DDs bf round morning to night 7 days a week

[Safarigiraffe]

DD has a bf and past week cos he don’t like it at his house is round here morning to night 7 days a week, as much as me/DH like her bf we both feel this is far too much as we both work, need privacy ourselves & feel that instead of buying food for 4 we are now having to buy food for 5.
DD says they are just in her bedroom so what’s the issue & why we don’t want them round there however my DH wants me to talk to her again to make her understand that whether in her bedroom or not it’s too much for us for him to be here in this way. DD is now upset with us both.
I get what my DH is trying to say but don’t want DD to feel like we don’t want her bf round (we was thinking maybe 2 times a week)
So anyone out there have any good advice
Just to add DD/BF are both 19 years old so who is being unreasonable here - DH/‘E for thinking it’s too much every day morning to night 7 days a week or DD who thinks as they are just in her room & not bothering anyone to leave them be

Are they back at college now?

So they order takeaway but you pay. Now they’re cooking for just themselves. Do you see that as progress? A few times a week of just dinner would be more than enough for me. I wouldn’t want anyone outside the family there all day & every day either. As for 3 meals a day, takeaway, & snacks, they saw you coming! You & your H need to speak to them both together, he shouldn’t be hiding behind you.

Yes, don't let your husband leave you to sort this all out!

@MichelleScarn

YYY - the spaghetti meal was a direct challenge following the recent pulling of rank by the OP in her own home.

OP, you need to wake up. The DD and BF are flipping you the bird here.

Was DD this defiant and disrespectful before she took up with the entitled CF boyfriend?

Why do you care if this manipulative little shit turns up for your birthday or not? Honestly your whole family come across as so immature and sappy. I would be telling this cocklodger in the making that no he is not welcome at all anymore. Of course your daughter will tantrum about this, but she will probably thank you for it if/when she grows up a bit.

I really think she could do with the breathing space to be her own person and having him there so much must be suffocating for her, even if she doesn't realise it. She needs time to see her friends, do her college work, look for a job, none of which you can do if there's a visitor constantly in your house, let alone in your bedroom. Teenagers don't often ask for help and sometimes can't even articulate to themselves how they're feeling. She's still developing emotionally and becoming her own person. For that she needs to have a range of things and people going on in her life. Don't let him stifle that.