Why do some parents do this?

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I've noticed more often that whilst on public transport, parents with young children handing them tablets playing annoying repetitive music or tv shows(always without headphones)- this morning I've had to endure Dora the explorer for 3 hours! Why on earth do people think this is okay? Or am I being grumpy?

I think people are less judgemental than want to go through life unmolested and unencumbered by other people’s noise and selfish, inconsiderate behaviour.

Also there is a lot of acknowledgement in this thread that ND children might have an excuse for screen time but no mention of the 15% of parents who are ND who might be overwhelmed/overstimulated and let their children use tablets so they themselves can disconnect/recalibrate for 20 minutes? None of us are perfect out here. A little compassion goes a long way. (But obviously everyone should keep the volumes on low, cartoons are annoying.)

House prices in northern Shetland are low! Go get yourself a wee Croft and live your life free from molestation. Should warn you though, sheep can be pretty inconsiderat.

Headphones. I go everywhere with them now.

Don't blame the kids. This is parenting.

People pull their face at parents and children doing this too, though! There really are some very weird people.

Yes I like talking to my children on the train, and when they were small it was fun to talk and play games. We still do it.

I think both generalisations would be wrong...but kids are kids and they should not be expected to behave lo Ike adults (or better by some people's standards) ...a degree of consideration for others is to be expected but to want everything and everyone to go your way for your own comfort is delusional...stay at home then if you don't want to be inconvenienced... For this particular problem a number of solutions come to mind, including...wearing headphones ( the behaviour she expected from the kids)

Very true...I got told by some staff in centerparcs " I know why you stopped at 2 (kids)" just because my son was being chatty... He was being engaging and polite, just very excited..I think the way people express themselves about kids is shocking, they'd never do that to an adult.

But I wasn’t talking about just me was I? I don’t have unrealistic expectations of children and their noise. I’ve had three. Nor do I have a ‘delusional’ view of walking through a world geared only to me…but thanks for that amateur psych evaluation! My point is very simple - if everyone played their part, wound their necks in and had consideration for others then it would be a win-win.

Folks who put their children, or worse, pets, on a pedestal to be fawned over and indulged at everyone else’s expense will inevitably cause frustration and ‘judgement’. No-one should have to wear headphones to block out prolonged and gratuitous noise coming from one indulged child.

And no, of course children won’t behave like adults, but it’s an abdication to not at least attempt to teach them how to behave in an adult world. But hey you crack on letting your kids piss people off and telling those that complain to stay at home. What marvellous morals you are passing on. 👍🏼

Well, I do think I am passing good morals on, and not worried in the slightest about that. Both my kids are well behaved, know structure and I always get compliments on how polite, kind and well mannered they are when they go to playdates and when I have schools parent's meetings..they are still sneered at when they are a bit noisy in public...they both have been over excited when traveling, and cranked up the "volume" in trains etc. It does not mean they are bad kids or I didn't try enough to keep them quiet. I think it would be easier for an adult to move seats, wear headphones, etc...but instead they come and complain to social media and internet forums 😂

Because we have a generation incapable of thought silent contemplation of the view and parents wanting to read phones not talk to children.