Dd playmate friend now bulling dd on state of our house

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I can't get my head around this. Dd is in year 3. Her friend is 7. She came for a playdate about two months ago. Dd has just told me that her friend has only now started telling people about our house. Dd shares a room ( she is one of four). We live in employers cottage in an extremely money area.

I could understand it if 1) the kid was older 2) it was straight after the event.

How does a little kid get so snooby and nasty about money / size of house so young? Why has it taken two months to become bullying material? I won't be ever having that child in my house again but it's now made wary of any play dates. Dd is my youngest. Never had this angle of bullying before.

I'm sorry but no. "Semantic" makes absolutely no sense at all in that context. You can't be semantic - it's not an adjective relating to humans, it's an adjective relating to words or phrases. You're not a word/phrase, you can't be "semantic".

This. Agree @GentlyBen

Sorry @Begoniasforever but you're incorrect as has been pointed out several times now. You cannot mind as you were quick to point out the OP's errors. Too quick in this case.

All those saying ‘it’s true though, it’s not bullying’ - don’t you know it can be true AND bullying? 🙄 what if they were saying someone fat was fat. True, but not nice to say. Can you really no imagine some kid bullying by judging their house?

And 8yr old girl sharing with a 10 yr old boy will be seen as odd by some people.

Presumably the OP’s family don’t have a lot of choice, so it would be a perfect opportunity for a child to learn that other people have different circumstances and that it’s rude to voice a judgment.

I’m not going to sit an argue it but it’s clearly semantics, as I was pointing out to the op that the meaning of the word draws is not what she thought it was. Draws was the wrong word used. She meant drawers

How embarrassing for you 😂

I don’t think schools often take bullying seriously enough tbh. Oh it’s just kids, it’ll blow over, seems to be the refrain.

If I ever heard my kids were behaving like that, like the bully is I mean, they’d be in big trouble.

You mean “to be pedantic”, I presume.

But yes, the item if furniture is a CHEST OF DRAWERS. The alternative is nonsense. 😆

Some young kids get snobby real quick and I can only assume it comes from home.

A boy in DS's class is dreadful for it. He often tells the parents, never mind the kids, how much bigger their garden is or how much nicer his Mum's car is and will say things to the kids like 'I wouldn't be seen dead your Mum's car'.

He also likes to talk about the other boys Mums being fat or ugly.

It's really annoying and if it continues it might be worth speaking to her parents.

…of furniture

Oops! Wish we had an Edit Function on the forum. Sigh…

Teehee. Time for an “Oh dear.”

Don’t be silly. We are being helpful. In addition, your revolting swearing is not big and not clever.

It's not kind or pleasant and it might be upsetting your DD but that doesn't mean it's necessarily bullying. I've had kids come into my house and exclaim 'god your house's a messs' (they were actually just referring to the laundry room which had some unfolded clean clothes in it... the rest of the house was tidy). Obviously it's rude and I'd teach my DC not to make those kinds of comments but the 7 year old didn't actually mean any harm. Even if the girl was being deliberately mean it's not necessariy bullying. Kids do unfortunately say mean things to each other after falling out or over petty greivences. Unless it's a sustained issue I would just focus on building up DD's resilience. Let her know the other girl was very wrong to say such rude things about her house and she has nothing to be ashamed of. Maybe help her find ways of dealing with these comments.

I’m not going to sit an argue it but it’s clearly semantics

How embarrassing indeed. Semantics is not correct in the context you've used it. Several posters have explained to you now.

I was pointing out to the op that the meaning of the word draws is not what she thought it was. Draws was the wrong word used. She meant drawers

We know that. Now the boot is on the other foot, so to speak.

Oh come on, unless you're a complete moron you don't seriously believe you're being helpful. This is a casual forum. Not a year 7 English class. Some people want to tap out a quick reply on their phone without checking. If people wanted to improve their SpAG they'd look at some free resources online not rely on sanctimonious mumsnet posters.

FYI:

“Pedantic is an insulting word used to describe someone who annoys others by correcting small errors, caring too much about minor details, or emphasizing their own expertise especially in some narrow or boring subject matter.”

To be semantic is like saying to be pacific. Lol

It’s perfectly acceptable to correct people on their vocabulary if their entire comment was a snarky correction of the OP’s spelling. If people weren’t hypocrites then they wouldn’t get called out.

DC's teacher once showed me the daily diary of his friend in class. The friend had been on a playdate to our house, and wrote

 "The Bazookas live in a library  and are very poor. They have no carpets."

So much for my lovely old stripped, sanded and waxed floorboards then...

Draws is not the plural of the verb to draw. It's the third person singular.

If we're being semantic about it 😜

being fasceeshus

It does seem a bit of a stretch to call this bullying.

Precisely!

Haaaa grammar police shoots themselves in the foot. The shame.