To tell all of you pushy parents how much you're damaging your CHILDREN?!

[AbsolutelydisgustedGCSE]

Yes, they're children. They're 15 years old and they don't know what clothes they want to wear, never mind what they want to do with their lives.
When I did my GCSEs, in a very strict independent school, the pressure was so bad that 4 of my schoolmates had eating disorders, 3 were pregnant, at least 3 had drug addiction and 2 turned up to exams drunk.
This was only 20 years ago.
My child is doing GCSEs this year and I've told them to try their best but, under no circumstances, to feel pressured into anything!!

Ok

The pressure to do well at GCSE resulted in pregnancies?

No, it resulted in rebellion

What's clothes got to do with GCSEs?

Nothing, as such, just that they haven't decided where they are fashion wise (changes every week) but are supposed to have picked a career

What sparked your post and why are you "absolutely disgusted"? I'd imagine that being at an independent school might have been a factor in where the pressure may have come from, no?

OK and?

I know this can be said about any thread but what is your actual point?

My five year old knows what clothes he wants to wear (not always what I would choose, but he definitely has opinions). If your fifteen year old doesn’t, I’m not sure your approach is really working.

No, it comes from the posts on here. Like the one pitting twins against each other. And the one complaining about the kid wanting free time

BTW, independent does not mean private.

Oh right, well I haven't seen either post so I had no idea what you were on about to be honest. You have mentioned pressure to do well at GCSE and career choice. Only two of my 10 GCSEs had anything to do with my eventual career choice, and they were both compulsory ones, so not something I chose to do for GCSE. I had literally no idea what I wanted to do. My year 9 dd is about to choose her subjects but has changed her desired career about 5 times in the past month. I've told her that she has to choose subjects she's both good at and enjoys.

Doesn't it? In what way are they different?

Indep is run outside of the council. Academies.

Independent

That is not independent in England, independent is the same as private.

All the private schools near me are called "independent schools". Are you not in England? I wonder why you made the point of saying you went to a "strict independent school" then. What was different about it compared to a state or private school that resulted in the pushy parents/rebellious kids situation?

www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/4713787-to-give-a-cash-reward-to-the-twin-who-gets-the-best-gcse-results

All my dcs knew what clothes they wanted to wear at 15 🤷‍♀️

If you want to have a go at pushy parents why not post on the same threads as them?

www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/4714080-to-insist-on-science-gcses

I'm sure academics didn't exist 20 years ago

Please tell me its a spiderman outfit with billowing red cape. I love seeing little ones dressed like that in the supermarket

OP, there are different parenting styles throughout the world. One person's freedom is another person's feral. One person's discipline is another person's laziness and lack of parenting. Dont be so judgy.

All my dcs knew what clothes they wanted to wear at 15

My 9 year old has very strong opinions about what clothes she wears.

Indep is run outside of the council. Academies.

A majority of schools are not under council control but they are still state schools. In the UK (and most countries) an independent school is a private school.

I wouldn’t blame only pushy parents for rebellion. My DM never pressured me to do my homework, or to study, or basically anything. No emotional support at all and obviously I rebelled. I would of loved for her to push me to do my homework or to study (I actually did good in school but I could have done so much better). And then my DH grew up with plenty of emotional support but wasn’t pressured in doing anything and he made a lot of bad choices with education. Went to Uni to study astrophysics, went into a lot of student debt because he was basically partying all the time (as some do), and failed! After 2 years came back home with no degree. Also to this day he can’t make much decisions on his own, asks ne such silly questions such as how to cook something when it shows on the packaging, where this or that or everything is, if he should hoover after DD has gone to bed, literally things he could decide or look up for himself. He also never buys himself clothes, complains he has no clothes but doesn’t buy anything for himself. So I think pressure can be good sometimes and doesn’t always end up in rebellion.

Must admit was a bit "WTF has pregnancy got todo with wanting to do well at GSCes myself on reading your OP, but get where you're coming from with this.
I have two teens, one taking GSCEs this summer and the other about to hit 20s 😳😭
I know from experience the harder you come down the worse they play up. I obviously want them to do well, but I've always said it doesnt matter how you do, as long as you tried your hardest that's all that matters.

I just had a reap of the OP and it's the kids asking for the cash reward themselves..