To think it’s odd DH’s BF has blocked me?

[Merryoldgoat]

I’ve been with DH 17 years. He’s been best friends with ‘Sam’ since childhood. He recently moved some hundreds of miles away so we see him less.

I have very little contact with him outside of DH. However I sent him a video in October, a picture which was particularly relevant to a joke we share in November. Prior to that no messages since 2018.

He was down last week and I gave him a lift to the station and we chatted about DS who has ASD - Sam is a teacher and we talked about DS’s art (shockingly bad).

Yesterday I found a pic DS drew and it was sweet but dreadful so I sent it to him with a flippant emoji.

I realised a few hours later his profile pic had disappeared and I only have one tick - all other messages are two blues.

That’s a bit odd isn’t?

I’m obviously not hurt or upset, just a bit perplexed.

YABU - normal
YANBU - odd

Snap 🤣

Way to figure it out would be to see if your husband can see two ticks on messages he has sent to him. If he can’t you know he’s definitely changed his settings.

That’s what I just said!
OP you are very funny! 😄

If my friend’s DH was messaging me then I’d find it a bit odd but I guess it depends what sort of friendship you have.

I don’t think you’ve done anything wrong for him to dislike you, so I think it’s either an accident or he’s concerned about you messaging and how your DH would feel about it.

When you do message each other, is it both of you initiating the conversations or is it always you that messages first?

The stalker app strikes again

My best friend changed phone and kept accidentally blocking people.
We used to have to text her and tell her she'd done it again.

@toocold54

We don’t message much but back a few years ago we messaged a bit and both initiated at various times. Very mundane stuff.

Seriously - if you read my posts you’ll see how achingly boring the messages are. My DH might be upset he’s got such a boring wife.

@Babycakes6 I don’t feel funny - apparently I’m mocking my poor son. Don’t tell anyone but I’ve got him upstairs doing a still life with a recording of my voice saying ‘must do better’ on repeat.

There is obviously no justification for him blocking you unless you behaved inappropriately and from what you’ve described you didn’t. The thing is maybe he didn’t block you. Maybe there’s a glitch and it’s not gone through. It’s happened to me more times then I care to remember. But just own it, when you next see him ask him. Be lovely but firm. Until then put it to one side and don’t bother yourself.

I’ve blocked DH’s friends and even friends of friends, and colleagues tbh in the past because they messaged. Just sometimes people have a circle and can be more closed off than open. I don’t like to always be so open for new friendships even. Messages are intimate. I don’t like it all the time. And if someone texts me at the wrong time that’s it! Lol Don’t mind bumping into people and having a quick chat. It’s my personal time and not everyone should be allowed to disturb me.

that’s just my opinion though. I’m a serial blocker

Some of the replies on this thread 🙈
It is veryyy strange IMO. I wouldn't necessarily assume blocked though, doesn't one tick just mean the message couldn't be delivered? Would you send it again to check or not bother?

Has he just come off Facebook?

Or he's struggling at the moment and needs to not engage. All of that is not a slight on you

Blimey I'm amazed at some of the replies on this thread....

DS is 10. He's a bloody good little footballer and has a real gift for writing. However, he cannot draw for toffee. He'll admit that himself. He doesn't enjoy it, and isn't very good at it. And that's OK! Me saying he cannot draw is hardly me mocking him. It's just the truth.
He gets his art skills from me, I'm shit at it too!

What I meant was, it’s probably not anything personal at all. And all about him and how he manages his time, friendships, messaging habits. I really wouldn’t worry about it or ask him. Be happy (even if others set a boundary that doesn’t make sense) - and move on. He wasnt your friend so you haven’t lost him as a friend.

btw. I would never ever and have never blocked a friend. Just random acquaintances.

🤣🤣at the stilll life & must do better!

I’ve much preferred your responses to the ones claiming you’re mocking your son! People are so offended these days.

I think he's making his boundaries clear. He either doesn't want private conversations with you full stop, or he doesn't want conversations around this specific subject so is shutting it down. He might think it's mean to send him the pic mocking your son, or he might think hour putting him at risk professionally. He's thanked you gor the lift again via your husband. Drop it

@JudgeRudy he didn’t GET the picture. Just to be clear.

@StarDolphins thank you - you’re very kind.

@maddy68 no idea if he was ever on Facebook or even if he is - we aren’t friends on there and I’ve never thought to look.

@Milkand2sugarsplease thank you. There’s so much he’s amazing at. Unfortunately he’s got my artistic ability and singing voice but a wealth of utter brilliance that’s all his.

Some phones have recently lost the ability to accept WhatsApp messages, maybe he has one of these.

sometimes I can’t access WhatsApp if my storage full, sometimes I just can’t be arsed reading messages

I have nothing to add. Just commenting because I want to know if you ever find out why you were blocked.

Are you sure you didn't send him a naked selfie by accident? 😂

@Bookkeys

ding ding ding!!!

🤣🤣🤣

Christ I’ve been a bit sick in my mouth 🫢

@Merryoldgoat no worries. I'm a teacher in a school for children with ASD, learning disabilities and challenging behaviour. I have a classroom full of awesome talents!!

@Milkand2sugarsplease

my youngest is largely non-verbal and he’s started talking because of teachers like you ❤️

I thought this too

That was immediate first thought!

Yep, I'm definitely wary of it (and direct approaches from brothers, fathers which aren't about DP) and that is because of countless experiences over the years which have proved my instincts to be spot on.

Same in reverse e.g. my exes DMing my female friends out of the blue, and vice versa.