you see 🤣

@HyggeTygge

thank you for such a succinct summary of some of the interactions 👌🏾

You just can’t win sometimes.

You never answered my questions.

I have only been on here less than a week so no...

I think OP(not sure what that stands for) can hardly hear the connotations in my voice considering it's text. She clearly feels threatened by what I'm asking in that she is getting so annoyed about what I ask.

Ffs @Lovec - why are you still here?

*@Sux2buthen no! DH and I have decided that we’ll do a thing when he’s over next (but that’ll be a while) - less confrontational then.

He’ll say - Merry - send Sam a link to that thing you showed me the other day.

I’ll send it then say ‘oh it’s not gone through’ and we’ll see what happens.*

Why are you doing this? Why not just accept that this bloke doesn't want to be messaging with you, and let it go.

Bore off, we want updates! If you don’t like it, there are loads of other threads to look at.

OP we look forward to uncovering the truth at some future point 😂

@Merryoldgoat some dafties are just thread killers 🤣 and have nothing better to do! Hopefully it's an innocent explanation, I'm sure it will be. I think you have a bigger issue you need to address, you have a stalker 😜 in the above post 💐

@ILoveYouMoreTheEnd

thank you. I don’t really understand people who continue to post on threads where they seem to a)think the OP is lying and b) don’t listen to the OP.

@Flowersinspringgrowwild

It’s DH’s birthday soon so he may come down then and we’ll find out. I may just say ‘Oi Sam - why did you block me?’ By that point 🤣 as DH wants to know as well.

Similar happened to me about 5 yrs ago with dh best friends dw! (If that makes sense) no fall out, never & knew why & totally random. Strange.

Been there and I was worried what I'd done etc but now I realise that it's not me, it's their problem and they should have been up front enough to say why. X

Couldn't agree more @ILoveYouMoreTheEnd x

@Merryoldgoat DID YOU EVER FIND OUT LO

Omg yes! What happened?!

Please come back and update us. I am WILDLY invested in this now. Not sure I’ll be able to sleep.

you’ve got me cackling “up there doing a still life with a recording of my voice saying ‘must do better’”

brought out my harbor seal bark cackle, scared the hell out of my poor cat

I'd block someone who was speaking about their own child in this way, even going so far as you have. To avoid being involved in it and do avoid developing a disliking for the person. It's just something I wouldn't do, it isn't my vibe.

Especially for an acquaintance I'd like to stay friendly with. Just stops them ruining it.

I'd be even more wary of a best friend's partner who opened a "back channel" to do this. Sometimes it's best just to maintain distance if an acquaintance gives off "potential problem" signals. Avoid drama, keep things simple.

As usual, various posters continue to infer all kinds of bollocks from the OPs story!

Blocking to me is an aggressive act, and says that you actively dislike someone and refuse to have contact with them. I wouldn't block anyone unless they were harassing me or I hated them.

That's the entire point of asynchronous messaging, that it's in each person's own time. I never have notifications switched on ever, and if certain people message a lot I just mute them. I don't see what the problem is in just not opening whatsapp/ignoring notifications/muting. Blocking feels extreme.

@GabriellaMontez

honestly - it’s exhausting. I can’t be arsed.

@Merryoldgoat

Did you ever get to the bottom of it?